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追求不公平

2011-09-26T00:01:00.002+08:00

如果你知道，这个世界的潜规则，你就知道，真正的人生道理，和你所知道的往往完全相反。比如健康问题中的米饭问题、水的问题、呼吸的问题，等等。

而关于成功这个问题，大多数人或许从未搞清楚。

无论是我们所看到的世界，还是大自然本身，这个独特的潜规则，都是我们必须明了的。

大自然真正的规律叫做：物竞天择，适者生存！所谓成功，其实，就是追求不公平的待遇。不公平的，独有的、特别的生活方式、自由、生活品质等等。

你必须深刻明白，不公平才是这个世界的潜规则。任何等待公平的人，都会死的很惨。你可以公平地对待别人，但是，你千万不要期盼公平的待遇，相反，不公平，正是你需要的。

公平是社会次序的愿望，是人类发明的一种稳定社会结构的管理办法。但是，那是表面的，真正在运作的，却是不公平的。所以公平是一个理想，但是不公平才是事实，面对这个事实，你才能够清醒，才能够明了，才不会犯傻，才能够主动把握命运。

不要要求公平，接受不公平的待遇是迈向未来的关键。成功，就是获得不公平的生活和待遇，既然你想超越别人，成为独特，成为上天的宠儿，你就必定是一个要追求不公平的人，而你却在那里要求公平的待遇，公平是留给山羊的，留给待宰的“家猪”的，家猪们要求获得公平的待遇，家猪们要求得到同等的食物，家猪们要求被宰的时候，是有次序的，笨蛋，原本是个山猪，可以自由在山林里，想吃多少自己决定，想做什么自己决定，却追求公平。

蚂蚁不会和大象讨教公平，兔子不会和老虎讨教公平，他们只会奋力争取，获得自己生存发展的机会。接受不公平，是每个人从迷糊到清晰的关键之门，接受一个定义：“人生既是不公平”

接受不公平，不是任命，恰恰相反，是懂得面对，懂得要争取而非等待，懂得要努力而非祈求，懂得命运要自己追求，而非别人施舍，懂得幸福的人生，需要你比别人付出更多，面对更多，担当更多，也就是说，只要你愿意“更多”接受不公平，你才可能成功，才可能获得不公平的，成功的生活。

这也包括，你接受了比别人多的挑战，比别人多的考验，比别人多的受到压力、甚至歧视，比别人多的经历了磨砺。所以换个角度，上天其实是公平的。只是，在某个层次上的艰难，是换取另一个层次的幸福所必须的。这就是潜规则，一个深层次的公平法则。

所以，死了这条心吧，别再说，怎么对你不公平，怎么别人可以如何，你不可以。很简单，你还不够资格过上好日子，你还需要更多的不公平。

上天可以要求你，你不可以要求它。老板可以要求你，你不可以要求他。你的路，就是学会配合。

别站在那里傻等，上天从不可怜弱者，别站在那里期待公平，公平是留给那些对命运无能为力的人的，想要不同的人生，就要自己寻找公平。

自己的命运，自己把握。公平在你自己手上。

以安全为名

2010-12-23T00:09:00.007+08:00

站住！以安全为名，你将接受检查。请你解释，你为何走的这么快？为了安全，我们有权限制你的自由。

坐下！以安全为名，我们将给你一个警告，不要在夜里出门看月亮，你必须放弃浪漫30年，直到你不再美丽，可以安全地走在大街上。

以安全为名，妈妈镇重警告你，不要相信陌生人，尽管大部份人并无恶意，但你必须放弃真诚和信任，以免上当。

不要相信那个能干的男人，以安全为名，能干的男人有可能会欺骗你，你应该嫁给老实人，尽管他不会让你高兴，因为不会哄人，他也不会让你幸福，因他不能干。但是，以安全为名，你还是嫁给他罢，不管怎样，毕竟，安全。

不要去冒险，不要离开我的视线。尽管眼前的工作毫无前途，也没有价值，更不能满足生活的精彩，但是，以安全为名，你不能去冒险啊，就让人生50年一片空白，就让生命如同白开水，就让一生没有值得回忆的故事，毕竟安全，以安全为名，就放弃那些希望罢。

不要做你不熟悉的事情，你需要的是安全，看看别人，一切都那么稳定，多让人羡慕啊，哪象你，漂泊不定，虽然有让人妒忌的生活经历，虽然你经历了独特的生命，虽然你正在走着几个世纪都难有的一次体验，但是，以安全为名，你放弃罢，还是稳定的好。人，毕竟是活给别人看的，自己多少欣喜，都不能显耀，还是现实点好。

别再往前走，以安全为名，我警告你，你该成为符合你的身份的那种，符合人民的要求。我知道，你活的自在，自由，也活出自己的个性和精彩，但是，不安全，就该放弃。

以安全为名，剥夺你的自由的生活，放弃你浪漫的思想，不要再去探索，不要去冒险，你已经付出不少代价，稳定点，安全点不好么？给大家一个交代。大家都放心点。不要那么有思想，那么异类，投降吧，同化了吧。让我们放心----至于你活的是否精彩，不关我们的事情，那些事情我们很向往，可是不安全，我们得不到，也不想你去做。

以安全为名，让一生，静静地消失。来没有人记得，走，没有人想起。

人生，没有对错与好坏，只有，选择，选择的动机，来自，对生命的热爱程度。那些庸俗不亢的人，会不断地提醒你放弃，以安全为名。

这个世界，所有痛苦的来源，以及一切的平庸和无聊，总以安全为名。而你，也就这样努力地做着，自己不喜欢的事；爱着，不爱的人；过着，不快乐的日子。一切，都以安全为名。

文章引用自：林海峰

胃有"十怕"

2010-08-06T13:44:00.003+08:00

每天三餐进食，都得靠着肠胃系统的消化，才能让身体获得足够的营养成份，所以肠胃道的保养是件非常重要的事情。现在我们将古人防胃病的秘诀介绍给各位朋友。

以下就是「胃有十怕」：

一、怕精神紧张

一个人在紧张、烦恼、愤怒的时候，其不良的情绪会通过大脑皮质扩散到边缘系统，影响植物神经系统，直接导致肠胃失调，而分泌过多的胃酸和胃蛋白?，使胃血管收缩、幽门痉挛、排空障碍、胃黏膜保护层受损，造成自我消化，形成溃疡。长期抑郁、焦虑或精神创伤后，易患溃疡病。

二、怕过度劳累

无论是体力劳动或是脑力劳动，如果疲劳过度，都会引起胃肠供血不足，分泌功能失调，胃酸过多而黏液减少，使黏膜受到损害。

三、怕酗酒无度

酒精本身可直接损害黏膜，酒精还能引起肝硬化和慢性胰腺炎，反过来加重胃的损伤。

四、怕嗜烟成癖

吸烟可促使胃黏膜血管收缩，减少胃黏膜的前列腺素合成，这是一种黏膜保护因子。吸烟还能刺激胃酸和蛋白质的分泌，加重对黏膜的破坏。

五、怕饥饱不均

饥饿时，胃内的胃酸、蛋白质无食物中和，浓度较高，易造成黏膜的自我消化。暴饮暴食又易损害胃的自我保护机制；胃壁过多扩张，食物停留时间过长等都会促成胃损伤。

六、怕饮食不洁

幽门螺旋杆菌感染是胃和十二指肠溃疡的重要诱因之一，在溃疡病人中，该菌的检出率高达70%~90%，而溃疡病治愈后，该菌亦消失。溃疡病人可通过餐具、牙具以及接吻等密切接触传染，不洁的食物，也是感染的原因之一。

七、怕晚餐过饱

有些人往往把一天的食物营养集中在晚餐上，或者喜欢吃宵夜或睡前吃点东西，这样做，不但造成睡眠不实，易导致肥胖，还可因刺激胃黏膜使胃酸分泌过多而诱发溃疡形成。

八、怕狼吞虎咽

食物进入胃内，经储纳、研磨、消化，将食物变成乳糜状，才能排入肠内。如果咀嚼不细、狼吞虎咽，食物粗糙，就会增加胃的负担，延长停留时间，可致胃黏膜损伤；另外细嚼慢咽，能增加唾液分泌，而使胃酸及胆汁分泌减少，有利于胃的保护。

九、怕咖啡浓茶

咖啡、浓茶均为中枢兴奋剂，都能通过反射导致胃黏膜缺血，使胃黏膜的保护功能破坏，而促成溃疡发生。

十、怕滥用药物

容易损伤胃黏膜的药物主要有三类：一是乙醯水扬酸类，如阿斯匹灵；二是保泰松、消炎痛、布洛芬等非甾体抗炎药物；三是皮质类固醇等激素类药物。故应尽量避免应用这些药物，如必须服用时，药控制剂量和疗程，最好在饭后服用。

希望大家能好好避开「胃十怕」，长保肠胃健康

请检查看看, 我们随身携带几根火柴棒 ?

2010-07-25T13:13:00.005+08:00

一根火柴棒价值不到一毛钱. 一栋房子价值数百万元..

但是一根火柴棒却可以摧毁一栋房子. 可见微不足道的潜在破坏力,

一旦发作起来, 其攻坚灭顶的力量, 无物能御.

要叠一百万张骨牌, 需费时一个月, 但倒骨牌却只消十几秒钟 .

要累积成功的实业, 需耗时数十载, 但要倒闭, 却只需一个错误决策.

要修养被尊敬的人格, 需经过长时间的被信任, 但要人格破产却只需要做错一件事.

一根火柴棒, 是什么东西呢 ?

它就是下列四项 :

1. 无法自我控制的情绪.

2. 不经理智判断的决策.

3. 顽固不冥的个性.

4. 狭隘无情的心胸.

请检查看看, 我们随身携带 几根火柴棒 ?

穷人的习惯

2010-06-08T02:57:00.005+08:00

从前有一个穷人，很穷，一个富人见他可怜，就起了善心，想帮他致富。

富人送给他一头牛，嘱他好好开荒，等春天来了撒上种子，秋天就可以远离那个“穷”字了。

穷人满怀希望开始奋斗。可是没过几天，牛要吃草，人要吃饭，日子比过去还难。

穷人就想，不如把牛卖了，买几只羊，先杀一只吃，剩下的还可以生小羊，

长大了拿去卖，可以赚更多的钱。

穷人的计划如愿以偿，只是吃了一只羊之后，小羊迟迟没有生下来，日子又艰难了，忍不住又吃了一只。

穷人想：这样下去不得了，不如把羊卖了，买成鸡，鸡生蛋的速度要快一些，鸡蛋立刻可以赚钱，日子立刻可以好转。

穷人的计划又如愿以偿了，但是日子并没有改变，又艰难了，又忍不住杀鸡，终于杀到只剩一只鸡时，穷人的理想彻底崩溃。

他想：致富是无望了，还不如把鸡卖了，打一壶酒，三杯下肚，万事不愁。

很快春天来了，发善心的富人兴致勃勃送种子来，竟然发现穷人正就着咸菜喝酒，牛早就没有了，房子里依然一贫如洗。

富人转身走了。穷人仍然一直穷着。

很多穷人都有过梦想，甚至有过机遇，有过行动，但要坚持到底却很难。

性格形成习惯，习惯决定成功。

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好的习惯使人成功，坏的习惯使人失败，如此一个不用成本却能翻身的机会却白白的丧失真是让人为他觉的可惜。

曾听过一句话「黎明前的一刻总是最黑暗的，成功的前一刻总是最磨人的，若能熬过则天明、成功就在眼前」。

而成功者与失败者最大的不同处在于，成功者订立目标后勇往直前，碰到困难时改变方法再接再励，而失败者订立目标后若一碰到困难则改变目标改变方法，计划永远赶不上变化。

没有行动的爱不是真爱

2010-04-17T01:41:00.006+08:00

有一位老人，收藏了许多价值连城的古董，老伴早死，留下三个孩子，长大都出了国。

孩子不在身边，所幸还有个学生，跟出跟进的伺候。

许多人都说：「看这年轻人，放着自己的正事不干，成天陪着老头子，好像很孝顺的样子。谁不知道，他是为了老头子的钱。」

老人的孩子们，也常从国外打电话，叮嘱老父要小心被骗。

「我当然知道！」老人总是这么说：「我又不是傻子！」

老人死了。律师宣读遗嘱时，三个儿子都赶回来，那学生也到了。

遗嘱宣读之后，三个孩子都变了脸。

因为老人居然糊涂到把多半的收藏都给那个学生。

「我知道他可能贪图我的收藏。」老人的遗嘱写着：「但是在我苍凉的晚年，真正陪我的是他。就算我的儿子爱我，说在嘴里、挂在心上、却不伸出手来，那真爱也成了假爱。相反地，就算我这位学生对我的情都是假的，假的帮我十几年，连句怨言都没有，也就应该算是真的！」

所以，如果你真要付出爱。请伸手去做，别空口去说。

因为....没有行动的爱不是真爱！

人们可能会忘记你所说的，忘记你所做的，但他们不会忘记你所给他们的感觉。

感悟:

在不了解他人之间的状况不时不给予任何的评断，以免有时关心反而会好心做坏事反而让真心付出的人心中受创。

没有行动的爱不是真爱…就算是假的爱但经过行动后也能成真，老人临终的遗嘱说出了现代人的一种通病，而这个通病。

不能说这些人不孝，而是有些人因为工作或求学而远离家乡无法就近照顾父母，或许这些人会固定寄钱回家，或电话嘘寒问暖，但老人家最终还是希望孩子有时间能多多陪伴他们，记住老人的话：没有行动的爱不是真爱。

我的目标就是要拥有这个世界上最多的时间，挑战难免，克服它，因为，时间是世界上最难赚取的一个单位。富顺，你一定要坚持。

穷人关注问题，富人关注目标

2010-03-24T18:23:00.001+08:00

世界上所有的事情其实都有自己运行的规律，我们不妨从今天开始观察一下，就会很容易看出周围哪些人将来一定会成功，哪些人将一事无成。

首先，不成功的人通常在事情还没有开始做之前，就会看到无数的问题，他们与目标之间似乎总是有一段很遥远的距离，因为中间永远隔着无数的问题。他们让这些问题顶在鼻尖上，遮住双眼，他们与问题之间的关系是很亲密的。他们习惯把精力和焦点放在问题上，热衷于寻找问题，甚至使劲抱着问题不放，有时让人不得不怀疑他们是否得了“问题上瘾症”，这种人根本不可能有剩余的空间和力量可以给自己的目标，在旁观者的眼中，他们的头脑里永远都是问题，而且都还显得非常真实，即便是其他人想要帮忙，也爱莫能助，连真诚想要给点建议的人，也无从下手。

反之，我观察到我身边各方面都很成功的人有一个特点，他们无时无刻都在关注目标，以至根本没有时间和空间给那些层出不穷的问题，周围的人羡慕他们的成就，还有不少人自叹自己运气不如。当我与他们闲谈深聊之后，才发现他们其实失败的经历一点不少，只不过因为他们眼中只有目标，所以总是忽略问题。这种人即便是身边的人不断地提醒他们前路有多少障碍，他们只会让自己的目标放得更大，同时也让自己变得比问题更大，以至这些问题都缩在脚下，他们明白自己需要的，只是一个一个去解决就好了，然后就能到达目标。

所以，总结一句话：“当你把问题当成问题时，这个世界净是问题；当你不把问题当成问题时，这个世界没有问题。如是者，不成功的人看到的净是问题，成功的人看到的只有目标。”

问题，给我们带来的只有恐惧，而目标给我们带来的是力量和勇气。任何事情都有如意的一面和不如意的一面，就看我们要选择哪一面了。如果我们选择去看不如意的那面，问题就会因被关注而显得巨大无比，人很容易因恐惧而变得悲观和无力，于是，整个世界的场景就会即刻变成灰暗无生机，充满坎坷。一件事情能否成功，是由不同的元素所构成的，假设当中只有1%的有利因素，另外的99%都是不利于自己的。如果我们不断地选择去寻找有利于事情发展的痕迹，哪怕是只有一点蛛丝马迹的可能性也不放过的话，那事情就一定会被一点一点地引向好的方向，反过来亦然，即使有99%是有利的，我们如果盯住1%不利因素一直钻进去的话，那事情也无法有进展。

我们每一个人都拥有一个头脑，它是一个很好的工具，但我们这个心灵主人如果没有拥有驾驭它的能力，事情就会变得很糟糕了。许多人以为自己每天都在用脑，其实不是，他们每天都被头脑使用，被头脑制造出来的念头不断攻击，好比一台电脑不受控制地跳出各种画面，运行着不知道是谁安装的程序，甚至到了夜晚该休息时也无法关机，假以时日，我们一定会因虚耗而筋疲力尽。我们的头脑虽然发达，但却常常不受管控，它喜欢自己制造问题并回答问题，麻烦来自它不具备区分答案品质的能力。我们因此常常被劣质的答案引导向错误的方向。除此之外，头脑喜欢回顾过去，展望未来，却不喜欢活在当下，它利用记忆和幻想中所得到的素材不断制造的思绪，而这些思绪与我们的身体结合所产生的反应，就是情绪，我们有时候高兴，有时候难过，有时候充满希望，有时候有担忧和恐惧，而情绪就好比清水里的泥沙，被搅起来后，就让我们看不清真相，每天我们都需要面对并决定很多的事情，在这种情况下，我们又如何能做出正确的决定呢？

无论是痛苦和恐惧，还是成功与快乐，都是需要时间的，真正能影响下一刻的，就只有当下这一刻。我们必须了解，头脑有一个特点：它只喜欢停留在 “过去”和“未来”，讨厌“现在”。然而，真正对于我们人生有用的却只有“现在”。所以，我们要非常警觉，不要被头脑利用，而是要学会用好它。有些人在遇到挫折时，不是积极面对，珍惜当下的时机以图创造新的局面，而是选择了无心工作，无心生活，关起门来，无所事事，让思绪翻江倒海，把时间完完整整地留给了自己的情绪，这恰恰是等于把营养给了痛苦，让问题无限地放大，以至它可以膨胀到可以吞没我们的地步。另外一种则是不停地幻想，期盼明天会有一个天神能出现，带自己走出困局，他们毫无目的地消磨时光，让生命在等待中流逝。

事实上，人的确是很容易陷入情绪当中不能自拔。训练我们的头脑为我们工作是一项长期的工程，我们应智慧地使用头脑，为美好的人生设计方案并执行有效的程序，为我们探测环境和地形，排除路途的障碍，而不是在我们努力成功的过程中不断地插播恐怖片，让我们因恐惧而停止前进的步伐。

想要成功，我们就要首先与目标建立亲密的关系，与其抱着那些暂时解决不了的问题担心和恐惧，不如抱着目标，把焦点放在探索成功的可能性上。这是我们每天都必须训练头脑干的事情。

摘自：雲莉雅的博客

总有许多事，会发生。

2010-01-28T12:04:00.007+08:00

你的愿望越多，你将遭遇的事情也就越多。如果你带着美丽的梦想，准备上路。在出发前，坐在我的脚边。听我说，准备好，在出发，否则你将一路收集痛苦。

准备好，不停的丢脸！这是你第一个要准备的，其实，当你还没有分量，没有人在意你的感受而你也不是能够把事情做的完美的人，所以，丢人丢脸是注定的。别在掩饰，也不要去维护你的脸，花那么大的力气，也保不住！还不如干脆轻松点，随时准备为丢脸而埋单。这样反而很舒服，随时准备说，哈哈，真丢人。

准备好，被人误会。我知道你一直为这样的事情烦恼，并且感到很悲伤。问题是，连你自己都还不清楚自己的动机和意愿，又如何让别人来理解？你想要的，其实不是别人的理解，而是顺从吧？误会的事，其实，每天都在发生。当你爱上一个女孩，你的本意是：哇，你好美哦，结果你却承担了要照顾她，直到把她照顾到难看，才算解脱了。误会总在发生，无论是你妈妈，还是你的朋友。所以，干脆认了，知道本来就应该有误会的，那么万一有人理解，就可以兴高采烈一回。

准备好，被人嘲笑。这很重要呢，因为，其实你也没有把握做好多少事情，而嘲笑你的人，心底里，也不轻松。所以，关于嘲笑的事，是应该的，你不会做饭，或者出的主意看起来有漏洞，这本来就会发生的，给人一次嘲笑的机会，给自己一次成长的机会。

准备好，有人背叛你。哦！这真的很伤心的，对吗？一次次被人背叛的感受，那种被出卖的感觉，现在还在你的心头萦绕。问题是，有谁真的和你签过约，告诉你他会怎么样对你吗？当行走在人生的旅途中，我们走到一个交叉口，你想走左边，他想走右边。这样就分开了。可能意见不同，可能想法各异，可能你觉得你被伤害了，觉得叫做背叛。可是我想说，感谢有人陪你走过了一段路，那断路，还好有他，留下了许多回忆，至于以后，你将会遇到新的旅伴。

准备好，去失败。因为这是注定的。因为所有有价值的事情，都是你无法把握的未来，失败正是一个探索的旅程，经过的山，走过的弯，都是旅程的一部分。享受这个独特的体会吧，所谓的失败，只是路程中，长的不好看的那一部分。

准备好，被利用。那似乎很不舒服，觉得自己被人耍了的感觉。尤其是那些本来装的很正经的人，某一天，利用了你。其实，我要恭喜你，我相信，在你被利用的过程中，你一定早已经换来了你要的某种东西。游戏突然停止，让你没有得到更多，有点觉得投资失误的感觉。其实你每被利用一次，你也就强大一次。上天其实很公平，总会开出另外一种模样的支票给你。

准备好，遭遇意外。说真的，这是你最需要准备的。实际上，有限的经验，远不能要你准确的预料什么，所以，意外，不代表事情不该发生，而是代表你预算的水平有待提升。意外的经历多了，预算的本领就增加，你就成为关键的人才了。另外，许多意外的事情，反而带来惊喜。

准备好，被孤立。孤独的感觉曾经吞噬着你的心，在黑夜掩盖了你的灵魂。而需要知道的是不是别人让你孤立，而是你选择与众不同，是必须经历的感受。

准备好，被拒绝。拒绝代表交易不成功，需要更改条款内容罢了，其实，无论在做什么，都在进行着一种交换。拒绝，代表着筹码的调整，除了金钱，在其他任何有关价值的部分，人们都会在内心中称量，只要提高你的价值，就可以增加各种交易交换的附加值。

好了，如果你准备好了，来我这里登记，这样的准备是你上路的通行证，也是你幸福与快乐的通行证，你将永远没有压力，也将享受人生。那些痛苦和失败的人，并不是比别人不幸的人，也不是比别人更差劲的人，成功的人遇到的麻烦比他们多的多。有痛苦和失败感觉的人，只是在上路前没有准备好的人，没有来我这里领取通行证的人。

好了，给你盖个章，准备好去受打击、受伤害、受痛苦、受孤立、受背叛、受欺骗、受刁难、受利用、受失败、受折磨。如果这些，你都准备好，都知道这是通往成功与幸福必须盖的章，那么成功与幸福就在那里等你。

10 Ways to Schmooze Your Way to Success

2010-01-13T23:15:00.006+08:00

Everybody knows that in this day and age, it's not always about what you know, it's who you know. During trying economic times like these, the key to landing your dream job is to stand out from the competition by showcasing both your talent and personality.

For a quick and painless networking experience, follow a few tips that will help you leave a lasting impression:

1. A handshake can make or break a first impression, so practice, practice, practice! Demonstrate your self-confidence and genuine interest by executing a firm shake.

2. Don't be shy! Attend events related to the industry that you're interested in and mingle. Whether you're waiting in line at the coat check or sitting up at the bar, you just never know who you might meet.

3. While chatting it up with people you've just met, be sure to talk about topics other than the industry you're trying to break into. Listen and ask questions. It's important to showcase your personality, and who knows, maybe you'll find out that you share common interests!

4. Don't be too pushy. When meeting someone new, don't simply shove your resume at them. Everyone knows you're talented, so establish a friendship first. After all, no one likes to feel as though they're being used.

5. When attending events, don't forget to ask for a person's business card or contact information at the end of a conversation. People love to know that others are interested in what they do, so chances are, they would love to continue talking with you, even if it's just via email.

6. That being said, be ready to hand out a business card of your own! Some may think that business cards are outdated, but it's a lot easier to remember to contact someone with a concrete reminder sitting in a coat pocket.

7. Stop apologizing. Too often, inexperienced networkers tend to apologize to those they're reaching out to. If you don't think you're worth their time, why would they? And more importantly, networking doesn't have to be a burden...just think of it as building new relationships!

8. People receive tons of emails each day, so it's easy to miss one. To make a more lasting (and tangible!) impression, send a handwritten note when saying "thank you." Even if it's a coffee date with a friend of a friend, a handwritten note adds a personal touch as you thank someone for their time.

9. Follow up. Again, potential employers meet new people every day, so it's important to stay on their radar by sending an email or making a call every few months. Just started a new internship? Finished an awesome class project? Let them know! It shows them you're gaining experience and reminds them that you're out there.

10. And finally, take a risk. Many people fear networking because they're afraid they'll be rejected. Such a fear will prevent you from meeting interesting (and interested!) people.

Source: http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/life/10-ways-to-schmooze-your-way-to-success-560867/

How many ways are you practicing this day? I'm on 8!

懂得付出的人最幸福

2009-12-30T23:48:00.002+08:00

有一句话说：「不能实践在生活中的信仰，就不是信仰。」如果你天天烧香拜佛、虔诚祷告，却不能对身旁的人付诸一点关怀行动，那么，你所做的一切又有什么意义？

从前，有个富贵人家的太太，经常带着许多鸡鸭鱼肉到庙里求神，希望神佛能够保佑她以及她的家人。

有一回，庙里来了一位智者，看见富太太的行为，就趁着富太太不注意的时候，把她带来供奉神明的大鱼大肉，分送给庙门口的饥民，接着，又把庙里的神像全部砸烂。

不久，富太太发现自己带来的供品不翼而飞，只剩下满地的神像碎片，感到非常讶异，问智者究竟发生了什么事？

智者解释说：「这些神像为了抢夺妳供奉的食物，争得你死我活，最后同归于尽。」「这怎么可能呢？」富太太生气地说：「你分明是在睁眼说瞎话，这些神像是泥塑的，怎么可能打架？」

「这就是了！」智者不慌不忙地说：「这些神像是泥塑的，又怎么会吃你带来的食物呢？」

说完，智者示意富太太往庙门外看去，富太太看见那些饥饿的游民们拿着她带来的食物喜悦满足地吃着，顿时豁然开朗。

可不是吗？如果我们不能爱人，又哪来的能力去爱神？如果我们不能为身边的人付出些什么，又该拿什么去献给上帝、神佛呢？

我们活着，就是为了给予。一个人富足与否，不在于他拥有多少，而在于他能给予多少。不管现在你遭遇到的人比你有着更严重的麻烦、更难走的道路、更痛苦的经历，而你能做的，就是去分担他们的痛苦，给予他们全新的盼望。

只有当你成为一个给予者，才能得到一些意想不到的收获。一旦你愿意把爱分送出去，不但能够自得其乐，还能自得其福。因为，福气不是祈求，而是付出！

真的，幸好，我选择的事业就是要付出，要给予，去帮助别人让他们生活得更好。

Vision: Help people to live better lives!

你和你的希望一样年轻

2009-12-24T11:06:00.002+08:00

能经常朝积极的方向努力，不但会更年轻，更快乐，还会--更成功。

麦克阿瑟是一位五星将军。在他担任太平洋联军总司令时，他的总部办公室的墙上挂着一块铭言牌。很巧的是，卡内基的办公室也挂着同样的座右铭。我想你一定很好奇它的内容为何。

你的信念会显示你有多年轻，

你的疑虑会显示你有多苍老；

你的自信多强就表示你多年轻，

你的恐惧多深就代表你多苍老；

你与你的希望一样年轻，

你与你的绝望一样苍老；

岁月会在皮肤上留下皱纹，

而灵魂的皱纹却是消极的心情刻下的。

这是十九世纪的一位犹太教长老，也是一位学者乌尔曼（SamuelUllman）所写的。

一直到今天，我还是觉得这是我看过的座右铭中印象最深刻的。

同样的两位职员，在同一家公司，同一间办公室，担任同样的工作，
为什么其中一人成天愁眉苦脸，一想到上班就烦；另一个人却活力充沛，常常兴高采烈，会提前到办公室，会投入工作到忘记了下班时间？

公司呢？多少公司的老板觉得奇怪，公司的待遇、福利都不错呀，为什么每年还有这么多人离开呢？

他们忘记了员工的真实感受。

他们希望对公司有信心（老板需常与他们沟通）；他们盼望受到尊重；他们渴望获得肯定。

愈开心愈成功

戴明的管理哲学可以用以下这句话说明：能将工作当成自己的，因而能享受到工作的乐趣。换句话说，愈开心就愈成功。听来真的令人振奋不已。

那么，我们怎么样才能更开心呢？

特别是在这千变万化、压力与日俱增的时代，应付工作都来不及了，还能开心吗？

如果我说很容易，那就是骗人的了。

最好的方法还是常常问自己，是充满自信还是常怀恐惧？

是充满希望，还是早已绝望？

是经常坚定不移，还是常疑虑？

能经常朝积极的方向努力，不但会更年轻，更快乐，还会--更成功。

这正是我们现在需要上的一堂课。

2009-12-07T23:51:00.005+08:00

献给我的朋友们（都差不多毕业了吧，呵呵）: 白头偕老的秘诀

听过黄鸿麟名字的人，我敢说大部分不是因他是沙田基督书院的校长，而是他的爱妻方法，大名远播。他在千禧年推出的处女作《护妻倾情四十八式》，令男士叹为观止，女士心生渴望，渴望自己的另一半仿效。书中他分享了48个独门的老婆秘方，创意十足。创意的背后，是四分之一个世纪的婚姻经验，还有业余修读辅导课程带来的启发。

启示１：芝麻绿豆酿成冲突

婚姻，最难避免的就是冲突。就算拍拖时如何甜蜜如何和平共处，结婚之后，芝麻绿豆的小事也可变成冲突，黄校长想不到的，只是冲突来得如此快……婚后第一顿饭，太太在厨房煮饭，并向客厅正在看报纸的他高呼：「收拾餐桌啦，准备吃饭呀。」

黄校长以超高速搬走桌上杂物，继续等上菜，谁知太太从厨房出来，竟然脸色一沉。「原来她娘家收拾餐桌的定义，不单只要搬走杂物，还要把桌子擦得一干二净、摆好餐具。但我由小到大，只知收拾餐桌就是搬走桌上的杂物。」诸如此类的分歧接踵而来……

有次太太对他说：「你不会拧毛巾吗？」他很懊恼，活了这么多年，没理由连拧毛巾都不懂嘛，原来太太一直是反手拧毛巾，他却相反。

这一切一切，给他带来许多启示：「在生活细节上，会发现彼此有很多不同，如不存体谅包容之心，任何一件琐事都可以成为冲突的导火线。」

启示２：别强迫对方改变

一段婚姻，需要夫妇俩不断学习怎样体谅、明白、包容一个人与适应。

「我处理过很多个案，发现婚姻破裂，都是因为欠缺这些观念。尤其人总是偏向主观，很多时会用自我的标准去衡量或规范别人。」

有天他忘记带车钥匙，太太说：「都叫你不要把车钥匙放在那儿啦。」事后他跟对方说：「『放在那儿』是我的习惯，如果我把车钥匙放在你指定的地方，只会有更多机会忘记。」

他发现，很多人结婚后不自觉要改变对方，小至挤牙膏、放物件等，都是有我无你，忽视了应尊重对方。

「很多小事本身没有对错之分，反省过后，就会看到背后动机，原来是想控制对方。这是没有必要的，因为爱人是要一起好好生活下去，并非要来控制的。」

启示３：事后沟通最紧要

他也承认，冲突是无可避免，最重要是事后沟通：「如放车钥匙这个例子，我们了解过彼此的想法后，决定属于我的东西由我负责摆放，属于她的由她摆放，到了要用时，只要问对方便可。」

至于拧毛巾这回事，经过他多番验证，证实反手确是拧得干净些，所以他也妇唱夫随起来。

夫妇间最常说的一句话是：「我要你这样做，都是为你好。」黄校长认为，凡事要看得远一点。

「是为对方好，还是为自己好？如果要对方不做这些事，可能会带给对方更多不舒服、更多压力，只会造成另一个新问题。」

启示４：维系婚姻有如保养玻璃窗

不过，并非所有事都有最后答案。记得新婚初期，他曾对太太说：「有没有搞错！用完厕所竟不把马桶盖打开！」对方的反应是：「有没有搞错！用完厕所又不把马桶盖放下！」最后小俩口后取得共识，就是马桶盖可开可阖。

「很多问题不在乎结果，只在乎有当时人怎么看。事实是没有改变，但了解后便不存在问题了。」

爱一个人，他认为最终可为对方牺牲。

太太习惯筷子横放，他习惯直放，迁就一下亦无妨。不过，如果只有容忍、没有体谅，婚姻一样可能会破裂。「我觉得婚姻问题就好似玻璃窗的灰尘，假如任其累积，清理便艰难；假如任其深化，就如裂痕出现，玻璃窗最终只会破裂。」

吵架的艺术

两口子还有个君子协定：

◎吵架当天清─ 一项归一项，绝不拖泥带水。
◎绝不翻吵─ 今天的架今天吵，昨天的事不翻吵。
◎旧事已过便已了─ 每一事件都看作一独立事件，绝不「株连」。

一般人结婚愈久，吵架时愈喜欢说：你上次……你上星期……没完没了的罪状，很容易演变成互揭疮疤。幸好，黄氏伉俪平日绝少吵架，每星期必做的，是抽空一起散步，谈谈内心话。

婚姻冲突的由来

婚姻为何会有这么多冲突？柴湾浸信会辅导中心主任黄丽彰说：「这是由于夫妇的情感距离拉近，很易把未了的心结、渴望激发出来。」

举例说，某君最不喜欢别人自我中心，如身边有个朋友自我中心，他不一定会太介意，因为彼此间还有一定的距离和容忍度。可是，当这个人与自己的距离如此贴近，内心便会出现焦虑，后期更会演变成指控、抑压。

冲突演变成创伤

婚后，是人生另一个阶段，也是冲突的开端。夫妇来自两个成长背景不同的家庭，很易因彼此生活习惯的差异而造成冲突；有子女后，又会因彼此对教养的意见差异，产生争执。若一个不小心出口伤人，更会演变为创伤。

男性方面，自我价值建基于能力之上，但太太竟说：『你无路用』，会使其自我根基动摇，造成伤害。就算太太有情绪的困扰，丈夫也会视她的康复为个人能力的表现，如太太继续不开心，男士一样会感到沮丧。

至于女性，自我价值建基于关系之上，如丈夫不重视她、刻意忽略她，她便会感到受伤，甚至整个自我价值崩溃。

明知男女大不同，何以不能避免对方受伤？

「人在受伤时，为了保护自己，会刻意针对对方最脆弱的地方来攻击，被攻击的一方又会还击，两人关系只会愈来愈恶劣。」如彼此自我抑制程度较低，往往导致离婚收场。

寻找心灵空间

黄丽璋表示，面对创伤时，要用当下的智慧避免继续受伤，尤其配偶不断用说话攻击自己，拒绝回应不失为保护自己的方法；之后给自己一个空间，思考怎样淡化怒气、回忆对方好的一面。再跟对方分享那一刻的感受。

2-Minute tricks that beat stress

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The next time you’re having a bad day (or week or month) take heart: you can perk up your mood quickly and simply. According to experts, life circumstances account for only 10% of happiness. Half depends on your genetic “set point,” which is kind of like the weight your body bounces back to after a crash diet. And about 40% of your happiness is influenced by what you do deliberately to make yourself. Here are a few easy tricks to try:

1. Flip through Old Photos

When you’re feeling down, break out your kids’ baby albums or pics from your favorite vacation. It may actually make you feel happier than a square of chocolate would! That’s what researchers at the United Kingdom’s Open University found after they examined how much people’s moods rose after eating a chocolate snack, sipping an alcoholic drink, watching TV, listening to music, or looking at personal photos.

The music and chocolate left most people’s moods unchanged; alcohol and TV gave a slight lift (1%), but the winner by a long shot was viewing pictures, which made people feel 11% better. To keep your spirits high at work, upload your favorite pics to your computer and set them as a rotating screensaver. Or splurge on a frame that flips through digital photos; amazon.com has plenty of options at a wide range of prices.

2. Munch on Nuts

Or sneak salmon into your salad for lunch. They’re both packed with omega-3 fats, which may make people less prone to depression—and easier to get along with, say researchers from the University of Pittsburgh. They measured the blood levels of omega-3 fats (a reliable indicator of consumption) of 106 healthy adults and gave them psychological tests. Those with the highest omega-3 blood levels scored 49 to 58% better on the tests than those with the lowest blood levels.

3. Inhale a Calming Scent.

In an Austrian study, researchers wafted the smell of oranges before some participants and lavender before others. The two groups felt less anxious, more positive, and calmer when compared with participants who were exposed no fragrance at all. Add a few drops of either oil to a room diffuser (we like the Scentball, available at amazon.com) and use in your office on stressful days

4. Open Your Shades

To feel happier in seconds, let the sunlight stream in when you first wake up.

One study of more than 450 women found that those who got the most light, particularly in the morning, reported better moods and sleep. Got more time? Eat breakfast near a window that gets plenty of daylight, and put exercise equipment near a bright view. Some researchers speculate that combining exercise with morning light exposure may amplify light’s beneficial effects on mood, sleep, and alertness, says Anthony Levitt, MD, a University of Toronto light researcher

5. Clear Away Clutter

For some, “clutter is a reminder of things that should be getting done but aren’t,” says Elaine Aron, PhD, author of The Highly Sensitive Person. “It can make you feel like a failure.” For a quick fix, straighten up a few surfaces in your office or in the areas of the house where you spend the most time. “It’s when every bit of space is messy that it’s most disturbing,” says Aron. Don’t bother to organize unless you have a chunk of time. Instead, arrange papers, books, and other detritus of daily living in neat piles or store them in baskets. “Just the illusion of order is enough to ease the mind,” she says.

6. Think Fast

Turn your thoughts into a race—it can lift the blues in minutes, says Princeton University psychologist Emily Pronin, PhD. For example, when your mother-in-law is driving you crazy, give yourself 30 seconds to make a list of all the ways she’s been helpful to you in the past—you’ll feel better fast. (If nothing nice comes to mind, quickly jot down other ways she bugs you; speed thinking negative thoughts can still improve your mood, Pronin found.) Researchers believe that rapid thinking may release feel-good brain chemicals—or it could just be a helpful distraction

7. Cue Up YouTube

Stanford University researchers literally saw this on fMRI scans, where they traced changes in brain activity to a region called the nucleus accumbens (NAcc), which rewards behaviors such as eating and sex (and laughing) by releasing dopamine, a natural opiate. When stress builds up or you feel as though you may snap at any minute, make yourself giggle: Watch a funny video clip online, or stop by the office of a wisecracking pal for a quick chat

8. Put On a Happy Face

Studies show that even muscular changes in your face can elevate your happiness, as can good posture, says Lyubomirsky. Call it the blush effect: To apply blush to your cheekbones properly, you need to smile. Smiling works, she says, because “if you act like you’re a happier person, you can experience all these positive social consequences. You make more friends. People are nicer to you. And these things can have real consequences.”

Source: http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/health/2-minute-tricks-that-beat-stress-544700/

不务正业

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个人的成长，其实多数情况下都是随缘。谁也不能够在穿开裆裤的时候，清晰自己未来的前途和职业。

所谓世事难料，真正的意识是一切都可能发生，也可能不发生。人生是个没有地图的旅程，你很难确定你最辉煌的日子，是从何时开始。是你现在的职业，还是你未来的口岸？

最大风险，不是去做新的尝试，而是守着旧的不放。每一个你所拥有的，通常都是一个负担。什么才是正业呢？

有些人十年前都是在外资企业里的红人，履历表上，都是很光鲜亮丽的公司做背景，出差有很好的补贴，收入有不错的来源，进出也都是很好的酒店、写字楼，可是脸上，总是有着某种不安、焦虑、茫然。随着年龄越来越大，这种感觉越来越重。究竟是什么感觉呢？他们无论是做HR、还是做营销都那么专业，却无法看到自己的价值，也无法确切地评估自己的价值，只好靠一些旅游的假期，弥补心中的遗憾。

也许，专业或者职业化，是多数人立世的筹码，但是，专业或职业化，可能也是生涯的围墙！因为生命的喜悦，其实始终来自于全然不同的体验，丰富的体验，才能够滋养内在的灵魂。所以，只有时时地不务正业，才能够走出那个围墙。

“半路出家”是我们形容很多非专业出生的人士的一种词语。很多行业的领袖都是半路出家，包括马云、潘石屹，包括微软的总裁比尔盖茨，而国际上各家公司的 CEO几乎90%都来自完全不相干的领域的人物。

原来“半路”的真正涵义，代表走了更多的路，而非笔直的一条路。这正是科学探索的道路。真正的科学从来都不停止这个脚步，总是不断地在否定与肯定中成长，在矛盾中确立方向。不务正业，是多数科学家得以改变历史的原因。

改变人生，需要有改变思维的勇气，而这种改变，总是难免要从传统的正路中突围，才可能开创出全新的世界。然而，当你一走出新的道路，就难免让那些在“正业”上行走的人感到恐惧，因为，这种显然的动作，意味着对现成的道路的反叛，这是令很多正统的人感到不安的。

不安！是最需要有勇气去面对的两个字。真正的勇气，不是面对老虎，而是面对不安。在正业里，无论人们多么感到无聊、单调、没有创意，无论多么痛苦、前途黯然，人们都会坚持，因为那是大家公认的正路、正业，一旦走一条新的道路，就会有很多人不安，也包括最初的你，因为，安，是多么充满诱惑啊！

敢于面对不安，敢于寻找生命的答案，这的确是不务正业的勇气。可是，谁能够知道，属于你的路，藏在哪里？你是选择走别人的路，让自己郁闷而死，还是选择走自己的路，让别人着急去吧？这实在即是一种智慧，也是一种勇气。

摘自与编辑:林海峰新浪博客

凡有的，还要加给他叫他多余；没有的，连他所有的也要夺过来。

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马太效应 (Matthew Effect)，是一个似乎最不公平的规则，在左右世界的十三的个法则中，最显得让人憋气。这个定律说：：“凡有的，还要加给他叫他多余；没有的，连他所有的也要夺过来。” (For to all those who have, more will be given, and they will have an abundance; but from those who have nothing, even what they have will be taken away.)

罗伯特·莫顿归纳“马太效应”为：任何个体、群体或地区，一旦在某一个方面（如金钱、名誉、地位等）获得成功和进步，就会产生一种积累优势，就会有更多的机会取得更大的成功和进步。而任何失败者，总是不断在抱怨，并且与失败者聚集一堂，过着越来越穷困的日子。

强者越强，弱者愈弱，一个人如果获得了成功，什么好事都会找到他头上。大丈夫立世，不应怨天尤人，人最大的敌人是自己。

每个人的行为，就像是一个信号，所发出的信息，将吸引着各种相关的因素。过去，我是一个非常节约的人，总是尽可能地购买便宜的东西，出门，也尽可能寻找最便宜的酒店。经常精打细算，总是能够找出在哪里可以买到最便宜的东西，吃最便宜的菜。

一切看似顺理成章，也符合传统美德，而我的宝贵时间，没有用来思考与创造，却用来精明地计较与比较。

一个喜欢计较与比较的人，无论怎么装，都会让人看出来。周围的人，也似乎一个比一个精，大家都很会算，彼此都以自己的厉害为荣为傲。然而，节约下来的钱，却总是不够用，生活一如既往地感到拮据，日子平凡而单调。所交往的人群，也都是那些看起来精打细算的人。好不容易出一趟门，去旅游，却因为舍不得花钱，浪费了许多时间在路上、在找酒店、找吃的、找便宜货的途中，最后，浪费了时间和金钱，换来的往往是不快乐，而不是令人难忘的体验，真是罪过。

这些都是20年前的记忆了。如今打开来看一看，都已经发了霉。那些跟自己一样精明的朋友，也都消失了。所谓的友谊，总会在一点利益冲突中，暴露出来，于是，很快也就变成了陌路。

刚刚开始创业的时候，不知不觉也把这样的风格带到工作中，总是让员工觉得老板非常厉害，什么都能够算得那么准，总能买些便宜的好东西。他们也耳濡目染地变成了很懂得计较的人。后来这些员工都自己做了生意——因为，可以多赚一点，多一点便宜。今天想起来，深感害怕，觉得自己亲自培养了许多很会算计的小商人。自己的心胸和格局，也不知不觉影响了他们的心胸和格局。作孽啊，我甚至跟自己的老师也曾经为了利益而计较过，甚至对那些帮助过我的人，也悄悄地计算过。

如今想起，满脸通红。原来，一个穷人，是可以怎样地制造出一套贫穷的思想和行为。想起来就后怕，如果一直沿着那一条路往下走，自己难免最终成为非常自以为高明，却无所作为的人。朋友最终难免分开，心中最后难免留下怨恨。

2002年是我改变的开始。我决定再穷，我也要保持住在四、五星级的酒店里。我必须学会乱花钱，学会花钱的时候，不再算计。学会告诉自己，大的思想与格局，必定来自一种气质——一种富人身上才有的气质。这种气质，就在于不在小事情上浪费时间，更不在小人身上浪费时间，把时间用来跟那些比自己更强的人，更富有的人在一起，才能够学会掌握财富和命运的关键。

这并不容易，一个习惯了要去算的人，开始不再计算。这个过程，经常是天人交战。明明有便宜可以沾，你沾么？明明可以不吃亏，你吃么？花钱的时候，多考虑一下吧，讨价还价吧，便宜点吧？

我终于知道，那些过去沾到的便宜，都是以损害我的气质为代价的，都是把我往小人的方向去培养的，都是让我注定不会有什么大成就的，都是让自己的自信心大打折扣的。我开始意识到，如果，花钱能够买来一点点成长，哪怕是做事情果断了一点，待人宽容了一点，在朋友间显得大方了一点，自信心增加了一点，都是可以让我的成功增加几倍的。

云莉雅对待我的方式，给了我许多深刻的感受。她的信任和慷慨，让我觉得自己的小气和算计。她的大气触动了我的灵魂。潘建东更是刺激了我，他在第一次见我的时候，居然送了我一整个房间的水果！天啦，我还有那么大的距离。我是很有才，但是我却没有运用这个才能的心胸。我知道，决定我的命运的时刻到了，我必须改变。

反思与反省，是我为数不多的优点中一个关键的力量。这股力量开始引导我重新审视自己的行为模式。

我开始审视那些买来的便宜东西。我发现，不论多便宜，这些东西都成为你的一个符号，成为你生命的一个诠释。我开始发觉，当你穿着仿冒的品牌服装的时候，你整个心灵收到的信号，绝不是自信，而是不安。我才意识到善有善报，才意识到，其实，内在的自信，来自每个行为所带来的感受。

难啊，毕竟我曾经只是个穷人的孩子。父母虽然都是大学生，可是在他们那个年代，实在不能够给孩子带来富人的思想和气质，只能够培养斤斤计较的本领，精打细算的水平。可是，我已经知道了穷人与富人之间的差异，我必须改变我的命运，我必须从每一个行为中去矫正，尤其是我的花钱模式。

2003年，是我创造奇迹的一年，那一年的成就，让我一直享用到今天，并且为今后的发展打下了牢固的基础。而其中，最大的突破，就是对待金钱的态度。在那一年，我和太太一起参加汇才的培训，前后共花了10万元的学费。而我在已经口袋空空的时候，又挤出仅有的钱，去了新加坡，参加安东尼罗宾的课程，三天就花了四万。有人问我学了什么？我还真的很难说，他的课程有许多居然和我讲的是一样的，连吃的都一样——一样不吃米饭，一样补充营养食品，一样在演讲的时候，只吃简单的蔬菜水果。

可是，我知道，只要有一点点帮助，哪怕只是见识一下，都值得我花这笔钱，因为，我才是最重要的，我必须用所有的收入去打造一个有心胸、有能力、有见识、有格局的，注定可以成功的人。我不改变，天下都不会改变，我改变了，一切也就随我改变。

这个过程并非一下全部做到，中间难免在利益和金钱面前犹豫和反复。但是，沿着这个道路和方向过来了。2004年，收入涨了20倍，开始装得很大方地买下了一栋栋房子，并且尝试着乱买，不问价格，不问用途，瞎买，买了昆明的房子、九寨沟的别墅和店铺，成都的、重庆的。我越来越发觉，钱就是个工具而已，我开始知道，花钱不是重点，用钱才是关键。

从此开始愿意让人沾便宜，但是不再浪费时间交往贪便宜的人，那些爱沾小便宜的人，一辈子都很便宜。我也不去参加便宜的培训，不去住便宜的酒店，开始乱花钱。买狗，买松鼠、买鸟，买兔子，开始带着助手看电影，带着他们到处玩。开始为朋友做点什么！

原来生命的奥秘是这样的，原来我们可以自己过得很富有，还可以帮助别人。于是有了阳光森林，于是有了与德国合资的INUS中心，于是，一切都在越来越好。

旧有的勤俭节约的品质，烙印在心中，新的金钱思想又不断形成。这就是成长的过程。没有对与错，只是在于你想成为什么样的人。什么样的用钱观念，造就了什么样的人！

我不断地提醒自己，重要的不是赚了多少钱，而是如何去用得有意义——而真正有意义的事情，从来都是些看不到、摸不着的东西——一次与高人相聚的机会？一段记忆深刻的旅行？一个贵而严厉的培训？或者，那一晚，贵的离谱，但是可以终身难忘的晚餐？

我要重新规划我的人生，把我剩下的钱，通通花光。可惜，花光这些钱，还得学会很多新玩意，要不，也真不容易。

别跟爱你的人计较，别跟你爱的人计较，别跟值得尊敬的人计较，别跟帮助过你支持过你的人计较，别跟在生命中鼓励过你，让你强大让你自信心增加的人计较。他们没有损失，但是你有。我不是教你挥霍，我在教你懂得用好自己的粮草！用你的钱，构建你的品格，构建你的生活圈，构建你的群，构建你的梦想。

这段话，写给我的助手和徒弟们，希望你们从今天开始，就培养自己富人的气质与胸怀，开始用你的钱，培养你的品质，培养你善待亲人的慈悲胸怀，培养你珍惜朋友的高贵气质，培养你追求浪漫的美好心情，培养你不怕花钱的自信心，培养自己哪怕身无分文，也不要输掉信心的大气精神，我正坐在江边，吹着和风，等着为你们喝彩。

摘自: 林海峰新浪博客

Network like a Professional

2009-10-21T14:59:00.003+08:00

Today I received an announce email from JobsDB, for those who have JobsDB's account most probably u are getting this as well. The advertisement is "Network like a Professional" . This is a networking skill seminar provided by JobsDB. Everyone know networking is important just like the following picture stated, important not only for social reasons but also for professional and careers purposes for you will never know if your next conversation can bring you success.

What I want to emphasize is that, networking is important but few of us know how exactly you can use this powerful tool to achieve what you want, yes, it is what 'you' want, not 'the other' want. Most of the people as an employee help their company and boss to use this tool to do networking. Yes, you are doing it for your company and it doesn't sound wrong because you receive paycheck every month from your company. So, what if you are leaving the company OR you are forced to leave, the network you'd done so far belongs to who?

Are you start networking (for yourself) today?

20 Questions You Should Ask Yourself Every Sunday

2009-10-07T16:23:00.005+08:00

At the cusp of new beginnings many of us take time to reflect on our lives by looking back over the past and ahead into the future. We ponder the successes, failures and standout events that are slowly scripting our life’s story. This process of self reflection helps maintain a conscious awareness of where we’ve been and where we intend to go. It is pertinent to the organization and preservation of our dreams, goals and desires.

If you would like to maximize the benefits of self reflection, I have 20 questions for you. These questions should be reviewed every Sunday morning or sometime during the weekend when you have some quiet time to think. Remember, reflection is the key to progression.

What did I learn last week? – If you have trouble answering this question, it’s time for a change. It doesn’t matter how old you are, you should learn something new every week.
What was my greatest accomplishment over the past week? – Reflecting on your accomplishments is a healthy way to raise self confidence and contentment. It’s also an effective way to track your progress.
Which moment from last week was the most memorable and why? – It may open up your mind to new passions and goals, or simple pastimes worth revisiting.
What’s the #1 thing I need to accomplish this week? – Everything else is secondary, and should be treated as such. Nevertheless, this question will also shine light on other noteworthy tasks.
What can I do right now to make the week less stressful? – Set reminders in your calendar, get your laundry done, fill the car with gas… organize yourself.
What have I struggled with in the past that might also affect the upcoming week? – The idea here is to learn from your struggles and better equip yourself for future encounters.
What was last week’s biggest time sink? – Steer clear of this in the future. Setup physical barriers against distractions if you have to.
Am I carrying any excess baggage into the week that can be dropped? – Physical clutter, mental clutter… eliminate the unnecessary so the necessary may shine bright.
What have I been avoiding that needs to get done? – Pencil in a time to get these things done. For any 2-minute or less tasks, consider scheduling them first thing Monday morning.
What opportunities are still on the table? – If it’s still available and you want it, make a concrete plan to go after it this week.
Is there anyone I’ve been meaning to talk to? – Regular communication can solve problems before they fester. Always keep an open line of communication to those around you.
Is there anyone that deserves a big ‘Thank You’? – Take time each week to thank the people who have helped you. Your kind gesture will not go unnoticed.
How can I help someone else this coming week? – The easiest way to get what you want is to help others get what they want. If you help them, they will remember you when you need help.
What are my top 3 goals for the next 3 years? – You’ll never make any progress in life if you don’t setup realistic goals for yourself.
Have any of my recent actions moved me closer to my goals? – If the answer is no, something needs to change.
What’s the next step for each goal? – Knowing the next step is the key to accomplishing the whole.
What am I looking forward to during the upcoming week? – The answer can act as a great source of motivation. If nothing exists, schedule something to look forward to.
What are my fears? – Consciously address your fears each week and slowly work on resolving them. It’s all about taking baby steps.
What am I most grateful for? – It’s a smart way to keep things in perspective, and something you should never lose sight of.
If I knew I only had one week to live, who would I spend my time with? – Another helpful reminder… Life is short. Spend more time with the people you care about.

Take 30 minutes every Sunday and give yourself the gift of self reflection. It has worked wonders for me, and I am confident it will do the same for you.

Posted by: Marc. Photo by: Cesar R.

我上周学到了什么? – 如果你回答不上来，就应当做些改变了。活到老，学到老。
我上周最有成就的事是什么？– 回顾你的成就可以提高你的自信心和满足感。这也是衡量你进步的方式。
上周哪一个时刻最值得回忆？为什么？– 这可能会给你新的目标与动力，也可能让你重温过去的美好。
我这周要做的头等大事是什么？– 头等大事指：除了这一件事外，其它事都要靠后的。这个问题，还会让你关注到其它有意义的事。
我现在怎么做才能让这一周不这么充满压力？– 在你的日历上标记好，洗衣服、给车加油……安排好自己的日程。
上周有哪些麻烦没解决？– 这样你就回从你的麻烦上学到东西，以应对未来。
上周最浪费时间的是什么？– 在以后控制好这些。如果必要你得采取一些物理上的障碍来阻挡你分心。
上周拖到这周的事哪些可以不用做了？– 身体上、精神上……消除一切不必要的东西，重要的东西自然就会显露出来了。
什么事是我该做的却还在逃避的？– 计划出一个时间来完成他们。如果2分钟就能完成的任务，就安排在周一的一大早首先做完。
还有什么机会正在等着我? – 如果你还要把握这个机会，这周就得计划一下了。
我需要和什么人聊聊么？– 经常的联络可以及早避免问题，和周围人开放的沟通。
你是否要对谁说一声“谢谢”？ – 每周花时间感谢帮助过你的人。别人会注意到你的友善。
这周我怎么能帮助别人? – 如果自己想要什么，就看看如何帮助别人得到它，这是最好的方式。如果你帮助他人，在你需要帮助时别人不会忘记你。
我今后3年的3个主要目标是什么？– 如果你没有一个实际的目标，你就无法进步。
我最近做了哪些事去接近我的目标？– 如果答案是“没有”，你就要想想如何改变了。
我下一步如何去接近我的目标? – 知道下一步如何做，你才能实现整个目标。
我这周想要得到什么? – 这个答案会是你的动力。如何你什么也不想要，还是应当为自己找些东西。
我怕什么? – 意识到你的恐惧，就可以慢慢帮助你解决他们。只要你迈出一小步。
我最感激什么? – 这可以保证你不错过什么，不忽略什么重要的东西。
如果我只能再活一周了，我想和谁一起度过？ – 又一个有用的提醒……生命短暂。多和你关爱的人在一起。

Squeaky clean

2009-09-26T11:18:00.001+08:00

Amway and soap. There’s certainly a history there.

Back in the day, a multi-purpose cleaner and laundry detergent were the first products sold by Amway business owners. And even though we’ve become a leader in health and beauty, our roots run deep in the home.

That’s why we’ve launched new products and upgraded formulas in our Legacy of Clean line of dish, laundry, and surface cleaners in North America. The line consists of 11 products that are earth-sensitive and don’t leave harsh chemicals, fumes, or residues behind. Video and photos tell the whole story.

The next episode in this soap opera? Upgrades to our already high-performing, safe, and green home care products in Europe and Asia are on the horizon for 2010/2011.

9 in 10 Singaporeans do not feel well prepared for retirement

2009-09-17T12:21:00.005+08:00

Channel NewsAsia - Thursday, September 17

SINGAPORE: Ninety—one per cent of Singaporeans do not feel well—prepared for retirement compared to the global average of 87 per cent, according to an annual report by Oxford University’s Institute of Ageing on Wednesday.
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The Oxford Institute of Ageing is known for its gerontological research and training programmes.

Singapore, like most countries in the world, is facing an ageing population. In fact, the number of dependent adults is expected to surpass the number of dependent children for the first time next year.

The Oxford report suggested that the low level of preparedness is linked to a lack of access to financial advice. Although Singapore has a wide range of retirement products available, more could be done to educate families to plan for the long term.

The team responsible for the report conducted a workshop in Singapore to help stakeholders from the private and public sectors, non—government organisations and academics plan for an ageing society.

Participants were asked to suggest policy solutions for a variety of situations.

At the end of the three—day programme on Wednesday, researchers felt that Singapore is well—equipped to deal with an ageing population because there is a high level of awareness of the issues. One of the key solutions for Singapore is to keep older workers employed.

Dr George Leeson, deputy director, Oxford Institute of Ageing, said: "Governments need to help employers, employers need to help employees, and trade unions need to play a role. I know that in Singapore there are moves for re—employment legislation in 2012.

"What I think employers have to remember is that they are the people they have to keep in the workplace because there is going to be a demand for the skills they have."

Individuals are also encouraged to take responsibility for their own retirement by planning early, especially for financial security.

— CNA/so

Source: http://sg.news.yahoo.com/cna/20090916/tap-355-9-10-sporeans-feel-prepared-reti-231650b.html

Black Enterprise magazine's Corporate Executive of the Year

2009-09-12T01:04:00.007+08:00

The woman credited with fine-tuning Amway's global image is garnering the spotlight herself.

Candace Matthews is Black Enterprise's Corporate Executive of the Year. (PDF, 7MB)

Amway Corp.'s global marketing chief officer is featured on the September cover of the business magazine -- which hits newsstands today -- holding a globe.

Matthews, 50, is the first private company executive to receive the honor. She was selected for her “business prowess and inventiveness” and for forging a marketing approach that “blends innovation, technology and interpersonal relationships.”

And she’s in good company. Executives at corporations like Ford, McDonald’s and CNBC also have received the magazine’s honor.
In the six-page spread, Matthews acknowledges it took some coaxing by a headhunter to convince her to consider leaving her previous position as president of Soft Sheen-Carson, a consumer products division of the cosmetics giant L'Oreal USA.

Her resume also included top marketing positions at Procter & Gamble and the Coca Cola Co.

"Would (the role) be bigger than what I'm doing now?" she wondered at the time.

We knew Candace was enterprising. Now she has the award to prove it.

如果你的薪水是别人给你的，你就是可以被取代的

2009-09-01T13:34:00.002+08:00

理财专家给薪水族的忠告

(如果你需要拿钱回家养家，那么一定要遵守。如果有人养你，则另当别论)
**如果你的薪水是别人给你的，你就是可以被取代的**

记得以前有位同事离职前多拉了几个人走，以为会对公司的业务造成影响，经我观察的结果做了结论：完全没有影响，缺人找人，顶多资深员工辛苦点，对公司来说，「所有员工在职时都很重要，离职后都不重要」，没有一个员工是非留不可的，这似乎就是职场常态。

近20年以来，我长时间在美台两地以理财专家的立埸谈理财，帮助客户及社会大众做好理财。我常强调做好理财的目的是钱尽其用，让钱发挥最大的效用，一个相关的重要原则就是凡事讲究划算。

我觉得以这样的现实观点来看工作，和我倡议的『回到蛮荒』观点倒是有相通的地方，那就是不做徒劳无功的事，或没有成果的事。蛮荒的动物都能秉持这样的原则工作。所以依现实的原则看工作，现代人工作的目的应该只是为了能赚钱，除此以外无他。

以下是探讨这类观点的专家所提供的一些工作原则，不妨做为参考：

原则1：工作真的只是一份工作
不要期待工作与生活能兼顾，事实上也没几个人能将工作与生活成功的整合起来，工作并不是生活，我们工作是为了要过生活，或保有自己所喜欢的生活。想想看，你一天或一个礼拜能有多少时间和家人相处，或和亲朋好友去做一些你喜欢做的事，就可以知道要兼顾工作与生活是不可能的。

工作只是工作，目的是为了赚钱。

想起詹老师说过的，钱只是一个工具，让您换得食物、衣服、车子、房子、休闲育乐…换得「成就」…而「成就感」必须从个人所做的学习与事物中得到价值和肯定..

原则2：不要害怕换工作
工作既是为了赚钱，只要可能赚更多钱，或做起来更愉快、更有满足感，何妨就换工作？而且，以这样的原则换工作，收入当然会越换越多，跳槽可能也会变得稀松平常。只要每次工作时都全力以赴，有称职的表现，对雇主和业界都能交代，应该随时可以找到下一个工作机会。但站在生涯规划的观点，要思考的不只是下一份工作，而是下下一份工作在哪里。尤其如果已经三十岁以上，更应该将目标放在提早规划四十岁以后的人生，就会知道自己该做好什么准备。

原则3：一鸟在手胜过十鸟在林
很多公司都声称他们有优渥的福利制度，包括退休金计划。可是不断有事实告诉我们，越来越多的人在届满退休之前就失去工作了。所以争取眼前的福利可能更实际，比较值得期待，例如包括健康医疗保障在内的团体保险、托婴照顾、亲职休假、绩效奖金的分发，增加加班费或年终奖金等等。

更值得思考的是---这份工作你能做多少，或是说---
老板会让你做多久?然后呢?

原则4：谋生本事不厌其多
新世纪的工作与收入可能会变得不稳定，产业的兴衰或轮替也会变得快速无比，在同一家企业内辛苦一辈子可能会以失业收场。所以横向拓展各方面的技能，会比纵向的在企业的组织内向上攀爬追求位高权重还要实际。其实现在已有不少企业也『学会』了一些聪明的技巧，对授予好听的高阶职位并不吝惜，可以让你拥有耀眼的头衔，但对薪资增加并没有多大帮助。与其追求这种虚名，不如让自己能具备十八般武艺可以多方面赚钱，随时跳槽。充实自己的技能让自己无可替代，或者在风险控管下，掌握机会自己创业，才是M型社会生存王道!

原则5：做好份内工作就回家去
再提醒你，工作只是工作，公司少了你一个人的工作，照样可以运转下去。踏实的学习你的工作所该具备的技能，努力做好你的工作，但不要奢望你可以凭一己之力多为公司创造多少业绩或产能。不要因此耗掉你大量的私人时间，让自己从盲目工作中抽离出来。记住，做好自己份内的工作，然后回家去。说真的，在老板的眼中，你真的没有那么重要!面对现实吧！

原则6：远离办公室政治
你工作的目的是为赚取合理的收入，而不是追求虚名与权位，所以不用在心思在办公室政治上。当红炸子鸡可能因改朝换代而去职走路，被冰冻的失志衰老也可能咸鱼翻身。与其耗费时间介入这些无意义的办公室斗争，不如多花时间在自己的家庭。好好为自己的人生规划准备才是最重要的。

The richest people in the world look for and build networks, everyone else looks for work.

2009-08-22T03:12:00.003+08:00

When you're the man who owns Asia's most successful low cost air airline and a network of successful budget hotels scattered across ASEAN, what would be your business venture? Well, for a certain Tony Fernandez, the next most logical step was to launch his very own no-frills mobile prepaid network, and just two days ago, that was exactly what he did.

Story continues after the jump.

Taking cue from his ever growing roster of no-frills-centric businesses, Tony Fernandez unveiled his latest venture into the fast paced world of mobile networks – Tune Talk - in unsurpassed style. Held at the SAE Hangar in Sepang, the location wasn't the only unique thing about this launch, as sitting smack in the middle of the space was one of Air Asia's latest acquirement – a brand new Airbus.

Headed by former rocker Jason Lo (CEO, Tune Talk), Tune Talk was created with the frequent traveler in mind. Currently operating as a MVNO (mobile virtual network operator), Tune Talk piggybacks off Celcom's mobile network and will offer the same network coverage.

Utilizing the 010 prefix, one of Tune Talk's main selling points is that customers get to choose their own phone number at the Tune Talk website once they purchase the SIM card starter pack. Users will also be able to change their existing phone numbers via the same website.

At RM5 a pop, the starter packs consist of a SIM card and talk time of the same value. However, in terms of call charges, Tune Talk has abolished all the confusing pricing schemes and has gone with a simple flat rate of 22 sen per minute and 5 sen per SMS to all local mobile operators and land lines. During the opening address, Jason Lo also stated that international calls would cost at least 10% less than what's currently being charged on the market now. Apart from the calls, all Tune Talk users will also be covered with a RM100,000 insurance premium from Etiqa Insurance.

As Tune Talk grows it's subscriber base here in Malaysia, the company hopes to one day become an ASEAN MVNO and provide its users with network coverage through out the region at local rates. If negotiations come through successfully, it looks like frequent travelers around the ASEAN region will look forward to enjoying not only better coverage, but also massive savings in terms of roaming costs.

Source by Wern Shen

"The richest people in the world look for and build network, everyone else look for work."

-Robert Kiyosaki

智慧之人,选择事业的标准

2009-08-04T00:20:00.004+08:00

聪明的人,擅长处理眼前发生的事情.这种人,最后多半都得了抑郁症.因为长期处于应急状态,导致荷尔蒙分泌紊乱.连带,还同时出现胃炎、肠炎、呼吸慢性疾病、和排泄障碍。这些疾病，不够聪明，都很难得，得够聪明才有资格。都是由于应急引起的交感神经兴奋，导致副交感神经受到长期抑制，所造成的。随后，免疫力下降，各种炎症与癌症的发病几率都增加。

智慧之人，只是选定了一个方向，慢慢悠悠地向前走，把个人生，经营的幸福满满，却毫不费力。

人生最大的错误，就是选择了紧急的事情作为时间支出的条件，而没有一个远期人生规划。如果每个人，都得什么才是生命中最重要的，就不至于总是被眼前的事情所左右。不紧不慢，不慌不忙，大智若愚。

重要的事情，一般来说，都是人人可以办得到到的举手之劳！每天做一点，朝一个方向，渐渐积累起来。轻松自然，达成目标。

却也有点难，难的就是太容易，太简单，显不出人们的聪明来，所以，多半都不愿意坚持。那些重要的，有价值的东西，都需要经过时间的考验和洗礼，所以，实现的唯一路径，不是聪明，而是傻傻地坚持。如同夫妻之间的那份爱。不是999朵玫瑰来表达就可以代表爱的深刻。而是在平凡的生活中，用心彼此呵护，相互配合。如果有人真的做得到，999天，每天送一朵玫瑰，估计林志玲也挡不住攻势。

云莉雅<财富的智慧》给我许多提醒，她的人生事业选择有十个标准，只要有一个不符合，她就不会去做。我看了，深感认同，也觉得，这同样是我的事业选择标准。难怪，我们都如此快乐，如此幸福。

她的10个标准是：
1、作为终生事业，它是否符合我要表达的价值观？
2、它是否能够提供给我持续成长的机会？
3、这个事业是否允许我去创造和发展我的个人风格和天赋？
4、未来是否有一个保障系统可以属于我？
5、我的成就是否和努力成正比？
6、我所从事的事情是否能累积无形的顾问资产？
7、在未来我是否可以将累积的经验和收获变现？
8、我是否可以训练别人复制这项工作？
9、我是否在工作的同时还能兼顾我的家庭？
10、这项工作和理念，是否能改善我周围人们的生活？

上述标准，缺少任何一个，我认为人生都会以痛苦告终。无论其他的九个是否已经做得非常好。至少，这样的人生不够完整。而我还有两个标准要加进去：

11、能否自由地决定自己的休息时间，而无须考虑金钱与责任？
12、能否在工作的同时，带来健康、快乐，而不会因为工作需要伤害身体。

沿着这样的思路，一路坚持做着简单的积累。日子其实过得非常朴实，却处处充满感动和精彩。享受人生，也帮助有缘分的人享受人生。

感谢生命赋予我智慧。感谢人生的师傅，成为我航程中的明灯。与君共享。

摘自林海峰

专为女人准备的陷阱

2009-07-26T12:02:00.002+08:00

据说女人是靠耳朵思考的，她们的眼睛，无论是大眼睛还是小眼睛，都是迷糊的。只要耳朵听到足够的好话，就会被诱惑。所以，尽管我们能够看到皮肤好一点的美容院老板屈指可数，但是她们都有勇气开美容院，并宣称可以让女人们变得年轻而美丽！

除了美容院以外，多数的保健品厂家都会装的很关心女性的样子，宣称自己的产品可以协助女人永葆青春。同样，我所看到的，这些厂家的老板娘、员工多数皮肤都有问题，她们一样举办各类展示会，运用高超的商业模式，让女人交出自己口袋的金钱，并且愿意拿自己的脸去接受各种实验。

每一年，这些机构都会通过广告策划公司的协助，研究出一批词语：光子护肤、激光、远红外等等，这些词语都不是通过科学家想社会传播的，而是美容机构做的贡献。当然，至今为止，女人们其实根本不清楚什么是光子、激光、远红外，她们并不在意，她们都很勇敢，并且心也很软——只要美容督导用谁也不明白，但却看来很专业的口吻，加上故作热情的所谓“服务”，女人们都愿意办一张卡，一张从来没有帮助她们真正获得改善的卡。多数女人，有许多这样的卡，她们一次次地冲动，却一直没有什么收获，乐此不疲。

商人结合广告公司，研究女人的敏感点，细心地服务着，悄悄地、温柔地征服着女人，SPA、精油、纳米技术、香薰、子宫护理，卵巢保养，一个个很炫的名词，俘虏着那些虚荣的女人。

能够一辈子不受伤害，幸福地生活的女人很少，无论是守候在那里的男人，还是埋伏在那里的商人，他们都了解怎样让女人心软、上当——只有女人自己不知道自己的弱点。

我不知道是否有些美容机构可以被信任，像张晓梅那样展示自己的气质。但是数千家这样的机构总让我接触之后，觉得可笑。他们真的很专业，比如在为女人准备陷阱方面，我总是很惊叹！

我总是警告我身边助理：可以涂在脸上的产品，一定可以吃进肚子里。不能够吃的，就不可以涂在脸上！这是个重要的指标！

任何宣传他们的服务有多好的公司，其实都是你需要小心的。真正的有本事的公司，是不会在服务上下文章的。因为技术和产品带来的真实的好处比服务要重要得多，那是直接与你的皮肤或者身体接触的东西。你需要的其实是真实的健康改善。

许多女人，活得没有什么乐趣，很少人会在乎她们，所以孤独的女人只有去了美容院才能够得到足够的夸奖！那些美容督导有本事让女人快乐片刻，找到自己的某种优点！加上半通不通的中医理论、看似前卫的新技术，女人们，很快就被捕获。

女人对别人依赖的习惯，决定了她们习惯上要去听取别人的建议，而不是自己为自己负责。很少有女人愿意真的去学一点知识，她们多数对自己的健康一无所知，去了医院，也像一个待宰的羔羊，眨着迷茫的眼睛，等着医生，轻柔地切除她们的子宫、卵巢、乳房，然后，在几个月后，才从催眠中清醒，悲哀地躲在墙角哭泣！

一辈子被骗多少次，都不会真的吸取教训，她们四处寻找愿意花精力骗她们的人！似乎，这是一种需要！她们的孤独，以及男人的寡情，最终让她们选择往陷阱里跳 ——那是一种需要，没有人欣赏的女人，很快就会枯萎！她们需要甜言蜜语，需要装得很像的专家，在她们身上揉捏着、挤压着，然后，说着可以让她们多一点自信的话语。

我本不该去管这样的闲事，反正一个愿打，一个愿挨，而挨的人，还出示各种昂贵的卡，显示这是她们独有的特权。

只有少数女人有这样的福气，知道去增加知识，知道只有让自己的生命加分，才能够有选择的权利，和识别真假的本领。只有少数女人有福气找到真正的自己，并且从此骄傲地生活，让自己越来越年轻美丽。她们有幸知道年轻美丽，不是依赖任何产品，而是依赖自己的生活管理。产品和技术，只能够帮助那些懂得运用的人。

但愿有更多的商人愿意增加点良心，为女人们提供真实的帮助。也但愿女人愿意做自己生命的主人，不要再指望依靠任何男人，或者某个产品和技术。生命像一艘船，你才是自己的船长。

向懂得爱自己的女人，致敬！

摘自林海峰新浪博客

TheStar: Losing all in get-rich schemes

2009-07-13T18:23:00.004+08:00

the Star Online

PETALING JAYA: The lure of making a fast buck or easy money has opened up opportunities for various organisations to come up with ingenious ways to attract the public to invest.

Such schemes, known locally as “skim cepat kaya”, have made Malaysians lose millions of ringgit.

According to the police’s Federal Commercial Crime Investigation Department, there were 17,311 cases opened for investigation last year, a massive jump of 26.6% from 2007.

The department said that one bright spot in all these cases was that actual financial losses were down to RM845mil last year, compared with RM1.9bil in 2007.

Most of these schemes thrived in “grey areas” which can only be loosely regulated despite the best efforts of the authorities to clamp down on culprits.

Many of them operate under the guise of multi-level marketing operations which blur into pyramid schemes, which are illegal.

A market observer pointed out that these establishments would promise returns that even top fund managers found hard to attain in good economic times.

Many of them operate like Ponzi schemes which made no or little actual investments from money collected from the public.

Often in such schemes, the earlier investors would usually get some returns, compared with those who join later.

Surprisingly, many of those who are employed as agents with these businesses do not think such schemes are illegal.

“How can it be a scam when I can make money?” an agent attached to an established restaurant chain said.

The restaurant has half a dozen outlets in the Klang Valley and offers the public membership for a fee which entitles them to make money from eating at the outlets and through referrals.

What makes it interesting is that several of these establishments found taking deposits or cash from the public have been operating for a number of years without ever being questioned by the authorities if their operations are legal.

In the past one-and-a-half years, there has been a significant rise in such operations.

Their aggressive and “successful” marketing approach has even become somewhat of a trend, and has been adopted by many other restaurants to boost sales.

If one were to google the term “scams in Malaysia”, one would find a slew of businesses which concerned citizens have exposed as a “bit dodgy”.

However, the people who run such operations appear nonchalant about the amount of media and Internet attention on their businesses.

They are able to navigate their way around existing laws and capitalise on their marketing strategies before the law catches up with them.

Starprobe decided to investigate a number of these business operations to find out their modus operandi following a number of helpful suggestions from concerned readers and members of the public, especially cases which relate to non-financial institutions.

The response from an official of the Registrar of Companies (ROC) was that it had no jurisdiction to control the activities of such companies.

“If the company is registered with an identifiable business, how they market their products or services is not within our purview,” the official said.

But with regards to companies illegally taking deposits without having an investment licence, Bank Negara has the right to investigate and prosecute them. In fact, from last year until now, 19 companies have been under investigation and raided.

While the authorities are trying their best to enforce the laws, the sheer number of these operations make it an uphill task.

The situation is compounded by having different agencies with different jurisdictions conducting investigations independently, thus not giving a clearer picture.

For example, Consumer Claims Tribunal chairman Rungit Singh said his tribunal has jurisdiction only over consumer complaints and concerns. The tribunal is under the purview of the Domestic Trade and Consumer Affairs Ministry.

“Once a person invests in a scheme, that person is not protected under the consumer laws,” Rungit Singh said.

According to him, consumer laws only cover complaints regarding goods and services and do not have jurisdiction over investors.

And on multi-level marketing, an official from the Consumers Association of Penang said such companies were perfectly legal as long as they were licensed by the Domestic Trade and Consumer Affairs Ministry.

“However, some multi-level marketing operations get into grey areas when the bulk of their sales are not derived from products or services but rather from other forms of collections,” she said over the phone.

She added that a sign of a possible scam was when most of the earnings of the company is derived from activities unrelated to the sale of goods or services.

According to a commercial crime lawyer who did not wish to be named, the law regarding legal and illegal activities was clear.

“However, access to critical information may be time-consuming and the prosecution of those who deliberately go against the law will require substantial evidence,” he said.

The lawyer said there was a need for easier and quicker access to information on registered businesses, possibly delivered via a centralised system and an oversight board with experts for the public to turn to for complaints, advice and information on confirmed scams.

“There is a need for a quicker mechanism to identify and respond to scams before more people lose their money,” he said, adding that many of the scams had invested little in their marketing strategies and did not have a business continuity plan.

The lawyer said it should be noted that there were also a number of people who were either gullible or prepared to take higher investment risks driven purely by greed, despite the best of advice.

A source who tracked such scams said it was near impossible to keep tabs efficiently on them.

“That’s the biggest problem, there are thousands of such scams involving hundreds of millions of ringgit out there that the relevant agencies are not able to track all of them. They’re only able to pursue the ones that have been brought to their attention,” she said.

She added that the answer was not more regulation but more awareness of such scams.

“Awareness is better now than before, we have more inquiries coming in on various businesses,” she said.

Source: the Star Online

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If you continue to do what you've always done, you will continue to get what you've always got.

2009-07-06T13:51:00.003+08:00

I talk to people everyday who are unhappy with their current situation, whether that be working too many hours, or not having a job, living paycheck to paycheck. Whatever the reason may be, they are still not willing to take the step needed to change anything.

We are raised believing that we are suppose to grow up, get a good job, work 40 hours a week for 40 years, and that's just what were suppose to do. The problem is this...our times have changed dramatically. The cost of living is going up, technology is advancing, everything is costing more period. Yet we are still doing the same things as we did 10, 20 years ago.

The only way you can be sure that you secure your future financially is to own your own business. Granted, there is some risk involved when venturing out on your own, and quite honestly, it is the very reason most people continue to do what they do, regardless if they like it or not. Change isn't always easy, but it is necessary.

I understand the reluctancy of jumping into any new venture, how can you be sure that your making the right decision? To tell you the truth, you don't know for sure. If we always did things right the first time...well there wouldn't be much fun in that now would there? The wonderful thing about that is, we can always pick ourselves back up and try something else until we get it right.

Here are some things to think about...

You don't have to quit doing what you're already doing in order to make a change. Start a home-based business part-time, a couple hours a day after work, whatever it takes. Even if it takes you a little longer than someone who has the benefit of working the business solely, you will at least be moving forward.

What is truly important? If you are missing out on your children growing up just so that you can afford the "greater" things in life, when it comes down to it, which one will you miss most if it is gone? Our children grow up so fast, we can't turn back time and do it all over again, there is no rewind. But, the fancy cars and the nice clothes, whatever it may be, that all goes away. No one remembers you for the material items you have possessed. They remember the person you were and how you lived life in general.

When you work for someone else you are building a future for them, not you. If you don't work, you don't get paid. They tell you when & how to work and how much you will be paid. You are stuck living on someone else's terms.

When you decide to work for you, you are in control. You determine when & how you will work. And more importantly, there is no ceiling as to how much money you make. You want more, you put forth more effort. Simple as that.

I could go on and on about why people should see the benefits of working at home, but I'm not going to. I'm sure that you get the picture. We can't make people see what we see. If we could then well, that would be to easy. It wouldn't have as much value as it does when someone reaches a goal that they never thought possible before. That is where the true value in believing in yourself is found.

source: work at home facts, 星洲日報／快樂星期天

你烦不烦？

2009-06-28T23:58:00.002+08:00

有一首歌叫做《最近比较烦》，讲的是一个总是感觉很烦的人，可他烦过来烦过去，也不过是一些家庭琐事，鸡毛蒜皮。最后，他终于发现，自己其实没什么可以烦的。

这个世界上有许多人在烦，而且是完全没有必要地自个给自个添烦，更要命的是，很多的人不知道自己究竟在烦些什么。

一个人，十几岁的时候烦，是因为束缚；二十几岁的时候烦，是因为迷茫；三十几岁的时候烦，是因为事业未成；四十几岁的时候烦，是因为升迁无望；五十几岁的时候烦，是因为不再年富力强；六十几岁的时候烦，是因为年老体弱。

闲着的时候烦，因为没有事业；事业有成了也烦，因为没时间休息。当兵的时候烦，因为没有权利；有了一官半职也烦，不但要伺候好上面的官，还要管理好下面的兵。

——所以，一个人只要愿意，他可以随时随地在任何条件下烦。烦恼最根本的来源就是对现实的不满足。一个人没有钱会很烦，没有朋友也会很烦，一事无成也会很烦；你喜欢阳光灿烂，可老天总是下雨，你也会很烦。

但现实永远无法做到完美，那么你是不是要永远地烦下去呢？如此多烦恼和忧虑到底是否有意义？

据说在一个云集心理学家的公开讨论小组上，科学家们在共同研究忧虑对人的影响的课题后，得出了这样一个结论：大部分你忧虑的事情是从未出现的。专家们在报告中指出：百分之四十的忧虑是不会发生的；百分之三十的忧虑是关于已经过去的事情，是你无法改变的，例如你上星期五的测验成绩、上星期的推销表现；其余百分之十二的忧虑是关注不必要的健康问题——假如我有什么病。有百分之十左右的忧虑是一些无关痛痒没有结果的琐事；

据研究指出，只有百分之八的忧虑是值得关注的。这正如美国著名作家马克吐温所说：“我活了一把年纪，已经知道自己的问题，但是这些问题大部分是未曾发生的。”

快乐是自找的，烦恼也是自找的，如果你不给自己寻烦恼，别人永远也不可能给你烦恼。所以，每当你忧心忡忡的时候，不妨静下心来认真地区别一下，它是属于过去已经不可改变的事实，或是属于未来不能确定会不会发生的猜测。

过去的无法改变，再烦恼也没有任何意义，为微不足道的小事而烦恼没有必要，改变不了的事实烦也没用。

所以，我们抛去那属于过去的、微不足道的和无法改变的烦恼，也放下未来无法预料的猜测、担忧。认真享受好此刻的幸福，珍惜好此刻的快乐。并且认真面对我们必须要值得关注的当下的问题。

在这需要引起关注的百分之八的问题中，我们可以把它分为两大类，一类是我们可以去改变的，一类是无法改变的。那么，事情就很好办了。可以改变的，我们竭尽全力去改变，去争取；无法改变的，我们则没必要去考虑，更不要因为它们而心生烦恼。

担心天塌下来是多余的，首先是因为天根本就不会塌，其次是因为，就算塌下来了，你也没辙。因此，杞人忧天的担心是属于既不可能发生，又是发生后无法阻止的。

有个小故事，也许很能给我们启示。

一名士兵决定不被忧虑缠绕，他便在钢盔里放进一张小卡片：

战争于我个人而言有两种可能性，要么上前线，要么留后方。若上前线，又有两种可能性，要么平安无事，要么遇到危险，若遇到危险，又有两种可能性。要么安然无恙，要么受伤。苦受伤，又有两种可能性，要么痊愈，要么死亡。若是死了，我则无法再忧虑。如此说来，我现在为何要忧虑呢？

一切的忧愁和烦恼都是多余的。未来，未来，就是未知它来不来，未知它怎么来。如果能猜测和预料，那就不能叫未来吗？既然未知的，而且又无法预知，那就没必要去考虑。踏踏实实地做好眼前的事情，晚上睡个好觉，比什么都重要。

已经发生的事情，不要后悔和抱怨。还未发生的事，不要害怕和担心。此刻拥有的，就是最好的。好好珍惜。

#取自林海峰新浪博客

In the beginning, it's just you...

2009-06-13T22:38:00.003+08:00

This video is a dance tribe forming spontaneously at a music festival.

The favorite part happens just before the first minute mark. That's when guy #3 joins the group. Before him, it was just a crazy dancing guy and then maybe one other crazy guy. But it's guy #3 who made it a movement.

Initiators are rare indeed, but it's scary to be the leader. Guy #3 is rare too, but it's a lot less scary and just as important. Guy #49 is irrelevant. No bravery points for being part of the mob.

We need more guy #3s.

Just one guy, and everyone else is looking on, thinking your nuts ...

But you keep going anyway, and after a while it's not just you, someone else joins in ... and everyone just looks on, thinking your just a couple of crazy guys with crazy ideas ...

And then it's three ....

And then .... UNSTOPPABLE!!

Source: http://www.amwaytalk.com/viewtopic.php?f=44&t=719#p9036
http://sethgodin.typepad.com/seths_blog/2009/06/guy-3.html

金钱，时间，健康，家庭，朋友，保障，旅游

2009-06-10T11:08:00.000+08:00

金钱：是每一个人都在用大半辈子寻找的东西。它也许不能够买快乐，但是没有它就肯定不快乐。

时间：通常当一个人的职位，收入随着经验的增长，时间就会流失。因为通常一个人都是用时间来换金钱，包括小企业主。

健康：当人们忙着工作，也许会忽略了饮食而导致健康问题。一开始人用生命来赚钱，到最后却用金钱来买回健康。

家庭：有了金钱，生活负担就减少。家庭可以安稳的生活。不过没了时间与健康，家庭一样不是那么的美满。

朋友：要顾及金钱，时间，健康，家庭。。朋友也该是各自忙着这四样东西吧。

保障：如果夫妻其中一方意外走了，要如何保障家庭及另外一半的生活呢？工作头衔不能够传给妻子孩子，生意家人未必会经营，就只有保险了吗？

旅游：想跟家人去旅游，金钱与时间是考量。有钱未必有时间，有时间未必有钱。

你认为你可以顾及哪一些呢？你要捉住哪一些呢？如果可以，能不能全要呢？

People who dislike MLM, read this.

2009-06-03T12:29:00.005+08:00

I didn’t post this web site to fight you or to alter your view of the MLM (Multi Level Marketing) industry.

In some ways we are similar. I, too, see problems with MLM. But in one way we are different - I believe the MLM industry can be helped.

In situations such as these there are at least two options: help “it” or harm “it.”

Let’s pretend you have a child and find he’s using drugs. Do you help him or harm him? I suppose you would want to help him. That’s the way I feel about the MLM - Multi Level Marketing industry.

Personally, I believe there is only one fundamental problem in MLM - training (or lack therof). The activities of the industry have slid away from real training. Today, the “standard training” is write a list of 200 people, call them, and tell them why you’re excited. This is not training, and it often doesn’t work.

If you go back to the earliest MLM activities, beginning in 1945, you will find that a distributor didn’t sponsor another distributor until that person proved they could get 25 customers. This activity ENCOURAGED people to train their distributors to sell products.

Since the 1980’s, several MLM companies have focused exclusively on getting new distributors, who get other new distributors, etc. This activity bypasses training a new distributor to get customers. Add to that a general lack of communication skills and “get-rich-quick” hype and you have an industry that in many ways merits criticism.

However, to me the good outweighs the bad. The above-mentioned flaws are correctable and are within my scope and ability to correct. If you analyze the stock market industry, the mortgage industry, the medical industry, the entertainment industry, etc., you will find that there is bad in all of them. But you will also find that there is good in each of them.

When MLM - Multi Level Marketing is done in a first-class way, it isn’t the same
industry you criticize.

Therefore it is my intention to help the MLM industry, as I’m quite fond of it.

Source: http://www.firstclassmlm.com/2007/12/13/to-those-who-are-anti-mlm-dislike-mlm-or-even-hate-mlm/

胆小的人，注定要失去生命中的精彩与美丽

2009-05-26T12:34:00.000+08:00

离开办公桌，影印一份数据，只不过三分钟时间，一只蚂蚁爬上她刚买的黑森林蛋糕。
那蛋糕是她的下午茶点心，结果这下享用的兴致全无了。
她拿起叉子把蚂蚁取出，然后质问牠为什么破坏她的好心情。

浑身沾满糖衣的蚂蚁，慢条斯理的回答：「我饿了，被蛋糕的香味给吸引过来。」

蚂蚁说，牠的食量小，吃不了多少，给牠一小角蛋糕，就够了。她听了更是火大，不顾形象，指责牠：「你的身份，那能跟我一起吃相同的东西？」

她告诉蚂蚁，牠应该去找残余的食物，怎么可以堂而皇之与她分食。蚂蚁说：「我有我的人格，不想卑微讨生活。」

蚂蚁一脸委屈地向她说道，牠想出人头地，可是天生的不平等，教牠只能不起眼地过日子，可是牠不想庸庸碌碌了此一生，所以选择到这陌生且危险的城市。

经牠这么一说，她突然心软：「你不怕无法适应？」她怀疑。

「做过了，才知道怎么回事。光是害怕，有什么用！」蚂蚁又接着说，牠不觉得牠的人生只有一条路走，牠相信，牠的生命充满了无限可能。

她不发一语，心情顿时复杂。这些年，她最大的困境，是知道自己要什么，却始终未曾付诸行动，她不懂为何迟疑，或者应该说，她怕改变。

然而，胆小的人，注定要失去生命中的种种精彩与美丽。因此，她只能原地打转，也许不会更坏，但也绝对不会更好。
回过神，她有了决定，同时准备把整块蛋糕送给蚂蚁。蚂蚁谢绝了她的好意，牠说，牠已经尝过滋味，想再去试点别的。而她，一个新的生命历程，于焉成形，蓄势待发。

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该换个跑道、或是坚持到底，是需要智慧的抉择。
最好是能够趁着年轻的时候探索自我，及早确立方向，
就可以减低不断换跑道的学习成本。
再努力一下，再坚持一点，情况可能因此完全改观喔~

Best and Worst Brain Foods

2009-05-07T13:32:00.004+08:00

If you want to make the right decisions in confusing times—Time to refinance? Explore a different career? Root for the singing spinster or the 12-year-old?—you need to pay special attention to what you eat. That’s right: Your grocery list can help with your to-do list. That’s because the right foods are a kind of clean-burning fuel for your body’s biggest energy hog: Your brain. A study in the Journal of Physiology makes the point that, though your brain represents only 2 percent of your body weight, it makes 20 percent of the energy demands on your resting metabolism.

FOR SHORT-TERM MEMORY
Drink This!: COFFEE

Fresh-brewed joe is the ultimate brain fuel. Caffeine has been shown to retard the aging process and enhance short-term memory performance. In one study, British researchers found that just one cup of coffee helps improve attention and problem-solving skills.

Not That!: ENERGY DRINKS/TOO MUCH COFFEE

Ever heard of the concept “too much of a good thing”? If you OD on caffeine—too many cups, a jolt of caf from the late afternoon onward, a Red Bull cocktail—it can mess with your shuteye schedule. Sleep is reboot time for your mental computer, and you don’t want to mess with it

FOR LONG-TERM MEMORY
Eat This!: BLUEBERRIES

Antioxidants in blueberries help protect the brain from free-radical damage and cut your risk of Alzheimer’s and Parkinson’s diseases. They can also improve cognitive processing (translation: thinking). Wild blueberries, if you can find them, have even more brain-boosting antioxidants than the cultivated variety, so book that vacation in Maine now. The berries will ripen in July.

Not That!: THE UNRIPE AND UNREADY

Here’s a cool tip: if your favorite berries are out of season, buy them frozen. The freezer locks in peak flavor and nutrients, so the berries’ antioxidant capacity is maxed out. Those pale, tough, and expensive off-season berries usually ripen on a truck, rather than on the bush, so they’re nutritional imposters compared to the real thing.

TO THINK FASTER
Eat This!: SALMON OR MACKEREL

If the Internal Revenue Service picks you for some up-close-and-personal auditing, you’ll want to be on your toes when they vet your deductions list. So put salmon or mackerel on the grocery list. The omega-3 fatty acids found in fatty fishes are a primary building block of brain tissue, so they’ll amp up your thinking power. Salmon is also rich in niacin, which can help ward off Alzheimer’s disease and slow the rate of cognitive decline.

Not That!: FULL-FAT ICE CREAM

Not all fats are created equal: Beware foods high in saturated fats, which can clog blood vessels and prevent the flow of nutrients and blood to the brain. Ice cream is not a brain-health food.

TO ENERGIZE:
Eat This!: HIGH-PROTEIN SALAD WITH VINAIGRETTE

The oil in the dressing will help slow down digestion of protein and carbs in the salad, stabilizing blood-sugar levels and keeping energy levels high. Build your salad on a bed of romaine and spinach for an added boost in riboflavin, and add chicken and a hard-boiled egg for more energizing protein.

Not That!: PANCAKES OR BAGELS

MIT researchers analyzed blood samples from a group of people who had eaten either a high-protein or a high-carbohydrate breakfast. Two hours after eating, the carb eaters had tryptophan levels four times higher than those of the people who had eaten protein. The tryptophan in turkey is one of the reasons you crawl off for an afternoon nap after Thanksgiving dinner. So watch what you gobble.

TO CALM DOWN
Eat This!: LOW-FAT YOGURT OR MIXED NUTS

Scientists in Slovakia gave people 3 grams each of two amino acids—lysine and arginine—or a placebo, and asked them to deliver a speech. Blood measurements of stress hormones revealed that the amino acid-fortified guys were half as anxious during and after the speech as those who took the placebo. Yogurt is one of the best food sources of lysine; nuts pack loads of arginine.

Not That!: SODA

A study from the American Journal of Public Health found that people who drink 2½ cans of soda daily are three times more likely to be depressed and anxious, compared with those who drink fewer. So Mountain Dew is a Mental Don’t.

TO CONCENTRATE
Eat This!: PEPPERMINT TEA

The scent of peppermint helps you focus and boosts performance, according to researchers. Need to reach Chicago before nightfall, and you’re stuck in traffic around Cleveland? One study found that peppermint makes drivers more alert and less anxious.

Not That!: CANDY

Sugary foods incite sudden surges of glucose that, in the long term, cause sugar highs and lows, leading to a fuzzy state of mind. So you’ll need to avoid all the attention-busting sugar bombs on this list of the 20 most sugar-packed foods in America.

FOR GOOD MOODS AND GRINS
Eat This! ARUGULA OR SPINACH SALAD

Leafy greens—arugula, chard, spinach—are rich sources of B vitamins, which are key components on the assembly line that manufactures feel-good hormones such as serotonin, dopamine, and norepinephrine. According to a study published in the Journal of Neuroscience Nursing, a lack of B6 can cause nervousness, irritability, and even depression.

Not That!: WHITE CHOCOLATE

White chocolate isn’t chocolate at all, since it contains no cocoa solids. So it won’t stimulate the euphoria-inducing mood boosters like serotonin, as real chocolate does. Grab the real thing, the darker the better. More cacao means more happy chemicals and less sugar, which will eventually pull you down.

FOR SHARPER SENSES
Eat This!: 1 TBSP OF GROUND FLAXSEED DAILY

Flax is the best source of alphalinoleic, or ALA—a healthy fat that improves the workings of the cerebral cortex, the area of the brain that processes sensory information, including that of pleasure. To meet your quota, sprinkle it on salads or mix it into a smoothie or shake.

Not That!: ALCOHOL

This one’s obvious, but worth mentioning anyway. A drink or two can increase arousal signals, but more than that will actually depress your nervous system. This makes you sloppy, not sharp.

Source By David Zinczenko, with Matt Goulding - Posted on Fri, May 01, 2009, 1:43 pm PDT

如果

2009-05-05T11:41:00.002+08:00

如果，你准备种田，你就必须知道如何给种子施肥。
如果，你准备获得最好的牛奶，你就必须让牛吃到最好的草。
如果爱，就必须知道，如何给予所爱的人，正确及时的营养，保护他们的健康。

一个对健康没有常识的人，生命就像是一场赌博，赌桌的正前方，站着的是非典病毒、禽流感、猪流感，左边，站着癌症、糖尿病、心脏病、高血压、中风、关节炎，右边，站着苏丹红、孔雀绿、三聚氰胺！在生命的旅途中，眼看着身边的人面临病痛，茫然失措！面临危机，无处下手。

人们愿意花钱装修房子，愿意为了一个皮包，支付上万的费用，愿意买个马桶，花上数万元，却在一生中，都很少为自己的健康做过投资。这种投资，并不是身体有病的时候去住院，也不是到处求医，无法得到医治，再把某人当作救命稻草。这种投资，是一种对生命的投资，对整个身体的内在系统，及外在表症都有一个准确的认识。

说着的，如果你爱你的家人，你怎么可以没有健康的知识呢？你知道，有多少父母正在犯罪，他们不知不觉消灭了自己的孩子的免疫力，直到有一天，疾病全面爆发，他们还始终认为自己倒霉，是孩子不幸，却不知道，正是自己种下的祸根。

如果，你那么爱你的女人，你怎么可以不了解如何让女人年轻健康的奥秘呢？你送她衣服，送她钻石，不如送她一套生活技术，让她可以一年比一年更年轻。

如果你爱你的父母，你为何不腾出一段时间，来学习心血管疾病的预防与治疗，以及糖尿病、高血压、关节炎的解决办法？

改篇自: 爱的通行证——高级营养师培训

China Business Magazine Interview with Burke Hedges

2009-04-23T15:45:00.009+08:00

A world-renowned author, speaker and trainer, Burke Hedges travels the globe teaching sold-out audiences the art of entrepreneurship and how to transform their lives using his You, Inc. Life Development System. About Burke Hedges.

March 19, 2009

~ 1.As we know, you have worked for 20 years to spread the concept of finance intelligence and individual venturing. And what you did has a great influence around the world. Can you tell us what made you get into this field?

“Over 20 years ago I had a cellular phone business where I earned a million dollars by age 25, but sadly it cost me $ 1.2 million to earn it! I was broke and upset but not broken.

Fortunately, in 1988, I was introduced to the industry by a stranger who purchased 2 cellular phones from me. Like most people who see the business for the first time I was skeptical, but curious about the possibilities of residual income and the opportunity to become financially free. I signed up, worked very hard, was 100% coachable and reached the top position with the company. Today I’m more excited about the future of the direct marketing industry than when I first started 21 years ago. It’s truly been an amazing journey.

The reason I got into teaching and lecturing is a result of the books I’ve written. My message is simple: Direct Marketing is the best industry in the world to achieve personal and financial independence. I feel people need to know the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth about the dynamics of the industry that is changing the quality of people’s lives all over the world and especially in China.

One of my mentors said to me, “Burke, help people solve their problems and you will enjoy many rewards. The bigger the problem you help solve the bigger your contribution will be and the greater your rewards”. This is exactly what I’m doing with my books and lectures. Helping people solve their economic problems. As we all know, money is a very big problem for most people worldwide and it’s my(our) duty to spread the message of financial intelligence to everyone who is struggling financially or who desires to enjoy a higher quality of life.”

~ 2. What is your view about the success theory? As we know, although many people know about this theory, why has nothing changed about their life?

“I believe that today more than ever success in our industry is a choice. Success used to be reserved for the privileged, but not anymore. Success is for those individuals who are hungry, coachable, and are willing to work hard and make sacrifices to make success as they see it a reality. It’s reserved for those who refuse to give in or give up. Let’s face it, success in our industry is not rocket science. Do what successful people do and get what successful people get.

I believe the reason people don’t change is because they get comfortable. They get comfortable feeling UNCOMFORTABLE. They get comfortable settling for less in life when a bright new world of possibilities exists right under their noses. It’s our job to encourage those individuals who want to do more, have more and be more in their lives, that success is possible if they follow their dreams, work hard and plug into a system of personal and economic achievement.”

~ 3. There are many other experts in the success theory in America, such as Zig Ziglar, Robert T. Kiyosaki, and Anthony Robbins. What makes your personal achievement study subject distinguished from theirs?

“First, I have learned a great deal from Zig Zigler, Robert Kiyosaki, and Anthony Robbins, and many other great teachers here in America. I believe in the philosophy “When you’re green you’re growing, and when you’re ripe you’re rotten.” Anyone who knows it all has nowhere to go. The more I learn, the more I realize how little I know.

However, what makes me unique is my years of hands on experience in this industry. I’ve built two successful organizations. With my first company I built a $10 million business my first full year with the company and with my second company I became the #1 income earner. Not only have I studied and researched the industry a great deal, but I know firsthand the challenges
new business owners face and how to overcome them.

If you want to learn to fly an airplane, you take lessons from an experienced pilot- not someone who just read a book on aviation, right? Success leaves clues. For 20 years I’ve focused on helping people achieve success in our industry either as distributor, author or lecturer.”

~ 4. The readers in China came to know you because of your book “The Parable of the Pipeline”. Is this your first book ever published? In what circumstances did you finish writing this book? And what message would you like to deliver to your readers through this book?

“The Parable of the Pipeline” is my 7th book. My 8th book is “The Servant Soul” and it will be released in April of 2009. I’m very excited about my new book and I believe it will inspire many people to do more with their lives.

The message I want to deliver with “The Parable of the Pipeline” is simple, but profound. Leverage! I believe that once people really understand the power of leverage, they’ll never go back to the traditional ways of earning a living which is trading one hour of time for one hour of pay. Leverage is about trading an hour of time for 10 hours of pay. Or a month worth of work
for a year of pay.

For example, if you had $1 million dollars in the bank at 10 percent interest, you’d make $100,000 dollars a year whether you woke up in the morning to go to work or not. You’re not working for your money your money is working for you, right?

Although most people don’t have $1 million dollars in the bank working for them everyone does have time. Regardless of nationality, age, experience or education everyone has 1440 minutes each and every day. Everyone knows that you can turn time into money. Then the question becomes, how can we leverage time to get the same results as having $1 million dollars in the
bank? You need to have an economic model that allows you to leverage time exponentially which will generate residual income.

In “The Parable of the Pipeline” I use the metaphor of bucket carrying (a job) and pipeline building (financial intelligence or residual income) to illustrate the power of leveraged income. This is the message I want to spread with “The Parable of the Pipeline”.

Watch the "The Parable of the Pipeline" video here.

One last point on building a leveraged business — leverage is a privilege we ‘get to do’ not ‘have to do’. We must not take this privilege lightly or for granted.”

~ 5. Can you tell us what inspired your ideas about pipeline, system and copying?

“Education is the first step to transformation. When I first got started 20 years ago someone taught me the do’s and don’ts of the business. Now it’s my turn to give back.

Also, I believe common sense is not so common anymore!

Common sense says, “Residual income is better than temporary income”.
Common sense says, “Having a proven system and support team to help you achieve success is better than having nothing at all”
Common sense says, “If you can get rich doing something you are already an expert at then don’t reinvent the wheel”. We’ve been copying our entire lives. We copy the way we eat, speak, write, dress and work. Unfortunately, most people have copied the wrong plan for wealth creation.

My objective is to educate people who want a better life to use common sense and seriously look at direct marketing. It’s a big time business opportunity and for many it’s been a dream come true.”

~ 6. All your thinking, such as pipeline, system, learning for life, and copying is related to the line of marketing somehow. Is this just coincidental? Or have you planned this based on your personal career?

“There are no coincidences in life. You choose the path you want to follow or the path chooses you. I have chosen the direct marketing path as my profession. I speak the truth and teach the principles of success. Teaching on building pipelines of residual income, plugging into and working a success system, and learning to become a leader is all part of the plan, my path, if you will.

Water is wet regardless if you live in China or America. This is an indisputable fact. The same is true for the principles of success. Whether you live in China, Africa, Europe or America, the principles of success and achievement are the same. I’ve learned this and this is what I teach.”

~ 7. As we know, you worked with Amway and Internet Service Corporation as a consultant. Is that your first time to work in the line of direct marketing when you were with Amway? What’s your opinion about direct marketing? Do the distributors in this industry need more inspiration than those in others?

“Before I started speaking to the various Diamond organizations in Amway I had almost 10 years of experience in the industry. I’ve learned a great deal about their system and I believe it’s the best system in the industry. There is nothing like it!

My opinion on direct marketing is simple. It’s the absolute best model for creating wealth and enjoying quality of life in the world. I say this because I believe it and can prove it. Where else can you get in a business for little upfront money yet have such huge residual income
potential — not to mention the incredible support system and mentoring available to insure your success. The only reason you would not do the business is because you don’t understand it or you’re lazy.

Does this industry need more inspiration than others? It needs no less. People as a rule have a need to be respected, appreciated, recognized, validated and encouraged. It’s a human value and is as natural as breathing. The opposite of encouragement is to humiliate, punish, embarrass or to publicly ridicule someone. Who wants this?”

Additionally, we are in business for ourselves and we are paid for performance. A system of learning and encouragement is needed because things don’t always go the way we expect it to go. Just like an athlete who loses an event and needs to be encouraged and reassured that there is
always another day… or the student who fails a test… or an employee who fails a task. They need encouragement as well and so do the business owners of our industry. They are building a team and encouragement and belief in one another is instrumental in the success of their business. Encouragement is a core value of a team - united we stand and divided we fall.”

~ 8. Is this your first trip to China? Did you know anything about China and its direct marketing industry?

“Yes, this is my first trip to China. And I’m very excited about my visit and I look forward to meeting many new friends at my seminars.

I have, however, spent a great deal of time in Asia, Thailand, Singapore, Malaysia and Indonesia.

Regarding my knowledge on Chinese direct marketing, here is what I know for sure: It’s one of the hottest countries for direct marketing in the world. The timing to build a direct marketing business is perfect.

I believe it’s better to be at the right place, at the right time with the right company, product, leadership and system than it is to be smart. What you need to succeed in direct marketing is vision and wisdom…to see what is possible for you and your family. Those who do will leave a
financial legacy for their children. Those who don’t will miss out on what I believe to be the greatest wealth building opportunity in the history of China.”

See you next week for Part 2!..

Source from Burke Hedges's Blog

哈佛大学最受欢迎的一堂课

2009-04-19T03:30:00.007+08:00

猜猜看，哈佛大学今年最受欢迎的是那一堂课？

答对了吗？最夯的选修课是「幸福课」，听课人数超过了王牌课《经济学导论》。而教这门课的是一位名不见经传的年轻讲师，名叫泰勒‧本－沙哈尔。泰勒‧本－沙哈尔自称是一个害羞、内向的人。

「在哈佛，我第一次教授积极心理学课时，只有8个学生报名，其中，还有2人中途退课。第二次，我有近400名学生。到了第三次，当学生数目达到850人时，上课更多的是让我感到紧张和不安。特别是当学生的家长、爷爷奶奶和那些媒体的朋友们，开始出现在我课堂上的时侯。」

我们来到这个世上，到底追求什么才是最重要的？

他坚定地认为：幸福感是衡量人生的唯一标准，是所有目标的最终目标。

「人们衡量商业成就时，标准是钱。用钱去评估资产和债务、利润和亏损，所有与钱无关的都不会被考虑进去，金钱是最高的财富。但是我认为，人生与商业一样，也有盈利和亏损。」

「具体地说，在看待自己的生命时，可以把负面情绪当作支出，把正面情绪当作收入。当正面情绪多于负面情绪时，我们在幸福这一『至高财富』上就盈利了。」

所以幸福，应该是快乐与意义的结合！

一个幸福的人，必须有一个明确的、可以带来快乐和意义的目标，然后努力地去追求。

真正快乐的人，会在自己觉得有意义的生活方式里，享受它的点点滴滴。

本－沙哈尔希望他的学生，学会接受自己，不要忽略自己所拥有的独特性；要摆脱「完美主义」，要「学会失败」。

本－沙哈尔还为学生简化出10条小贴纸：

1：遵从你内心的热情。
选择对你有意义并且能让你快乐的课，不要只是为了轻松地拿一个A而选课，或选你朋友上的课，或是别人认为你应该上的课。

2：多和朋友们在一起。
不要被日常工作缠身，亲密的人际关系，是你幸福感的信号，最有可能为你带来幸福。

3：学会失败。
成功没有捷径，历史上有成就的人，总是敢于行动，也会经常失败。不要让对失败的恐惧，绊住你尝试新事物的脚步。

4：接受自己全然为人。
失望、烦乱、悲伤是人性的一部分。接纳这些，并把它们当成自然之事，允许自己偶尔的失落和伤感。然后问问自己，能做些什么来让自己感觉好过一点。

5：简化生活。
更多并不总代表更好，好事多了，不一定有利。你选了太多的课吗？参加了太多的活动吗？应求精而不在多。

6：有规律地锻炼。
体育运动是你生活中最重要的事情之一。每周只要3次，每次只要30分钟，就能大大改善你的身心健康。

7：睡眠。
虽然有时「熬通宵」是不可避免的，但每天7到9小时的睡眠是一笔非常棒的投资。
这样，在醒着的时候，你会更有效率、更有创造力，也会更开心。

8．慷慨。
现在，你的钱包里可能没有太多钱，你也没有太多时间。但这并不意味着你无法助人。

「给予」和「接受」是一件事的两个面。当我们帮助别人时，我们也在帮助自己；当我们帮助自己时，也是在间接地帮助他人。

9：勇敢。
勇气并不是不恐惧，而是心怀恐惧，仍依然向前。

10：表达感激。
生活中，不要把你的家人、朋友、健康、教育等这一切当成理所当然的。它们都是你回味无穷的礼物。记录他人的点滴恩惠，始终保持感恩之心。每天或至少每周一次，请你把它们记下来。

Relax: How do hackers play games?

2009-04-19T03:16:00.004+08:00

Is there anything more fun???

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错误的医学标准危害人们的健康

2009-04-15T00:18:00.001+08:00

对于现在流行的那些疾病来讲，现代医疗手段束手无策。传统的医学领域执行的医学标准是给医生看的，而不是病人，更不是指你！这个标准对你来说是错误的，你应该关注的是健康的，最佳状态的标准。而传统的医学标准指的是疾病状态，身体受到严重伤害的状态的标准，这种标准目前正在错误地被人们当成健康的标准来执行。

传统医疗正在走入误区。治疗疾病是为了健康，可是我们却忽略健康的照顾和支持，我们对于健康的身体，一步步迈向疾病的过程毫无办法，却声称对于已经形成的疾病，或者说已经离健康很远的状态又声称可以控制，这个说法实际上是很可笑的。

保持一个人的最佳状态，就需要进行经常的调整。需要更精确的营养素补充计划来弥补膳食的不足，以保持健康。

打个比方，两天前你喝了一点酒，结果，当天，你在床上翻来覆去，大概一个小时后才睡着，那一天你就在这个一般状态下。而昨天晚上你躺下去，你迅速睡着了，这个时候你就是已经到了较好的状态。如果今天早上，你眼睛睁开，却又赖在那里大概十分钟，还不想起床，说明你又到了一般的状态。几天前，当你睡醒，眼睛张开后，你立刻就可以起床，然后马上就可以打电话就跟人聊天进入工作，那时候你接近最佳状态了。

某一天早上如果你上厕所，蹲下去，还没有把报纸目录看完，就已经做完排泄工作，这个时候你就是很好的状态。如果有一天，你进去上厕所，结果你看完了一本书还没有出来，那就属于较差的状态。

就是你该明白你在哪里，处于怎么样的状态。目前传统的医学领域，是怎么处理健康问题呢？请问当你到一般的状态的时候，你是否就应该警惕？如果你去医院体检医生会给你什么结论？他们会说你没事，等有事的时候再来吧？

因为现行的医疗检测标准，是针对疾病的，并不是针对健康的，可是社会大众却一直把它当成了健康的标准来做参照。医院的作用，也是针对疾病的控制作用的，而社会大众却错误地理解医院是个健康顾问机构。

这里就延伸出大量的社会问题。使广大人民存在一个其实很严重的误区，这个误区的存在，将使人们不能够在健康出现问题的时候，抓住最好的护理时机，进行一个整体的自然的调理，而是错误地参照了一个疾病的、危机的标准，等到危机出现，已经较难挽回的时候，再运用现代医疗系统努力控制，最终的结果，往往是已经错过了最佳调理期，而变得一边控制，一边发展，最后造成令人遗憾和惋惜的后果。这样的事实已经不断地出现，那些各行各业的许多精英的死，震撼了国人的神经。

各位看看，我们来示范一下那个过程，当我们出现健康状态的波动时，我们被暗示问题不大，对吗？好，那我们就开始等，终于等到睡眠不好，精神不好，内分泌失调然后便泌，经常感冒，是不是到了差的状态？到了这样的状态了，去医院检查，医生会怎么跟你讲？他说你还没有到标准！还没有到标准，到目前为止，你还可以，你的身体指标都还正常，等你已经明确超标了再说。这就是传统的医学中被误认的健康标准，按照这个标准，你需要等，耐心的等到你出现危机，已经超标，到了身体器官受损，系统受破坏，机能失调了才能算你是病人。

同时，等你到这个状态的时候，医生还会告诉你另外一句话：“对不起目前的医疗手段还没有办法治好你，你需要终生服用药物来进行控制。”人们到医院经常会得到这个结论。

更夸张的是最近我碰到一个病人，他举手问我，说有一个人是他的亲戚，摔了一脚，说是走路时突然晕倒，莫名奇妙的晕倒，摔倒在地上，从此下半身瘫痪，然后去医院检查，各项指标都正常，问我该怎么办？

“ 天啦”，这个人半身都瘫痪了，居然各项指标还检查正常，这个标准究竟是什么标准？他问我该怎么办？我说你把他搬回医院，把他送回医院，然后问问医生，到底怎么样才算不正常？如果这样的话，我们干脆先把他搞到不正常为止，再送去？半身瘫痪了，还嫌不够标准，我不知道什么叫标准了！或者，我们应该对这种标准的适用性提出质疑了！

有很多人都存在这个问题，很多人都已经失眠很久了，检查却没有问题！经常头晕，或者情绪波动很历害，或者内分泌乱七八糟却各项指标还是正常！那么我想请教，你要等到损害到什么程度才满意？医院究竟用来干嘛？这么多专业的医生，因为错误的标准，导致他们没有把他们的能力真正发挥出来啊。

这种情况，很多人都会遇到。以为体检指标正常就很健康，每年都去体检，自欺欺人，头还在痛，腰，依然酸；睡眠，依旧不好；便秘，仍然存在，一看指标正常，就高兴，就开始可以大胆地继续胡作非为。如果是这样看待指标，那么你们不用体检了，这样的体检根本就没用，这样一点用都没有。反而纵容了人们的错误行为。不体检还好一点，体检了，不是从此放纵，就是从此吓得半死。

有些人本来身体好好的，虽然有肿瘤，虽然有疾病，虽然有麻烦，可是如果他不去体检他还很高兴，一体检出来吓得半死。有一个人他体检出来鼻咽癌，心情开始不好，不体检还好好做人，一去体检，一个惊吓，两个月不到，就死了。根本就不是病死的，癌症不是急性病，一般来说，并不会发生这种情况。可是病人受到惊吓，从此，食欲下降，消化吸收功能减弱，身体的各个机能，都会迅速因为紧张而衰退，这才是真正的大问题。

实际上，对他的这个疾病，我有着不同的看法，病人本身是个非常热爱生命的人，做事很努力，事后有人问我，说你能不能救救他？我问他最近的一年当中，他有什么不舒服没有？家属说那倒没有，我说那你干嘛要说他是鼻咽癌？家属说医院检查的。我说问题是他身上没有任何不舒服的反应，你为什么要把他归类到鼻咽癌呢？你要明白一件事情，人体发生的任何反应身体都会帮他采取保护手段，这个手段的表现方式就是“鼻咽癌”，这个手段已经是身体的一种手段，实际上如果你没有恶意继续去伤害身体，那么你的身体疾病也就不会轻易加重，疾病的发展是需要条件的。如果，不增加身体的损害，疾病加重的机会也就不大，至少，发展的速度也就没有理由会变快。

很多人说如果不早点治疗，就会恶化。我问我的医生朋友，疾病的发生要不要条件？恶化要不要条件，如果你不给他条件他会不会恶化？你怕恶化，你就不要给他条件，不就不要担心了么吗？你以为只有做手术化疗才不会恶化，正好相反，手术和化疗就存在着为恶化创造条件的重大嫌疑。正是做手术化疗才会让他恶化，手术造成身体创伤（使损害放大数倍），增加感染机会，同时，令肿瘤的包块被打开后，容易不受控制地快速转移。化疗和手术一样增加了身体的负担，增加了身体的毒素，同时降低了身体的免疫力，而免疫力却是在对抗癌症过程中的关键。

所以你有没有发现大多数的病人，本来没有去医院还好好的，只要一去，就经常是要担心能不能回得来？这种事，百姓的心里担心了很久了，是实际存在的，不可否认的事实。我们需要检讨，看看是哪里出了问题。经常有很多病人，从医院回来后，从此其脸色、身体都乱七八糟，反复不断地出状况。

还有一些人更惨，他的观念已经完全被标准搞晕了。我曾经调过一个高血压病人他常年吃降压药，病得很历害，脸色很难看。我就给他调了一阵子之后，气色变得好看，精神变得更好，睡眠彻底改善了。可是他来找我投诉，他跟我说，你这是什么东西呀，我吃完之后血压又升高了。我问他，你的降压药停下，原来是靠药物控制，现在控制消除之后，反弹是很正常的。其实这时的血压才是真相，平时靠药物压制着。我又问他：“你现在精神有没有好一些呀”他说精神倒比原来好很多；睡眠呢，睡眠也改善了很多；我说那原来的腰酸呢？他说腰也不疼了，我说请问你要的是血压标准还是健康的改善？他说：“可是不对的，医生说血压太高，血管会破裂的”然后，他说他不调了，他还是要吃降压药。我说那好吧，那你照你说的办吧，他就吃回降压药，然后下次又见到他，他跟我讲，现在他的血压又稳定了，我说多少，他说125到130之间高压，我说那挺好的，恭喜你啊，我说那现在睡眠怎么样？他说我现在就是睡眠不好，我说那你精神呢，他说精神也不好，我说那你现在觉得腰还疼么？他说腰也开始疼了。接着他说可是现在他测出的血压正常了

这个笑话天天都在发生，这个人也不知道有什么错误，他血压作为唯一的健康标准，精神好不好无所谓，腰酸不酸不要紧，睡眠行不行没关系，血压成了他唯一衡量健康的指标，其他的健康标准似乎都不重要，似乎可以损害身体的其他标准来换去血压的标准。他活着不是为了健康不是为了有精神，他睡好、不好都无所谓，活着只是为了得到一个让医生满意的指标“正常”，用全身的损害，来换一个血压的指标。这种明显的、片面的思维方式，在大众当中广为流传，有许多人正在捍卫它，包块那些正在深受其害的人们。

所以记住，高血压的病人血压不是问题。不要想着他的高血压，他的那个高血压是有意义的，不是没意义的，你并不需要急着去降血压，需要调整的是他的内部的供血能力，他的血循环能力。血管的弹性是你要调整的。人的血压从低压80到高压120，这是叫做正常的。可是当年纪逐渐地增加，血管会不会硬化？血粘度会不会上升？血管硬化、血粘度上升，如果他的血压不提高，相对就是低血压了。这时，血液的流动速度肯定就不够快，对不对？血液流动慢了，身体就不能及时得到养分的供应，细胞就会因为缺养而加速死亡。

所以这种情况下，当他年纪增大、血管硬化，血黏度上升，他的血压增高，不是不正常，而是非升高不可，是必须升高的。不然他的血压相对来说就低了，血压是相对于血管弹性、血液粘度的一种指标，是一种相对指标，不是一个绝对指标。这个观点很重要。

你要这么去思考问题你就容易解决问题。可是传统的医疗模式习惯上把这样的一个单一指标作为健康标准，不惜牺牲人体的整体机能，来换取标准血压。时常这样去误导了病人，你有没有病没关系，你的血压指标正常就好了，很多人吃降降压药吃到头发都开始脱落，接着，整个人精神委靡，然后，身体状态明显得不好，呵呵，他却说现在血压正常了，似乎只要血压正常，其他都不重要。这样的思想，你要怎样去帮他？

人们似乎忘记，相对于高血压，人还有另外一个问题叫做低血压。你听说过降压药，但是，你没有听过升压药吧？为何没有升压药啊？因为升压，需要调整血管弹性，需要增加肌肉、血管、肾上腺的机能，这是真功夫，这就难了，只有食物才能够彻底做到。

人们要养成一个习惯，从自身的情况去找问题，而不是依赖药物。很多人觉得林海峰很历害，很了不起，动不动家里有一个什么人糖尿病，高血压、痛风、关节炎、癌症，就打电话想要找我解决问题，我告诉你，你要打电话找我，你不要怪我不客气哦，你不要怪我不礼貌哦，我一般接到这种电话，第一件事情就是痛骂你一顿，这种事情不该来找我，因为这个人缺的不是营养缺的是教育，所以凡是有这种病人，我告诉你给你一个办法，他的思想先要转变过来，才能够帮到他。这种人就应该先好好教育一下，先去看我的《健康一生》以及《整体自然疗法全书》，改变了他的观念，让他自己高度重视了，这样才能够开始提供建议，帮助他去调理。可是人很奇怪哦，你越骂他，他越觉得被重视，很有趣。

很多病人没有观念，随便拿个病历就让我看，找这个病历给我之前，我有三个要求，第一个凡是想接受我建议的这个人，他必须参加过我们举办的基础的营养课，然后必须仔细的去听我的演讲碟子，必须仔细的去听，听完了才有得商量，同时呢，你必须愿意改变，你愿意改变，不会跟我讨价还价，说什么：“我早上起不来呀？” 你起不来是你的事情关我什么事呀？对吧，对，你起不来，不要起来啦，就这个样子。我跟你讲你去医院哪个医生跟你客气过，那你为什么还弄个红包？

干嘛对病人那么客气，这个时候他是病人，他不是你的朋友，他是病人你必须以一个敬业的态度解决这个问题，我是很敬业的。不管什么病，我们都能够给病人支持，可是问题的关键并不在我，而是病人本身。并不是我厉害，而是病人本身，具有恢复健康的无限可能。

虽然看起来是我们在帮助病人恢复，可是实际上照顾自己的是病人而不是我们，所以病人本身才是关健，而我们不是关健，任何一个专业医生，对病人的帮助都是有限的，都帮不了他多大忙，我所做的无非是给他一个食物的选择和生活方式的教育，实际上，真正怎么去照顾自己，是他自己才能真正做到的事情！所以你如果不把他的思想观念改变，你再有能力也解决不了问题。

对于病人，是绝对不可以太热情的，太过热情，似乎显得你动机不正。我希望你可以真诚一点。骂人的时候真不真？很真的呢。对待病人需要的是真诚，但是别那么热情，搞得好像你比他还重视他的病，天天瞻前马后的在帮他张罗，做一个健康管理师，要做得有点格调。无论病人是对你来说是陌生的，还是你的父母，对你而言，只有唤醒病人的自觉性，唤醒病人愿意为自己负责任的决心，才是真正对病人有帮助的。健康管理师在中国还不是很被人们重视，从事这个方面工作的朋友，需要学会尊重你自己才会赢得别人的尊重。

人类过去的行为，违背着自然的法则，造成一方面营养流失、另一方面，热量摄取过多无法正常消耗，毒素不断的积累，压力也不断的积累，身体损耗无法及时修复，这一切是造成疾病的根源。这一切的根源，都在病人本身。

作者：林海峰来源：断食排毒

Why don’t people just tell you it’s Amway?

2009-04-02T22:07:00.002+08:00

A common complaint (and I must say a somewhat legitimate one) that I encounter about Amway rep’s is that they’re often not “up front” about the identity of the company they work with. Independent Business Owners generally don’t call people and say something like “What are you doing Friday for lunch? I’d like to show you the Amway business”. Indeed, many Independent Business Owners are reportedly actively taught to avoid telling a prospect they own an Amway business. My personal feeling is that we all need to be proud of our affiliation with Amway and not try to hide it. If one truly looks at the facts about Amway and all the great things Amway is doing around the world, it’s difficult not to be proud to be working with this extraordinary company. Even so, there are some legitimate reasons why being 100% upfront all of the time may not be the best approach. Check out this video about The Mojave Experiment by Microsoft and you’ll see why.

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三十岁以前不要去在乎的29件事

2009-03-29T15:51:00.001+08:00

卡内基所提出，三十岁以前不要去在乎的29件事。

1.放弃

把握的反面就是放弃，选择了一个机会，就等于放弃了其他所有的可能。当新的机会摆在面前的时候，敢于放弃已经获得的一切，这不是功亏一篑，这不是半途而废，这是为了谋求更大的发展空间；或者什么都不为，只因为喜欢这样做，因为，年轻就是最大的机会。人，只有在三十岁之前才会有这个胆量，有这个资本，有这个资格。

2.失恋

不是不在乎，是在乎不起。三十岁前最怕失去的不是已经拥有的东西，而是梦想。爱情如果只是一个过程，那么正是这个年龄应当经历的，如果要承担结果，三十岁以后，可能会更有能力，更有资格。其实，三十岁之前我们要做的事情很多，稍纵即逝，过久地沉溺在已经干涸的爱河的河床中，与这个年龄的生命节奏不合。

3.离婚

不是不在乎，是一切还来得及。一位三十八岁的女友与老公结婚十五年，冷战十三年，终于分手。她说：「如果说后来不愿意离婚是为了孩子，那他第一次提出离婚我没有同意，现在想来真不知道为什么。如果那个时候早分手，我的生活绝不会是今天这个样子。现在再重新开始，总觉得一切都晚了。」

4.漂泊

漂泊不是一种不幸，而是一种资格。趁着没有家室拖累，趁着身体健康，此时不飘何时飘？当然，漂泊的不一定是身体，也许只是幻想和梦境。新世纪的时尚领袖是飘一代，渴望漂泊的人惟一不飘的是那颗心。

5.失业

三十岁以前就尝到失业的滋味当然是一件不幸的事，但不一定是坏事。三十岁之前就过早地固定在一个职业上终此一生也许才是最大的不幸。失业也许让你想起埋藏很久而尘封的梦想，也许会唤醒连你自己都从未知道的潜能。也许你本来就没什么梦想，这时候也会逼着你去做梦。

6.时尚

不要追赶时尚。按说青年人应该是最时尚的，但是独立思考和个性生活更重要。在这个物质社会，其实对时尚的追求早已经成为对金钱的追求。今天，时尚是物欲和世俗的同义语。

7.格调

这是小资的东西，「小资」这个词在今天又二度流行，追求格调就是他们的专利。小资们说，有格调要满足四大要件：智慧、素养、自信和金钱。格调就是把「高尚」理解成穿着、气质、爱好的品味和室内装潢。也就是大老粗只会表现谈吐的庸俗，「小资」们已经有能力庸俗他们的心灵了。主流观念倒不是非要另类，另类已经成为年轻人观念的主流了，在今天，老土倒显得另类。关键是当今社会是一个创造观念的时代，而不是一个固守陈旧观念的时代。

8评价

我们最不应该做出的牺牲就是因为别人的评价而改变自我，因为那些对你指手画脚的人自己也不知道他们遵从的规则是什么。千万不要只遵从规矩做事，规矩还在创造之中，要根据自己的判断做每一件事，虽然这样会麻烦一点。

9.幼稚

不要怕人说我们幼稚，这正说明你还年轻，还充满活力。「成熟」是个吓人的词儿，也是个害人的词儿。成熟和幼稚是对一个人最大而无当、最不负责任、最没用的概括。那些庸人，绝不会有人说他们?捂X。不信，到哪天你被生活压得老气横秋，暮气沉沉的时候，人们一定会说你成熟了，你就会知道「成熟」是个什么东西。

10.不适应

在一首摇滚?有这么一句：「这个城市改变了我，这个城市不需要我。」不要盲目地适应你生存的环境，因为很可能这环境自身已经不适应这个社会的发展了。

11.失败

我的老师曾经跟我说，一个人起码要在感情上失恋一次，在事业上失败一次，在选择上失误一次，才能长大。不要说失败是成功之母那样的老话，失败来得越早越好，要是三十岁，四十岁之后再经历失败，有些事，很可能就来不及了。

12.错误

这是年轻人的专利。

13.浅薄

如果每看一次《泰坦尼克号》就流一次眼泪，每看一次《大话西游》就笑得直不起腰，就会有人笑你浅薄。其实那只能说明你的神经依旧非常敏锐，对哪怕非常微弱的刺激都会迅速做出适应的反应；等你的感觉迟钝了，人们就会说你深沉了。

14.明星

不是不必在乎，是不能在乎。明星在商品社会是一种消费品，花了钱，听了歌，看了电影，明星们的表现再好，不过是物超所值而己，也不值得崇拜呀？就像你在地摊上花五十块钱买的裙子，别人都猜是八百块钱买的，物超所值了吧？你就崇拜上这身裙子了？

15.代价

不是不计代价，而是要明白做任何事都要付出代价。对我们这个年龄的人来说，绝不是一句废话。否则，要到三十岁的时候才会明白自己曾经付出了多少代价，却不明白为什么付出，更不明白自己得到了多少，得到什么。

16.孤独

这是为自由付出的代价。

17.失意

包括感情上的，事业上的，也许仅仅是今天花了冤枉钱没买到可心的东西，朋友家高朋满座自己却插不上一句话。过分在乎失意的感受不是拿命运的捉弄来捉弄自己，就是拿别人的错误来惩罚自己。

18.缺陷

也许你个子矮，也许你长得不好看，也许你的嗓音像唐老鸭……那么你的优势就是你不会被自己表面的浅薄的亮点所耽搁，少花一些时间，少走一些弯，直接发现你内在的优势，直接挖掘自己深层的潜能。

19.误会

如果出于恶意，那么解释也没有用；如果出于善意，就不需要解释。专门说到「误会」倒不是因为一个人在三十岁之前被人误会的时候更多，而是这个年龄的人想不开的时候更多。

20.谣言

这是一种传染病，沉默是最好的疫苗。除非你能找出传染源，否则解释恰恰会成为病毒传播最理想的条件。

21.疯狂

这是年轻人最好的心理调适，只能说明你精力旺盛，身心健康。说你「疯狂」是某些生活压抑、心力交瘁的中老年人恶意的评价，他们就像一部年久修的机器，最需要调适，但只能微调，一次大修就会让他们完全报废。 <>

22.稳定

三十岁之前就在乎稳定的生活，那只有两种可能，要么就是中了彩票，要么就是未老先衰。

23.压力

中年人能够承受多大压力检验的是他的韧性；年轻人能承受多大压力，焕发的是他的潜能。

24.出国

也许是个机会，也许是个陷阱。除非从考大学的那一刻你就抱着这个目标，否则，对待出国的态度应该像对待爱情一样，努力争取，成败随缘。

25.薪水

只是给人打工，薪水再高也高不到哪儿去。所以在三十岁之前，机会远比金钱重要，事业远比金钱重要，将来远比金钱重要。对大多数人来说，三十岁之前干事业的首要目标绝不是挣钱，而是挣未来。

26.存款

这倒不一定是因为我们钱少，年轻人现在谁都知道钱是有生命的。机会这么多，条件这么好，可以拿钱去按揭，做今天的事，花明天的钱；也可以拿钱去投资，拿钱去「充电」。钱只有在它流通的过程中才是钱，否则只是一叠世界上质量最好的废纸。

27.房子

除非你买房子是为了升值，要么就是你结婚了。我有个同学，家在外地，大学毕业之后，单位没有宿舍，家里就给他买了一套房子。他曾经有过去北京工作的机会，但是他觉得刚买了房子就离开这座城市说不过去，就放弃了。到现在他工作稳定，但一事无成。唯一的成就就是结婚了，并且有了孩子，因为他觉得不该让这房子永远空着，所以房子变成了家。房子是都市生活的寓言，这个寓言不应该过早的和我们相关。

28.年龄

女孩子一过二十五就开始隐瞒自己的年龄，其实大可不必。现在青年期都延迟到四十五岁了，二十五又算得了什么呢？

29.在乎

这是一种拿不起、放不下的心态，它的反面不是放弃，而是天马行空，自由自在，永远保持革命乐观主义的精神。

Did You Ever Let a Dream Die to Avoid Rejection?

2009-03-21T12:03:00.003+08:00

Have you even had an idea that could have accelerate your success, but you didn't take advantage of it because you wanted to avoid rejection? Here's an example.

There was a man who lived everyday with once consuming dream - to become an actor. All he needed was parts to play. Undaunted, his dream drew him to write his own part. He put together a script and began looking for someone to produce it. He went from agent to agent and studio to studio; but no matter what he did, nothing came of it. He was turned down over a thousand times! Even if he had given up here, most people would still have called him courageous because he kept going in spite of all the rejection. But that's not where the story ends.

Finally, somebody liked his script. The timing couldn't have been better; he was flat broke. Yet because his dream to be an actor was so great, he turned down the $100,000 he was offered for his script - the producer wanted someone else to play his part! He kept searching until he got exactly what he wanted; he eventually starred in the movie he wrote, and won an Oscar. It was then followed by four sequels. Four holding on to his dream and turning down the initial $100,000 buyout offer, he now gets several million dollars per picture.

What would have happened if Sylvester Stallone had avoided rejection? Nobody would have ever know who "Rocky" was.

Every lasting success involves overcoming rejection. The only reason you may not yet be successful as you want to be maybe because, ironically, you haven't been rejected enough. When you adopt this attitude towards rejection, you'll find the rejection you face not only passes and fades in your memory, but also bring you closer to the success you deserve to have.

"Yes, if you can, why not me?"
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What way you use to make Money?

2009-03-12T15:10:00.005+08:00

Are you a pipeline builder or buckets carrier?

Life is not by chance; it is by choice.

Bad economic times open door for direct sales

2009-03-05T19:31:00.004+08:00

by Jennifer Youssef / The Detroit News

That ring at your door or on your phone could be Avon calling.

Or Amway.

Or a host of other direct-sell companies, thanks to a tumbling economy that has sent thousands of laid-off and struggling workers in Metro Detroit and across the nation signing up to sell cosmetics, jewelry, cleaning products and pet supplies to help make ends meet.

Recessions have historically meant a jump in the number of people selling products person to person -- that is, knocking on the doors of family and friends and hosting sales parties -- though figures for 2008 are not yet available, said Amy Robinson, a spokeswoman for the Direct Selling Association.

In 2007, the association counted 15 million direct sellers with sales totaling $30.8 billion -- both figures are slightly down from the year before but do not reflect the impact of the economy's nosedive in late 2008.

"Looking at the indications, I would say yes, things are good (for direct sales companies)," Robinson said.

Michigan-based Amway Corp., for instance, has seen double-digit increases in applications to sell its cosmetics and cleaning products. Avon Products Inc. saw a 1 percent jump in sales representatives in the last quarter of 2008, and Tupperware Brands Corp.'s sales force grew by 100,000 last year.

Direct selling is an attractive option because it has no overhead and it gives sellers an opportunity to socialize and network, which could lead to a permanent job, said Charles Ballard, an economic instructor at Michigan State University.

"It makes more sense than some alternatives like staying at home and looking at the want ads," he said.

Company applications soar

Amway, the Ada-based company that sells cosmetics and cleaning products, has seen an 11 percent jump in applications in the past year, said Jim Payne, executive vice president.

"When the economy goes bad, it does bode well for our industry," he said. "While it's early in the year, we see solid evidence that more people are interested (in selling Amway products.)"

Tupperware's sales force increased to 2.3 million from 2.2 million in the past year, according to the Orlando, Fla.-based company.

And interest in selling Avon Products, which specializes in cosmetics and jewelry and boasts 500,000 representatives in the U.S., also is on the rise.

"We have seen an increase in interest, especially during these tough economic times," said Lindsay Blaker, an Avon spokeswoman. "It's definitely a help for people who need a second income."

Selling Avon products has become a lifeline for Christine Few.

The 42-year-old Lincoln Park resident, laid off from her sales job at a welding company, began selling Avon in May. She earns $300 to $400 a month and uses the money to help foot the family's food bill.

"I've always been sales oriented," she said, adding she also enjoys the freedom of being her own boss and a flexible work schedule so she can take care of her two kids. "I don't have to worry about anyone being sick because my business still goes on."

Buyers become sellers

Rebecca Godin of Roseville started selling jewelry with Dallas-based Premier Designs Inc. in February to earn extra money so she and her husband can pay down their mortgage. She hopes to dedicate six to 12 hours a week to selling high-fashion necklaces, earrings and other accessories, besides working her full-time job as a foreman and purchaser for Phillip's Sign and Lighting in Harrison Township.

"It'll help me to make extra money so that my husband and I can eventually move and start a family," said Godin, 32.

The recession has changed the scope of questions about another direct sell company, Shure Pets, said founder Andrew Shure. In the past, consumers would ask about the Chicago-based company's line of pet products, which include botanical shampoos, canine breath mints and organic catnip. Now, they want to know how to go about selling the products.

"At first, they had a buyer mentality," Shure said. "Now, they have a seller mentality. People who contact us are much more interested in 'How can I make money?' "

Jenny Andrews, 34, of Battle Creek, is among them.

She became a consultant for Shure Pets in December after losing her job as a promotions contractor. So far, she's held six parties, making an average of $100 per party. She's also recruiting other sellers, earning extra money.

"I never thought I'd do it," she said. "But it hasn't been a hard sell on my end."

别对亲密的人泼冷水

2009-02-28T22:46:00.001+08:00

爱情慢性致死之一的大凶手，就是泼冷水。 (友情也是)

越熟的人越容易彼此泼冷水。

人们自然而然用来对付泼冷水的方式有两种，一是反泼冷水回去，二是保持沉默，警惕自己，不再将自己快乐或得意的事告知这个人。

两种都使双方疏离。

有一位建筑公司的高级主管对我说，他最不能忍耐的，就是他的太太有意无意的泼他冷水。

当他打电话给太太说，今晚不能回家吃饭，因为公司同仁决定一起为他庆祝四十岁生日时，他这位曾是他大学同班同学的妻子马上嗤之以鼻的说：「喔，你何德何能，为什么人家要帮你庆生？」

一句话使他满腔热情结成冰，心想：「早知妳这么刻薄，下次不回家吃饭，我就不告诉妳。」
其实，他的太太说的话并不表示瞧不起他，只是单纯的不太会说话。

被人指责「不会说话」的人，通常很少认为那是自己的短处，反而会沾沾自喜的认为自己很「直」，暗暗以为是优点，如此一来，改进的可能性就很低。

我曾在百货公司逛街时看到一对中年夫妻，太太刚从特价柜上挑起一件衣服，先生马上火眼金睛的大声斥责：「丑死了，放回去！」
太太一惊，马上缩手，尴尬的眼神看着和她拿起同样衣服的人，然后低头遁去。

我们一边以同情的眼光看着这位太太，一边为自己的审美品味被殃及而心有不甘。
肆无忌惮公开批评一个人穿着用品，构成的伤害和当面斥责他是白痴并没有两样。

亲子关系亦然。

一位朋友说起她和母亲的关如「冰」的原因，就是她母亲泼冷水的专长。

她自小成绩优秀，考第二名时，母亲先问的第一句话竟是：「第一名多妳几分？」

得到第一名时后，她原以为会得到赞赏，母亲却说：「成绩好没什么了不起，女孩子品德最重要。」
母亲生日时她将零用钱买了她觉得很漂亮的生日礼物，母亲却觉得浪费钱要她拿回去换，他嘟着嘴抗议「好心给雷击」，母亲却说：「没揍妳已经很好了。」

甚至当她长大成人后和母亲一起买衣服，站在试穿镜前，母亲也在她背后「赞赏」她「没想到妳全身上下，就这双小腿长得还可以。」

挑剔鬼、泼冷水、没建设性的话可不能辩称是「忠言逆耳」，说者不见得开心，听者更是大大伤了心。

人非钢铁，爱一个人能承受几次伤心？

Yes, You Can.

2009-02-25T15:43:00.005+08:00

Change is painful, but even more painful not to Change.

You can Change, Believe in.

Yes, You can do it.

Yes, You can.

星洲日报/ 财富广场/ 贫与富

2009-02-24T18:22:00.002+08:00

穷人缺什么？缺钱！但穷人最缺的不是财富，而是创造财富的能力。穷人怎样能摆脱厄运？分析了造成穷人艰难处境的部份原因，指出穷人自身的种种弱点及社会环境对穷人的不利影响。

穷人消费富人投资

女人都喜欢花钱，报纸上那些大版大版的购物广告，都是打给女人看的。

女人常常发疯似地买回一大堆打折商品，然后扔进储物柜里，直到落满灰尘，最后被当作废品处理掉。她们其实并不心痛，因为已经爽过了，花钱的意义在于购物的过程，至于商品本身的价值反而降到了其次。

这样的女人，你永远不要指望她成为一个投资家，她的兴趣只在于让钱流出去，而不在于让钱流进来。

很多穷人之所以一辈子都是穷人，就因为有同样的心态。穷人的钱不是资本，穷人不是投资家，穷人只是消费者。

一件时装会很快贬值，穿不了多久就只有扔掉。而购置可以赢利的资产，却能让钱源源不断流进你的腰包。

一套房子，你可以自己住，也可以出租，还可以转手卖，不同的处理方法决定了它的性质。同样一个东西，可能是资产，也可能是负债，就看钱是流向你的口袋，还是从你的口袋里流出去。如果你拥有的一套房子是让钱流到你的口袋，那就是资产；如果是为了这个房子，把钱从口袋里流出去，它就变成了你的负债。

富人总是尽量地把一切东西变成资产。穷人却总是把有限的东西变成负债，两者的距离当然会越拉越大了。

穷人买彩票‧富人当老板

说起投资，穷人总觉得房地产和股票是最好的选择，既不耽误上班，又可以轻轻松松操作，一边拿着稳定的收入，一边梦想着一夜暴富。

但是富人告诉你，在这个世界上，最有钱的人是老板，是成立自己的公司，把它经营好。在国外，公司经营好后，很容易上市，比尔盖茨并不买股票，但他拥有世界上市值最大的股票。

很多穷人都爱去买彩票，他就没有想过，彩票也是一个事业，那些卖彩票的人是怎么经营的呢？首先要让人把口袋里的钱掏出来，得有一个理由，彩票的理由就是中奖（虽然只是一个希望）；有了收钱的理由，还得有收钱的手段，对彩票来说，就是大量设投注点，利用分散在大街小巷的投注点，把散钱汇集起来；为了吸引更多的散钱，他需要打广告，树立一些中奖发财的榜样，还需要拿出一部份钱作为奖金返还给彩民，以刺激投注的热情。此外还有彩票销售权的取得、投注点的管理、利益的分配等等。

彩票不是任何人都能做的，也不是几个人就能做成的，它是一整套设计严密的营销方案，是一宗大生意，一个大事业。把卖彩票的道理想透了，很多生意上的门道你就懂了。

如果你的全部精力都集中在怎样选号、怎样投注、怎样去中大奖上，那么你是典型的穷人思维，你成功的几率只有千万分之一，几乎等于没有。你的钱永远只能被别人汇聚，为别人利用，成为别人事业的基石。

穷人做事情‧富人做事业

事业和事情，差以毫厘，失之千里，两者在时间、空间和性质上，都绝不相同。

如果有人投资让你去开一个杂货店，你做还是不做？从做事情的角度考虑，开杂货店用不着风吹日晒雨淋，除了进货，大部份时间都是坐着，可以闲聊，可以看报，可以打毛线，不可谓不轻松。钱呢，也有得赚，进价6毛的，卖价1元，零七八碎地一个月下来，衣食至少无忧。干吗不做？

但换一个角度想，开了杂货店，你就开不成百货店、饮食店、书店、鞋店、时装店，总之，做一件事的代价就是失去了做别的事的机会。

人生几十年，如果不想在一个10平方米的杂货店 (办公室) 内耗过，你就得想到底做什么更有前途。从事业的角度，你要考虑的就不是轻松，也不是一个月的收入，而是它未来发展的潜力和空间到底有多大。

星洲日報／財富廣場／貧與富‧2008.11.08

The Sinking of Japan, are you ready?

2009-02-18T01:15:00.005+08:00

NEC Corporation has started a trend that will forever change Japan. The nation's largest personal computer maker said at the end of last month it would fire more than 20 000 employees.

That announcement would have been shocking enough had it not opened the floodgates. Since then, Panasonic has said it would cut 15 000 jobs, while Nissan Motor is slashing 20 000.

Even during the darkest days of the 1990s - deflation, bank failures, public bailouts - firms avoided mass lay-offs.

NEC's precedent seems to have made it fashionable to do just that.

What's next? Sony firing 50 000 people in Tokyo? The psychological blow to already sceptical Japanese consumers is sure to deepen the recession at a speed few thought remotely possible just two months ago.

"Japan's recent economic decline is faster than that of the US, which has been experiencing its worst financial crisis in a century," Kazuo Momma, the head of research and statistics at the Bank of Japan, said on Monday.

Momma said the world's second-largest economy might have shrunk at an "unimaginable" speed last quarter.

Gross domestic product plunged at an annual 11.7 percent pace in the fourth quarter of last year. That would be the steepest decline since 1974.

There would be only one way to describe such a figure: Wow!

Remember Japan was supposed to avoid the worst of the global credit crisis. Its cash-rich banks were expected to help recapitalise Wall Street. Its firms were set to go on a merger-and-acquisitions tear.

Now, prospects for Japan are sinking like, well, the Titanic.

Source: http://www.busrep.co.za/index.php?fSectionId=553&fArticleId=4842309

"When these MNC companies announce retrenchments, it'll take 3-6 months for it to fully take effect. After that, that's when you get the real impact to consumer spending, investment etc.

With Malaysia, it's absolutely the same. It'll take the same 6 months for Malaysians to be fully hit by retrenchments and the recession. The difference is that, most workers in Malaysia still don't know they have already been retrenched. They still don't know they only have a few more months of paychecks before they're out on the street. Malaysian companies won't give you 3-6 months notice before they retrench you." Quoted from here.

Have you noticed how we don’t want to change when things change?

2009-02-10T16:09:00.003+08:00

One sunny Sunday in Chicago, several former classmates gathered for lunch, having attended their high school reunion the night before. They wanted to hear more about what was happening in each other’s lives. After a good deal of kidding, and a good meal, they settled into an interesting conversation.

Angela, who had been one of the most popular people in the class, said, “Life sure turned out differently than I thought it would when we were in school. A lot has changed.”

“It certainly has, “ Nathan echoed. They knew he had gone into his family’s business, which had operated pretty much the same and had been a part of the local community for as long as they could remember. So, they were surprised when he seemed concerned. He asked, “But, have you noticed how we don’t want to change when things change?”

Carlos said, “I guess we resist changing because we’re afraid of change.”

“Carlos, you were Captain of the football team,” Jessica said. “I never thought I’d hear you say anything about being afraid!”

They all laughed as they realized that although they had gone off in different directions- from working at home to managing companies-they were experiencing similar feelings.

Everyone was trying to cope with the unexpected changes that were happening to them in recent years. And most admitted that they did not know a good way to handle them.

Then Michael said, “I used to be afraid of change. When a big change came along in our business, we didn’t know what to do. So we didn’t do anything differently and we almost lost it.

“That is,” he continued, “until I heard a funny little story that changed everything.”

“How so?” Nathan asked.

“Well, the story altered the way I looked at change, and after that, things quickly improved for me – at work and in my life.

“Then-I passed the story on to some people in our company and they passed it on to others, and soon our business did much better, because we all adapted to change better. And like me, many people said it helped them in their personal lives.”

“What’s the story?” Angela asked.
“It’s called, ‘Who Moved My Cheese?”
The group laughed. “I think I like it already,”
Carlos said. “Would you tell us the story?”
“Sure,” Michael replied. “I’d be happy to- It doesn’t take long.” And so he began.

[...To be Continued]
Who Moved My Cheese?
---- by DR SPENCER JOHNSON

芝加哥的同学聚会

芝加哥一个阳光明明媚的星期天，许多过去在学校曾是好朋友的同班同学聚在一起搞午餐会。前一天晚上，他们刚参加完全体高中同学的聚会。在一阵打闹嬉笑和丰盛和午餐后，他们坐下来开始了饶有兴致的交谈，希望彼此多了解一些分别后的生活经历。

安杰拉曾是班上最受欢迎的人之一，她第一个发表感慨：“生活真的是跟我们做学生时想像的完全不一样，变化太多了。”

“的确如此！”内森附和道。内森正如大家所预料的那样，毕业后就进入了他的家族企业。这家企业的经营模式经年未变，在当地人的记忆中，那可是一家历史悠久的老字号了。因此，当内森若有所思地附和着安杰拉，并发出如此感叹时，大家都感到有些吃惊。

内森好像并未注意到大家的诧异，表情忧郁地接着说：“你们是否注意到，当周围的事情已经发生变化时，我们却不想对自己有所改变。”

卡洛斯接着说道：“我们拒绝改变，是因为我们害怕改变。”
杰西卡接过他的话：“噢，卡洛斯，你可是学校的足球队长，我们心目中的英雄，我从没想过还有什么东西可以让你害怕的。”

大家都笑了起来。他们都意识到，尽管大家毕业后都在各自不同的方面发展——从在家里工作到在外经营管理公司——但好像都有着类似的感觉——害怕改变。

这些年来，每个人都试图应对发生在生活中的各种意想不到的变化。但大家都承认，他们找不到一种很好的应对办法。

这时，迈克尔发话了：“我过去也一直害怕改变，直到有一天，我们的生意出现了一个重大的变故，但我们公司所有的人都不知道该怎样去应付，由于我们没能及时做出调整，使我们几乎丢掉了全部的生意。”

“后来，”迈克尔继续讲道：“我听到了一个故事，这个故事使一切都改变了。”

“此话怎讲？”内森问道。

“喔，因为这个故事改变了我害怕改变的个性以及我对变化的看法——从害怕失去某些东西到期待获得某些东西——它教会我如何去做。从那以后，我的一切都迅速地改善了——无论工作还是生活。”

“是什么故事这么神奇？”好几个人异口同声地问道。

“一开始，我被这个故事显而易见的简单给苦恼了，它就像我们小时候听腻了的那些寓言故事一样。”

“再后来，我把这个故事告诉我们公司里的其他人，其他人又讲给其他人听。很快，公司里的业务有了明显的改进，因为我们大家都能及时地做出很好的调整以随时应对变化。与我的感受一样，许多人都说，这个故事使他们的个人生活大受裨益。”

“当然，也有人说他们从中没有得到什么，他们或者是知道这样的教训而且已经领教多次了。或者，更普遍的是，他们觉得自己已经懂得够多，不需要再学习什么了。他们甚至假装看不到如此多的人正在从中受益。”

“我的一位有些呆板的高级主管就说，读这个故事只是浪费时间。然而大家都取笑他，把他比做故事中的一个角色——从不学习新的东西而且从不愿意改变。”
安杰拉有些迫不及待：“别卖关子了，这究竟是一个什么样的故事？”

“故事的名字叫作‘谁动了我的奶酪’。”

大家都哄笑起来。卡洛斯说：“我想仅凭这个名字，我就已经喜欢上这个故事了。你能讲给我们听听吗？或许我们也会从中有所收获。”

“当然，”迈克尔答道：“我非常愿意把这个故事讲给你们听。它并不长。”于是他开始给大家讲述这个故事。

[...继续]
Who Moved My Cheese?
----作者：[美]斯宾塞·约翰逊

Eye Spy

2009-02-05T11:06:00.006+08:00

Eye diseases generally develop slowly and many factors, both genetic and environmental affect their progression. Can supplements help treat or prevent the development of eye diseases? Unity NTUC Healthcare pharmacist, IRENE NAIR advises.

You think you eat well enough not to need supplements? Unfortunately, it's unlikely you are getting enough of essential nutrients, so do seriously look at what you might need to help significantly reduce the risk of developing diseases associated with aging.

LUTEIN
Lutein is a naturally occurring carotenoid. It is found in green leafy vegetables like spinach and kale. Carrots and tomatoes are a rich source of lutein, Egg yolk and animal fats are also rich in lutein.

In the eyes, lutein is found to be present in a concentrated area of the macula. This is a small area of the retina which is responsible for central vision. It has been found that high intake of lutein is associated with a lower risk of blindness arising from degeneration of the macula. Lutein is an antioxidant which helps protect against free radical damage and is also know s to provide nutritional support to the eye. Lutein also filters the high energy blue wavelength of light. Blue light tends to induce oxidative stress and thus produces free radicals leading to damage. This blue light is not the same as the Ultraviolet A or B wavelength of the invisible spectrum.

How much lutein do we need daily
We need about 6 to 10mg daily - about a large bowl of fresh green leafy vegetables like spinach. It is a fact that most of us do not normally consume enough foods rich in lutein daily.
Fortunately lutein is widely available in a variety of nutritional supplements.

BILBERRY
Bilberry was historically used to treat gastrointestinal ailments either topically or as an infusion. Today it is used to also treat menstrual cramps, varicose veins, venous insufficiency, other circulatory problems and eye problems.

It has been found to improve night vision and evidence has shown that bilberry consumption ma inhibit or even reserve eye disorders such as macular degeneration. Do note it is not a cure for AMD (Acute Macular Degeneration) nor will it restore vision already lost but it has been shown to significantly reduce the risk of developing the disease.

OMEGA-3 FISH OIL
Omega-3 Fish Oil has been called "the miracle food of the 21st Century". It has been shown to help prevent heart disease, maintain optimum blood pressure and cholesterol levels and give almost immediate relief from pain, migraine, depression, autoimmune diseases as well as help with eye health.

It also improves brain development and memory function from conception through to old age, thus it is also perfect brain food.

Source: lifesytle jan 2009 #38

Who's Lying?

2009-02-03T23:47:00.004+08:00

Are you getting the wrong information about MLM? Did you ask yourself the question: Is the advice you're taking really a lie? Is the management of some network marketing company hiding the information you need? Learn how to determine if the information you've been given about network marketing is valid.

MLM is a great industry, but you have to determine the quality of the company, the training, and the structure plan. You need to shift from any activities that you see that are unethical. Refer the older post for more information about MLM SCAM in Malaysia.

Don't be a Victim

2009-01-22T21:09:00.007+08:00

First I would like to apologize to those who felt uncomfortable and uneasy towards me when i was about to sharing something that u might not even know. Guess, when i posted some "MLM", "Multi-level Marketing" or "Network Marketing" related articles and discussions, most of the readers get pissed off and just closed the web page. Yes, I understand because many of the scams come from this powerful earning tool and many people get conned because of their 'quick money earning scheme'. I knew this because some of my friends involve in some unethical/illegal MLM companies and unethical activities as well.

Let's make thing clear, if you were in the unethical/illegal company you probably participated in unethical/illegal activities; but if you were in the right company you got the possibility to either participate in right activities or unethical activities. You gotta shift from any companies or activities that you see that are unethical.

If somebody uses a rock to kill somebody don't blame the rock, the rock did not kill somebody, the person did.

I found this post by a local forum. I hope you can spare a little time to finish reading it.

Please note that my message here is NOT meant to support or go against MLM or direct-selling business.

These information are meant for you to know and warn your family members and loved ones before they become victims.

"People got victimized by scams because they don't know about it and they don't know about it because those who knew about it did not share it"

Here are some hot scams in Malaysia, briefly, (I will elaborate more if you contribute):

1) The Cafe Scams - Island Red Cafe & Stevens Corner(strange, both in Pandan Indah) - Island Red Cafe collects members RM6,000 each and promised 5% return every month and even give you a name in the ROC as a shareholder but what's the point when they run away ? Stevens Corner, the famous indian coffee shop follows due to drop of business since their renovation. They collect RM3,000 per member and promise return of RM150 monthly and plans to open nice fanchisee cafe called StevensTeaGarden. Someone mentioned they will make you sign an agreement that give them the rights NOT to pay you anything in future. If you really wish to join, ask for a copy of their agreement and consult your lawyer BEFORE paying them. Bet you will NOT get a copy. Both collect monies from new members with MLM recruitment schemes and pay the old members like Sunshine Empire. You never know when they will run away.

2) Sunshine Empire - This licensed and legal Company has an impressive office at the ground level of KUB building along Jalan Yap Kwan Seng, near Menara Public Bank and AmBank Building. They also have a showroom office at the ground level in the next building. 2 or 3 months ago, Singapore's Straits Times and The Paper published big news reminding their people to be careful and NOT to believe in them. Hope someone can put up the link or google for it.(As expected, they STOPPED paying back members now and all investors LOST their money).

Someone below has put a link to the Singapore news. In fact there are more to it. Although Singapore is investigating them, they did not stop their business as the business is legal and so far, no Singaporean have failed to receive their commissions as promised. Thus, the government cannot stop them yet.

The news published that the founder, director and group president is someone named James Phang but he is NOT the owner. Isn't this quite strange ? At the end of the game, James Phang can just disappear from the Company easily and claimed that he was just "employed". Such trick always happened in scam businesses.

Now, the Company has STOPPED paying commissions and interests to members with the excuse that the Singapore government has freezed their bank account while under investigation. Do you think their boss will be so stupid to keep much monies in the bank to be freezed ? They are all transfered away. It's just an excuses not to pay back to members and members are only paid "e-bonus-points" which is cashless. If they wish to convert to cash, they have to recruit new members to pay them cash and the recruiter less out trom the amount. So victims act like Vampires and "forced" to victimise other victims if they wish to get their monies back. And their victims will later transform to vampires and the scam carries on.....

3) MOBILWALLET - This Company owned by 2 young men, Stanley & Rey Gan, office in Queens Avenue Park has collect multi-millions the last 2 years. Claimed that they tied up with Telekoms, Utility Board payment like Water & Electricity bills, even Maybank got fooled by them. Advertisement Billboards everywhere. They STOPPED paying back their members few months ago and the members cannot do anything because they are made to sign an agreement unaware that they have to claims if the company stopped paying them by CHANGING terms and policies.

4) Water businesses - Oxygenated and alkaline water products - Some of these are bottled water and some are filters or equipment that claimed the trick. One of the better known Company that sold "oxygen" water is SITO(supposed to stand for Selangor International Trading Organiszation and claimed Selangor State Government owned some share in it). The key person and founder is a Dato Robert Ong from Rawang but his name is no longer in the business now. Their products are sold for RM2 to RM3 for a 350ml bottle and now concentrating mostly in the Indian market. Their Chinese and Malays market are long gone since a year or 2 ago. Their customers are made to believe that their water has more oxygen and able to give miraculous effects for the body. Water is H2O, how to put more O into it ? Anyone knows how much oxygen do we breathe into our body everyday at FOC ? Latest news is that this SITO Company is going to create new label to market under a new Company since the SITO name has already gone bad. Someone informed that this Company is owing alot of money(due to refunds) to ex-stockists but just refuse to pay them.
(Latest news, SITO shifted to another place and their MLM business has closed but planning to start again with a different name, beware !!)
Alkaline Products - Can anyone explain how it can work for the body ? The stomach's gastric liquid is so acidic that water of any pH that goes through it will not make any difference.

5) Car Fuel Booster - K-Link, the famous scam MLM Company that sold the footpatch TAKARA, later the "cock-ring" and energy-card launched the patrol-saving pills last year. Got so hot that even grocery shops are selling for them. Recently many of these cars that used the pills are rushing to the workshops to clean the residual. Few months ago, another MLM Company launched a fuel booster gadget, claimed that saves up to 20% fuel, that is attached to the cigarette lighter. Started off well using binary plan but businese begin to fade now and most users find it NOT effective.

6) Perfumery Products(eg. Lampe Berger & Bel Air)(more details later). Lampe Berger is not so hot now in the neighbouring countries but there are still new victims every month in Malaysia. Must thanks to those who have contributed and kept the thread alive here in Kopitiam. Bel-Air have closed in Malaysia. LB is almost zero in Singapore. This perfumery product from France with over 100 years history is just bottles and fragrance(check the factory's website) but the Company marketing them in Asia claimed "aromatheraphy" products. Hong Kong TVB aired a program that exposed their scam but their members claimed that HK's TVB already apologised to them. Note that the biggest strenght in a MLM Scam is their members will go all way out to lie in order to defend for their Company. The reason is simple; these members fear that they will not be able to make their money back if the Company collapsed. Knowing that the Lampe Berger products are moving slow, they add a line of skincare products named Estebel, also claime to have over 100 years history in France.(Hardly anymore Chinese newcomers, they are now tapping the Malays in Malaysia)

7) Energy Products(eg. stone pendants, bracelets, mattress and pillows). They use all sorts of gimmicks and demonstration to make you into believing them. They will do some tricks and demo to prove that these products really produce energy BUT is there any tricks in their demo ? So what if there really produce energy; is it good or strong enough to help the body ? The effect is actually PLACEBO which I will elaborate in a new thread soon.(more details later)

8) Hi-Tech products(names like bio-tech, nano-tech that claimed millions of dollars of research involved, eg Bio-Young and XKL few years ago). Most of these will claimed a professor behind them(even with name and picture of a person) or used words like "U.S.A. formula", "German Technology" or "Nanotechnology" and no further details(more details later). If you ask for more details like the professor or factory's address, the answer will be "trade secrets".

9) Investment Schemes - SWISSCASH is the King of all. Swisscash is nearly over now but there are many similar and smaller ones that are still on.(Now, it's closed or stopped paying back members)

10) GoldQuest - This Company that claimed to be HK-based started with some non-value gold-plated coins that are sold for over RM2,000 have several names and changed products several times. QuestVacation, QuestNet, etc. They have several offices in Amcorp Mall, PJ and their key person(in fact, the owner), a Malaysian Indian was arrested last year in Indonesia for having involved in a very big Phillipines scam. Most of their overseas offices are closed or inactive but their Malaysia business is still hot, with some "energy" products.(Can someone please provide a link which showed the news that their boss was involved in a big scam in Philippines and was arrested in last year ?)

11) Numerology & Fortune telling - A Company named Visible is using MLM to sell fortune telling classes using your birthday based on Numerology fortune telling. Prpspects will be told that they need to buy a certain "number" between 1 to 9 in the form of pendants or bracelets made of stainless steel and sold from RM600 to RM20,000. Customers, or rather victims are mostly females from rural areas. Very hot in Penang now and a number of spin-off Companies have started.

12) MJ-Life - This Company boost of a very big background with many many years of history which is NOT true. Their people or associates may be long in business but nothing to do with their MLM launched recently. Why do I consider it a scam or bad ? New members are told to pay a sum of money(up to RM1000) and you get NOTHING for it. You only get a membership can entitle you to enjoy all sorts of special price and discounts when you have medical check-ups in their centres. They will claim all those check-ups cost more if done elsewhere. It's not true. Only the naive and those new to medical check-ups will fall victims to them. Most members who paid the money ended up with nothing.

13) Seaweed Venture Scams - 1 such Company is located in Taman Maluri, Cheras. They will ask you to invest a few thousands ringgits for their venture of growing seaweeds in East Malaysia and you are guaranteed returns. To gain your confidence further, they will tell you your investment money is secured by "insurance" or "unit trusts" & "trustees". When you ask for further documents to prove, they will give all sorts of excuses or just ignore you because they know they cannot get you. These Seaweed scam is one of the hottest now, warn all your friends about it before they are victimised.

14) MXM(previously MGM) - This is a master scam among the younger group, very successful 2 or 3 years ago but since there moved to their big 10-storey office at Phileo Damansara and changed name to MXM, their business dropped. They collect members RM3,000 to RM4,000 with credit card monthly easy payment and in return you get a hospital benefits insurance from Pacific Insurance worth only a few hundred RMs together with some you-don't-need medical check-ups from their associate Company Pathlab. Also talk about fitness, lifestyles bullshit that is all worthless.

15) Gano Excel - This company from the north, a copycat of DXN selling Lingzhi capsules created a new Company called Gano iTouch to cash-in on the internet like e-Cosway after their Company went down the drain since the last 2 years, selling Linzhi and some no-value energy pendants and alkaline water gadgets. They provide free transport every weekend from KL to visit their Alor Star office.

16) NuLife(HK) - This Company started by some HK people has been in Malaysia for more than 10 years but they have flopped in HK and Malaysia due to bad management and a product scam making use of a prosecuted American named Dr Jeffrey Bland, found guilty of false products claim. Since this case in the US leaked out and many Malaysians found out that the real boss in HK is a Steven Tang(he cheated many Malaysians in another scheme about 20 years ago) their business went down all the way. Now they claim Malaysian partners cheated them and start a new Company in Malaysia. Watch out, this new Company will come out with some investment scheme idea that will get many to lose their money.

17) Arowana Fish Breeding, Oora from Germany, Biofuel(Kompleks Maluri) etc - These are some newer scams. Arowana fish venture ask you to invest some money and give you fixed return. Biofuel will tell you their Indonesia connections(just like Sunshine Empire before using Taiwan) & Oora from Germany(I never trust those cruel Germans) that market some bio-chips and a gadget that claims to give energy and therapeutic effects of accupunture, tai-chi, yoga, etc depending how you set the toy-like gadget, wear it on your body and you get the effect later. They could not explain or provide any demonstration to prove their effectiveness. Only doctors and papers claim that I will never trust. The health effect is actually PLACEBO, which I will elaborate in a different thread.

Lastly but not least, thank you for reading to the end and I hope you can come back for more details and updates or help to contribute for me to update. I hope to receive information of any scams so that I can share them here to protect others. Although most of those above-mentioned are marketed through direct-selling or MLM schemes, I will soon add non-MLM scams. Please contribute.

If you wish to send me any new information confidentially, you may email them to me at:

stopscams007@gmail.com

Good Luck.

PS. Please pass this link to your friends if you find it helpful and thank you to those who contributed or e-mailed me with information.

That's all for the current update by the author above. If you have any question or comments please do not hesitate to leave your comments here.

Why Network Marketing? - Part 2: Residual Income

2009-01-20T00:16:00.003+08:00

Residual Income

Residual income is recurring income that continues to come to you long after the work you've done to produce it has ended. There are lots of ways to produce residual income. But many people don't understand it. Others have never thought about or been exposed to it. And unfortunately, many ways of producing it are out of reach for 'average' people.

Successful authors, actors, musicians, and insurance agents are some of the more familiar avocations that produce residual income. Probably the simplest and best example of passive residual income is interest earned on money in the bank or other investments. It gets paid or credited to you without you having to invest any more time to produce it.

Using the "virtual millionaire" concept I will explain below, if you had a million dollars in the bank earning 6% interest, that would produce about $60,000 of annual income (before taxes). So if you have any source of passive residual income producing $60,000 or more a year, you are a "virtual millionaire".

And with the right business, that can be much easier to accomplish than trying to overcome all the roadblocks to accumulating a million dollars in the bank. Instead of government fighting you all the way (taxing all your income), government actually becomes an active partner by giving you all kinds of tax breaks and incentives to succeed.

There are only two sources of money:

1. People at Work
2. Money at Work

The simple goal of Retirement & Financial Planning is to make sure you accumulate enough money (or income producing assets), so that when you decide or are forced to retire, it will produce enough PASSIVE RESIDUAL INCOME for you to enjoy the lifestyle you choose for as long as you live.

The same concept holds true in Network Marketing. But Leverage, and Duplication or Geometric Progression, can help you build it much faster in the RIGHT Network Marketing program.

One of the first questions I often ask prospects is:

"If you had the choice of doing a job and earning $500 once, or getting paid $100/mo for the rest of your life, which would you choose?"

You'd be surprised at how many answer $500! These people either, 1) are not good prospects or, 2) need some education. That question is one quick and simple way to pre-qualify people. Those who don't understand that principle may never achieve their true potential.

Many people have a hard time understanding this FACT and mistakenly chase false promises of quick or easy money. That's why there will always be crooks and con artists in the world pitching "get rich quick and easy". Successful people ignore them. Naive or greedy people usually get burned.

Residual income is NOT about "get rich quick", even though with the right opportunity it's possible to produce a small fortune in a relatively short time.

If you're especially talented or have the time and money to invest, you may have some success in less than a year. And many people do. But without a major investment of time or money it takes most 'typical' people a year or two of part time work to generate a decent income, and another year or two to really hit the big time. But achieving success with 2 - 4 years of part-time effort beats the widely accepted 'standard' plan of slaving 20 - 40 years working for someone else to make them wealthy!

Most people who fail at network marketing either choose the wrong company or just give up too soon and quit because they expect INSTANT results. But because the real beauty of residual income is on the back end, not the front, once you build it you have the financial security and time freedom to do anything you want the rest of your life!

The RIGHT network marketing opportunity allows anyone, with no prior experience, special skills, or large capital outlay, to build long term, passive residual income.

A critical component to building long term residual income is offering high quality, high demand, value-priced, 'consumable' products or services that people use and re-order month after month.

Because of this simple fact, the top industry in Network Marketing by any measurable standard is Nutritional Supplements and Personal Care products. Some people refuse to consider this industry because they don't take supplements themselves or don't understand the 'Big Picture' and successful business model of this industry.

Do you think Burger King and McDonald franchise owners invest hundreds of thousands of dollars because they like to eat fast food burgers? Not hardly! They understand human nature and trends in society. We're a convenience oriented society, and a large part of the population would rather eat low cost convenience food, even if we know it's not good for us.

But there's also a booming trend toward improving your health, improving your life, and developing personal and time freedom. Many 'opportunity seekers' completely miss or ignore these trends in society. If your business is in front of multiple long term trends, you dramatically increase your chances for success.

(Part Three...)

Why Network Marketing?

2009-01-18T23:17:00.006+08:00

"There are bad apples in every bunch, and this industry has more than it's share. But it can produce outstanding results if you know how to find the RIGHT company. And to MAXIMIZE YOUR POTENTIAL, there are a few simple concepts that are critical to your success."

Network Marketing, 'MLM', and Multi Level Marketing are all terms that refer to the same type of business model. While many close-minded people outside the industry (and others who've tried it and quit), have biased or negative wrong impressions, and despite the fact that it is used and abused by many crooks and con-artists, this business model has exceptional performance potential.

There are bad apples in every bunch, and this industry has more than it's share. But it can produce outstanding results if you know how to find the right company. And to maximize your potential, there are a few simple concepts whose understanding is critical to your success.

Unlike franchises or conventional businesses, Network Marketing, MLM, and Multilevel Marketing are the only business models that take advantage of all three of the important, yet misunderstood principles of:

Passive Residual Income, Leverage, and Geometric Growth.

Whether it's a franchise or conventional business, both require major investments of time and money, and special skills if you hope to be really successful. Even the relatively small percentage who achieve true success usually take years just to break even.

On the other hand, with the advent and popularity of the Internet and the rampant quest to "Get Rich Quick for Doing Nothing", many people have gotten all excited about affiliate, associate, referral, or co-op programs as they are sometimes called. But very few of the thousands of these being promoted have any real chance of making any significant money for the vast majority of people who get involved.

If you're even moderately successful in networking, you undoubtedly understand and believe in the three principles above. If you haven't yet had the success you desire, you may not completely understand these principles, or how to get them across to others. Highly successful networkers have learned how to ask the right questions, then help others understand and take advantage of these important and powerful concepts.

Unfortunately these principles are not well understood by the majority of the population. And that's just one reason why so many quit network marketing. There are lots of other reasons, and it would take a book to cover them all. But this is one of the more common ones. Because if you don't understand or believe in these principles, it's impossible to help others fully comprehend and appreciate them.

Let's face it, our educational system trains (or brainwashes) us to be conformists, to do what others tell us to do, and to prepare for a JOB, not an entrepreneurial business opportunity
. So those of us who crave our independence and freedom, head in that direction in spite of our education, rarely because of it.

And even though many people claim they'd like to be their own boss or own their own business, only a small percentage of the population possess the necessary desire for success to risk stepping out of their 'comfort zones' to pursue their dreams.

Most people are afraid of failure, and for them it may be better and easier to live life in a rut. Others are satisfied or even happy with their jobs, incomes, or lifestyles, and that's great for them. But if you're one of millions who yearn for more freedom and control in your life, you must understand the following three principles to achieve True Success in Network Marketing.

(Part Two...)

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2009-01-15T22:06:00.003+08:00

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你是新贫族吗？

2009-01-12T21:16:00.000+08:00

你是新贫族吗？

以下几种现象是否发生在你的身上：

─经常没钱
─经常借钱
─赚得不多
─花得很多
─有钱时什么都敢玩、什么都敢买
─没钱时便一贫如洗，艰难度日
─信用卡总是透支

你拥有上述特征吗？如果有的话，那么你就要赶快下定决心进行“脱贫”计划，因为你是典型的大马式“新贫族”（new poor）。这群人的口号是“心无杂念享受现在”，而“超前消费”就是他们追求的生活理念。

你也许以前不是新贫族，但在通货膨胀压力席卷全球下，每个月的花费好像出现超支的现象，特别是在物价涨但薪水没涨的环境下形成。在现有环境下，大马的一些中低阶级无奈变成新贫族，而且数量有继续上扬的趋势。

然而，你不需要因为成为新贫族而感到沮丧。如果你有恒心，一切都不会来得太迟。本周《财富广场》将为你解剖新贫族的个性及分享一些现象。

油价上涨带动百物涨价，加上环球经济环境增长放缓，你现在手持的金钱价值越变越小，这也促使更多的人面对生活问题，特别是低收入者。在入不敷出下，相关人士顿时变成了新贫族。

这也被论为城市的一种“时尚病”。

在台湾，新贫族尤指那些赚得多，但花得更多的族群，而最具代表性的3个族群指向低薪贫穷工作人口（working poor）、有工作能力却失业的人口及女性单亲家庭。也有人将新贫族归类为没有正式职业的“边缘性劳动者”。

台大社工系教授林万亿分析，目前的失业人口里，超过90%是属于新贫族，因为所得水准与过去的储蓄率几乎都处于台湾的最低层。这些人一旦失业就会掉入新贫族的生活条件，而且找到新工作的机率非常低。

大马新贫新诠译

整个情况在大马出现了另一种涵义。近期在大马出现的新贫族，意指那一些薪水为RM2000或以下的打工族，他们的薪水本属中低阶级，但现在变成了低收入群，而在高花费压力下，新贫族变成了他们的代号。

这是因为在通膨压力下，每个月可支配收入变低，因此出现超支现象，平常的娱乐消遣也变成一种奢侈。这群人虽然无奈，但也无可奈何，唯有咬紧牙根继续撑下去。

尽管以阶层来分辨收入群有点不恰当，但唯有那样才能清楚知道本地的低、中及高收入者的平均总数分别。相关阶层的分别也随着首相署部长丹斯里阿米尔山日前的谈话获得清楚归类。

24.3%国人降为贫族

他在谈话中指出，政府已将国内收入低过RM2000的一群，定义为低收入阶层。如果再将收入处于贫穷线的人士与RM1500的低收入阶层算在一起，届时全国24.3%的人民将属此阶层。

另外，如果以大马2700万的人口计算，当中近700万人处于低收入阶层，这样的数据你能不重视吗？

根据大马公积金局（EPF）数据显示，目前收入RM2000以上的会员达28%，但收入RM2000以下的则高达72%，当中收入介于RM1001至RM2000的会员为29%、RM801至RM1000为10 %，RM800或以下的则高达34%。

然而，以储蓄额计算，收入超过RM2000以上的会员高达54%，收入RM2000或以下、801至1000及RM800或以下的群众则分别达21%、10%及5%。

财政部资料显示，大马为数1053万8000工作人口当中，只有120万或11.4%符合缴交个人所得税条件，其中只有3万8500人缴交最高28%，意味着大部份的大马工作者的每月收入为3000令吉或低于相关水平。

根据亚欧美研究针对大马消费情绪所进行的调查显示，每个月收入低于RM2000或被称为低收入的群众将是通膨率高涨下的最大受害者。这是基于相关群众超过三份之二的消费是用于食品、房子、汽油、交通及公用等一些生活必碰事项。

收入未涨‧新贫族趋多

该行担心在通膨率高涨，但收入未涨的情况下，这将导致大马出现越来越多新贫族。至于情况有多严重还未能被确定，但在现有状况下，这已演变成一种社会问题。贫富两端人口的增加也是来自中产阶级的萎缩。

新贫族的出现也为传统的贫穷定义带来冲击。其实他们并不贫穷，只是接近贫穷。传统贫穷是指那些在贫穷线以下生活的人士，新贫穷则是那些无法获取与目前生活水平同等收入的人。

新贫族拥有强烈的不安全感，一般都不符合获得社会援助金条件。实际上很多新贫族是需要政府的援助。

RM2000收入怎么花？

《财富广场》根据单身新贫族每月仅有的RM2000薪金为标准拟定了以下的消费习惯以供参考：

开销事项：支出数额（令吉）

房租：300（吉隆坡及灵市为标准）
饮食：450（一日三餐，每餐5令吉）
车油：450
保险：150（投资联结保单）
日常消费：150
水电费：30
电话费：50
车贷：500
公积金：220（薪水中的11%）
社会保险：10.25（约薪水的0.5%）

总计：2310.25

根据上述开销，每个月的超支数额约RM310，一年的超支数额为RM3720。如果以每年5%的通膨率计算及薪水未有调升的幅度计算，接下来一年的超支数额将达RM3906。

上述开销还未包括娱乐消遣、医药、汽车维修、父母家用、按年汽车保险开销，还有昂贵的泊车费。如果没有缴交车贷的话，相关费用可用来支付未被提及的费用。

以上的开销并不足于让新贫族进行储蓄活动，不管是进行投资、签购其他保险或银行储蓄都好，更甭谈什么置产的打算了。

这是吉隆坡一带单身一族的消费状况，如果薪水低于RM2000的话，整个超支情况将会更加严重，根本无法承受生活的庞大开销。

如果选择公共交通，即可除去车贷及车油开销，也可认为在暂时没必要下延后签购保险费用，每个月的开销可减至RM1210。然而，相关事项的重要性暂且让你自己决定。

另外，新贫族也喜欢进行“分期付款”方式添购自己喜欢的用品，例如手机、电脑及数码相机等。然而，这已直接增加每个月的负担，导致消费超支。信用卡使用超额也是家常便饭。

新贫族一般没有生活消费规划，因此出现的超支现象非常频密。这群人实际上并不怎么潇洒，他们不敢生病、害怕信用卡偿还期限、不喜欢讨论资产问题，遇到深造及结婚等问题时更是抓破头脑。

面对现实勇于改变

如上所述，新贫族的阵容有不断扩大的迹象，但整天坐着等环境改变或加薪也不是好办法。这群人应该先认识这股浪潮的结构性因素，这有助于新贫一族坦然面对现实。

如果你想继续安于现状，可以肯定的是你会过得很惨，你必须即刻做出应对方法。撇开找副业不谈，先从本身的生活着手，看看自己能够改变的范围。

尽管大家总是乐于追捧奢华生活，但也不是一定要有钱才会开心。新贫族想要与这个大时代和平共存，首先必须铲除泡沫经济时代残余的物欲幻想，以免自己不但在物质上相对贫穷，连精神上也一蹶不振。

再来你必须对本身的财务状况要非常清醒，那样方能有效地控制债务。例如，一户人家每月的供款最好不要超过家庭月收入的30%-40%。在这个范围内，家庭财务还比较安全。

当然你也可选择优化负债组合。在负债的情况下要有统筹的考虑，而为了减少利息支出，可以选择利率较低的产品，例如调整贷款期限和贷款种类，当中可以把贷款期限延长，减轻压力。再将节余储蓄，先还清装修和购车贷款，节省利息。

新贫族缺钱、更缺希望！这群人经常处于的美好时光已经消逝，对于未来又缺乏希望。最令他们无法调适的是那种由富而贫的坠落过程。

因此，他们的“心灵贫穷”程度，甚至于远胜实际的贫穷。整个社会也应进行心灵改革，调整唯物、败金主义，同时鼓励高薪阶层在追求物质的同时关怀弱势。

结语

要怎样脱离新贫族呢？没有捷径，只有靠自己的“毅力”去解决。在节省开支的当儿，也要为自己增值，以寻求更佳的出路，那样才得以应付通膨压力。

当然，会成为新贫族也不是完全因为薪水不够花的问题，而是集合打工族本身的消费习惯。如果无法改变自己的恶习，不管你赚多少钱都是逃脱不了这个框框。

要记得，不要总是羡慕别人可赚多少钱，要知道人家背后付出的努力有多少，而赚得多不一定代表最重要，重要的是你可以“存”多少！

星洲日报／财富广场／焦点策划‧2008.07.12

More job losses expected in 2009

2009-01-11T12:59:00.003+08:00

As the country’s real economy continues to take hits from the global financial bear, the question of how Malaysian jobs will roll with the punches is beginning to creep into the forefront after showing signs of weakness towards the end of 2008.

The worst hit will be the manufacturing sector, which has shed more than 10,000 jobs since the beginning of the second half of 2008. The export-driven economy has reported slowing orders in all sectors, especially in electrical and electronics (E&E).

One particularly drastic measure taken since the start of the financial crisis is the closure of Western Digital’s (WD) media substrate plant in Sarawak. If it goes according to plan, some 1,500 workers will find themselves jobless by March.

Citing weaker demand and a more competitive market, the hard-disk manufacturer said earnings were being mauled by the economic tailspin and it needed to restructure to survive. The closure of the plant is the largest job cut in Malaysia that can be directly attributed to the global financial pandemic.

Although the loss of the 1,500 WD jobs pales in comparison to the 533,000 jobs lost in the US for November alone, the lost jobs are worrying because captains of industry are unequivocal that things will get worse in 2009 before they get better.

Case in point is Human Resource Minister Datuk Dr S Subramaniam’s statement earlier this month that at least 4,749 workers would be retrenched in the first quarter of 2009, with the majority coming from the electronics sector.

To put things in context, the manufacturing sector has already retrenched 13,677 workers by the end of the third quarter (3Q) this year with the majority of jobs (10,182) being cut in 3Q, according to Bank Negara Malaysia.

Retrenchment in 3Q08 alone, which stood at 11,561 workers, was up more than three times the number of workers retrenched in 2Q08 (2,821 workers).

What’s worse is that macro trends aren’t promising a quick rebound either — Malaysia’s industrial production index is continuing its decline and the global purchasing manufacturing sentiment is experiencing its steepest drop. The market-leading US Purchasing Managers Index contracted at its fastest pace in 26 years in November.

Data from Japan, the world’s second largest economy, is also indicating a bearish future shrouded in uncertainty. The latest sentiment index for manufacturers, compiled by Japan’s Cabinet Office, was -44.5 in 4Q08 compared to -10 in the previous quarter. This was the fastest drop in its manufacturer’s confidence ever recorded.

With the economy of two of Malaysia’s biggest trading partners in crisis, the prospects of a quick recovery in Malaysia are bleak at best.

Employment likely to be further hit in 2009 as manufacturing slumps
Federation of Malaysian Manufacturers president Datuk Mustafa Mansur told The Edge Financial Daily that the country’s manufacturing sector was not expected to recover until at least 3Q of next year.

In that respect, the forecast of some 4,700 workers being retrenched in 1Q of next year by the human resources minister was a low ball-park estimate, he said.

“I believe that the full impact of the crisis will be felt by the middle of next year,” Mustafa said. “In the first quarter, unemployment would definitely be higher.”

Some of the plants, Mustafa said, employed about 2,000 to 3,000 workers each, so a significant downturn would send retrenchment rates up if their orders remained in the basement.

However, he noted that uncertainty was still the keyword as no one foresaw the pandemic effect of the US credit crisis. As suddenly as the crisis gripped the world, he said, it could also as suddenly end.

“Who would have expected at the start of 2008 that the US economy would tumble down the way it did?” he said. “Manufacturers who supply directly to the US have been hit, as well as those who supply components and parts to manufacturers in other markets such as Japan, Korea, Taiwan and China.”

Another indicator that retrenchment could rise next year is the fact that layoffs had yet to be fully explored as a viable option for companies, said the Malaysian Trades Union Congress (MTUC) secretary-general G Rajasekaran.

Not only was retrenchment expensive for companies, but employers are also reluctant to let go of workers whom they have trained and invested in.

“The companies are uncertain. They don’t want to let their workers go because it is uncertain how much longer the global crisis situation will continue,” Rajasekaran said. “They need them available for when the economy rebounds because things will move very fast then.”

Instead, he added, companies are still trying to institute cost-saving measures such as cutting down on shifts and putting a stop to overtime. This is not to say that employees have not felt the sting of the crisis even if they had so far avoided retrenchment, he added.

“Many of the workers have grown dependent on the extra income from overtime,” he said. “The average is usually about 60-70 hours of overtime a month, which is about 30% of their take-home income. That’s now gone completely.”

Contract workers have also been forced to bear the brunt of the impact as they are the first to go when there is insufficient work for everyone.

Rajasekaran warned that because the dismissal of contract workers was not technically considered “retrenchment”, the number of workers who were out of work could not be accurately estimated from the official numbers.

He said he suspected that the number of workers laid off were higher than the officially reported numbers. Nonetheless, he agreed with Mustafa that the global economic situation would have to improve before manufacturing, and by extension jobs in manufacturing, recovered.

The silver lining was that the current crisis also provided Malaysian manufacturers with the opportunity to restructure and become less dependent on exports for their fortunes, Mustafa said.

“I am a strong believer in import substitution whereby local manufacturers produce homegrown products for the domestic market,” he said. “I hope that with this setback in the economy, enterprises will become more innovative and look to diversifying products in the local economy.”

The government also needed to emphasise the diversity of Malaysia’s export markets so that a similar crisis in future would not affect Malaysia as severely. Malaysia, he said, needed to be more competitive in that respect.

This means reducing the tariffs of utilities, better product promotion and placements, and further stimulus spending.

Protection of local workers a priority
With about 2.1 million foreign workers in Malaysia — about 760,000 of them (36%) employed in the manufacturing sector — local employees are understandably concerned that employers would prefer to retain foreign workers as they tend to work for lower wages.

However, Shamsuddin Bardan, the executive director of the Malaysian Employers Federation, asserted that foreign workers would be the first to go should retrenchment become necessary.

“Our Malaysian workers need not worry very much because, by law, we as employers are required to end the employment of foreign workers first before local employees,” he said.

“We still have to treat them (foreign workers) humanely. We cannot just terminate them without remitting some compensation. We know when they come to Malaysia, they have to spend money to travel and to obtain visas.”

Rather than send them back, he added, they should be allowed to be re-deployed in other sectors where Malaysians were not keen to work in, such as plantations, agriculture and construction. Presently, Malaysian laws governing foreign workers do not allow their re-deployment into other work sectors.

Ultimately, the cost of hiring a foreign worker — by providing housing and other facilities — meant that the cost was equivalent to hiring local Malaysians.

As for the MTUC, Rajasekaran said the union was lobbying for a freeze on the import of foreign workers although many employers had sought and received permits to bring foreign workers in prior to the crisis.

The freeze, he added, would help protect both local and foreign workers. “Many employers, during the good times, sought permits for foreign workers and got approval. So what some of these guys are doing is going ahead to bring them in, but they don’t see the trend.

“They bring the foreign workers in without considering what would happen to them six months down the road when the production demand is no longer there. They’re not thinking about that”.

Rajasekaran said as a labour union, the MTUC had a mandate to protect the rights and welfare of workers everywhere, although local workers had a priority over foreign labour.

by TheEdgeDaily

水多的女人惹人爱

2009-01-09T22:34:00.007+08:00

只知道水很重要，却没有足够认识到水的缺乏，所造成的严重危害，更没有注意到，现代人喝的水，逐渐变成假水，甚至致命的危害。

工业化程度越高的城市，之所以患癌症的机会越高，其中关键的原因就在于空气和水。空气，是个麻烦，但毕竟还能自由地呼吸，还能够有个相对的氧气含量，还没有到不可收拾。（当然这种乐观，也已经难以维系。）

而水，由于来自经过工业处理的管道和水厂的处理方式，却被限制在那里，使你无法遁逃。

水的好坏，取决于水的活性。如果你能认真体会，谁有过用你会发现使用果菜榨汁提供的水，与普通自来水的区别。你可以尝试在榨的果汁中加点水，留意一下，当你把自来水，加到果汁里面，放在那里一会，留意一下，果汁的水和自来水会自动分开，自来水跟果汁的水会自动分成两层，水在下。果汁在上。大自然不接受这样的自来水，这样的水无法和果汁的水完全相融，生物活性完全不同。

你可以观察一下植物的生长。本来植物很需要水，可是却不是直接吸收雨水！而是从泥土中获得水分。为什么要有泥土，请问植物是在水里长的，还是在这个泥土里面长的？就算是水中的水草都是选择从泥土中吸收水分，而不是从河水直接吸收。

植物种植在土壤里，从土壤中吸收水分。为什么先要泥土储存水，然后再让这个植物吸收呢，因为很重要的是，水里面必须要有一些活性成份，才可以真正有利于植物的生长！所以呢，当你把没有活性的开水倒入活性的果汁的水里面的时候，就会自动分开，你会很明显的看到，下面的那层水几乎没味道！这都是水呀，本来都是水，应该溶解在一起的，为什么会自然分开呢？

其实烧开的自来水，基本上是没什么用的，你拿去浇花，花会死，养鱼，鱼会死。你拿来饮用。直来直去的，速度快得很呢。只是用来冲厕所而已，没什么价值的。

有些女人去学美容，说一天要喝八杯水，真的就狠狠心喝得鼓鼓的。其实你喝这八杯水根本是没多少用的，等于冲冲肠道，相当于冲厕所！而且喝进去以后，很麻烦！会带走你体内储藏的养份。所以很多女人喝到虚虚的，你有没有发现喝自来水烧的开水，有一个特点，就是喝完就想上厕所，很明显的。可是如果你喝的是果菜汁，你喝完就不容易上厕所！很久都还不会有急着要去上厕所的感觉，为什么？因为你喝的果菜汁是活性水，所以它会进入肠道，在血液当中循环，循环之后还要进入细胞内去更新交换，然后才代谢出来，这样就要要经过很长时间，出来的水肯定也是脏水，可是如果你喝自来水，喝进去多干净，出来也有多干净，排出来的全是亮亮晶晶的。你还以为很好哇，身体好干净，其实根本就没进去过，那些水就在肠道那里走了一下就出来了，所以你会急着上厕所。如果水在体内循环，是不会那么快就有便意的。所以你这么喝水，怎么喝你的皮肤都还是那么干，还是那么明显的缺水，容易起皱纹、容易起斑。所以对现代人来说，不用喝水了，喝那个水只能够帮你润润嗓子。当然不是完全一点也进不去身体的，也不是完全，还是有进得去的，但那实在太少了，喝了那么一肚子，才进去那么一点点，然后又带走了身体的其他养分，比如钙质、维生素等，有点不划算。所以解决的办法有两种，第一个榨果菜汁，养成习惯榨果菜汁，想喝水就榨汁，这样的水好美，营养丰富，水质干净，矿物质含量高。第二个就直接吃水果，一口渴就吃水果。当然如果你在水里面加一些茶叶，加一些绿茶，这个绿茶里面的霉有办法激活，水里面的活性物质，相对来讲好一点，不过还是不够。

明白一下概念，这个概念看起来简单，其实你知道这一课程里面学习和掌握一些不花钱的好办法，其实说不定是最重要的。比如嘉宾上台讲课，如果你给他喝水。喝开水，或者喝矿泉水。那么对于像我讲一天的课的人来说，我的嗓子很快就会报销了。这样喝水其实是没用的，会造成声带冲血的。这也就是很多教师会得声带小节的疾病的原因。如果我在讲一天的课喝的是果菜汁，那么我就会越讲越兴奋，因为呢这样的真正滋养了我的声带，起到了保护作用。

我们一起读这段话，人体需要，特定数量的化学物质。啊，这是我从一本人体解剖学上摘录下来的，很简单的。人体需要特定数量的化学物质，用于维持某种化学反应的顺利进行，这些化学物质对于人体保持良好的工作状态，是必不可少的，人体内的化学物质与水之间的精确的平衡，总是处于严格的调控之下，换个角度讲当你喝的水不足的时候，人体这些大量的元素就很难被应用，因为身体会调节，不断的调控与水之间的平衡，特定数量的意思是不可修改的，特定的，就是DNA所指定的，是什么就是什么，没办法商量。这些特定数量的元素用于维持某些化学物质的顺利进行，意思是特定数量的化学物质少了任何一种，或着数量减少，那么这些化学反应就不可能顺利进行，这些化学反应如果不能顺利进行，人体就无法进行正常的生化反应来生产人体运转所需要的化合物，身体就不可能保持良好的工作状态，对吗？人体究竟由什么构成的呢？是四十种营养素，这四十种营养素的实际元素大约有二十四种，其中最主要的就是四种，第一个是氢，第二个是氧，还有一个是碳，还有一个是钙，就这四样东西，没有别的，说到底你就是由这些东西构成，你情绪一变化，你体内的氢，氧，氮，碳就会发生变化，马上发生变化，也就是维持你的健康的重要元素。

同时对水的需求是人体内在最大的驱动力之一，这句话意义深远，比如说你看到一个女人，这个女人脸上水很多，水灵灵的，你马上就会慢慢喜欢上她，爱上她都有可能，其实你根本不是爱她你是爱那个水，那个水慢慢抽离之后呢，她就变得干枯，你看着她的感觉就不喜欢她了。所以其实本质上你不是爱那个人，而是爱那个水（大笑），不单只是这样的，你有没有发现你只要站在河水边，海边，湖边，瀑布下，你就特别高兴，同意吗？（同意），人体内大约百分之七十是水，我们身体的水跟大自然的水是亲密的关系，我们会自然而然的想要接近水，实际上也不是我们想亲近，是我们体内的水想亲近，学过物理的人可能注意到水的这种相互吸引的力量。如果说大太阳天气和下小雨天气的体验你会喜欢哪个，我想你肯定会喜欢下小雨，因为你是由水组成的。我们跟水之间是的关系是很奇怪的，那份体验给人带来很深刻的印象，如果你正在生气，你转头看着水，心情会宁静很多。当你生气的时候如果你旁边有一碗水，你生气时候看着那碗水，如果你拿放大镜看，水的水面水的排列结构立刻发生变化，你一生气,水就立刻发生变化，你一高兴水的纹路会很漂亮，有一个摄师是专门干这件事情，他呢就天天去拍那些水的结晶，他在那个水旁边写了一个字，那个字叫做忿怒，结果水的结晶图就变得乱七八糟。他写了一个字叫做高兴，那个水的结晶图就变得很漂亮，他写了个佛字，结果那个水的结晶图就变得很温和，他写的那个英文也是这个样子中文也是这个样子，写这个日本文也是这个样子韩国文也是这个样子，都一回事，他把道家写的那个灵符拿去给水看，那个水立刻发生变化，所以他那本书书名叫做水知道答案，水知道答案，我仔细看了他那个书的其中一部分，我相信他是有道理的，只不过他们那个道理要把他彻底搞明白很得花点心思。

随着年纪增加，年纪越大含水量就越少，所以换一个角度死亡的过程就是丢失水分，死亡的过程就是丢失水分的过程，再换一个角度讲，丢失水分的过程就是迈向死亡的过程，所以你要留意水的质量，水的摄取，和水的存放，水的保存靠什么？水保存要靠脂肪，脂肪才可以装水，所以脂肪在人体的作用呢其实就是水袋，如果没有脂肪相当于这一杯水没有盖子，很容易蒸发掉，如果有脂肪相当于这杯水上面有一层膜盖子，不管温度多高水都不会流失，明白吗？所以摄取脂肪很重要。很多女性不敢吃含有脂肪的食物，这样只会加快衰老。

林海峰

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2009-01-08T01:02:00.036+08:00

Are you 'working poor'?

2009-01-08T01:00:00.003+08:00

The English term "working poor" is used by more and more Chinese netizens on domestic web forums to describe their living conditions. They complain about their heavy workload and the unsatisfactory compensation they receive.

A recent online survey jointly organized by China Youth Daily and New.qq.com showed that 75 percent of 11,351 respondents considered themselves to be working poor, 12.3 percent said they were not, and the remaining 12.7 percent were not sure.

Huang Yanhua is a white collar employee working in a private company in Beijing. She classifies herself without hesitation as working poor. The 26-year-old spends a big part of her monthly salary on clothes and cosmetics. "Looking good can help me win more business opportunities," said Huang, "so even though I work hard, I am still always short of money, and I feel unhappy."

"Many of my colleagues and friends are working poor like me. We are always terribly busy at work and feel that we are just making a living, but not enjoying life," Huang said.

Nevertheless most working poor, including Ms. Huang, believe that this is an inevitable stage in career development, in spite of being uncertain about what the future holds.

Growing desire

Manuel Castells, a world renowned specialist in urban sociology, has analyzed social development in developed countries over the last three decades and has found that the increasing trend of globalization and the diversification of the labor market have resulted in the creation of a class of employee – the biggest constituent of the working poor – whose labor rights and interests and social security conditions receive far worse protection than the core of personnel concentrated in sophisticated technologies. The creation of this population is a widespread phenomenon in post-industrial society.

Liu Bo, a consultant with the Shanghai Academy of Social Sciences, said that although the definition of working poor is a subjective matter, the term was naturally applied with reference to people whose priorities are CPI, income distribution and personal finance.

With reference to the reasons why hard-working but poor people feel inadequately compensated and pessimistic about the future: 60.9 percent attributed it to social pressure and excessive competition; 48.9 percent considered unrealistic professional and lifestyle goals to be a cause; 39.5 percent referred to a low starting point and lack of opportunities; 26 percent believed that working poor are overanxious for quick progress and that this undue haste often leads to feelings of failure; 24.5 percent thought an excessive tendency to conform to be a factor, and others mentioned impatience.

Wang Min, a psychological consultant, said the pressure felt by working poor is largely related to their values. "They would like to use their earning power as a means of self-realization," he said, adding that young people should set long-range goals for their professional careers.

A netizen with a web name of "wangzhe guilai" said people's aspirations rise as their salary increases, and they would work even harder in order to gratify their growing wishes.

However, 14.1 percent of respondents expressed a positive attitude towards the condition of the working poor, believing that they would derive benefit from seeming hardship.

How to escape the net

According to the survey, there are a variety of means used to move oneself out of the working poor. The respondents gave the following examples: recharging oneself or enhancing one's competitive strengths (55.7 percent); making internal adjustments to alleviate work pressure (50.4 percent); setting reasonable and attainable goals (46.5 percent); learning to adapt to society (39 percent).

12.6 percent pointed out that the society needs to be less competitive.

For people struggling in such a competitive society, the ability to face and overcome unforeseen challenges is more important in a sense than the scientific and technical knowledge they have acquired, stressed Prof. Zhou Xiaozheng from the Sociology Department of Renmin University. When seeking their first job, Prof. Zhou suggested, young people would do better to choose work they are interested in, rather than being over-concerned with salary and other material forms of compensation.

Zhou also advocated improvements in social security, which may help to provide fairer employment opportunities and to let working people feel more secure.

(China.org.cn by Zhang Tingting, May 12, 2008)

21世纪最有可能被淘汰的职务

2009-01-07T23:46:00.004+08:00

根据Garment Management的资料中，汇整21世纪最有可能被淘汰的职务，花点时间看完，或许会对您有收获………。

【首先，将遭淘汰的是技术含量偏低的高薪职位者。】
如：人事经理、行政经理、高级秘书等。
这类职务的工作内涵不太丰富，其高薪水准是前些年泡沫经济的产物，也是前些年人才市场上人才总量偏少的缘故造成的。

【其次，是重复性较高的工作。】
一些工作看似复杂，但其实只需学上几年，就能靠老本进行简单的重复劳动。譬如某银行里从事结汇，存放款等办事的人员，实际上这类工作十年经验与三年经验几乎是差不多的，后七年完全是重复劳动。

【第三，是仅掌握单一技能的高薪者。】
目前只有一专多能者（一个主要专长＋很多副专长）方能追逐高薪，而仅有一技之长者如电脑程式师、翻译等职位的高薪者，要保持其高薪收入已是岌岌可危，除非他们紧跟时代步伐，抓准时代脉动，不断强化自身技能。

【第四，是电脑化后，复杂性、风险度、工作难度和大大降低的高薪职位。】
如某些财务经理、生产经理、仓储经理、品保经理等职位原本很复杂的一道道工作成现在开始被电脑的一个个模块过程所逐步替代。

【第五，是技术含量较高的新技术领域中掌握落后技术的高薪人员。】
举例说，靠PC成为电脑人才的高薪收入者，未来若无法进入实力雄厚的大企业领域IBM、AS400或P9000等大型机的新颖技术，最后只能在激烈的市场竞争中被淘汰。

【新定义的薪酬价值观】
传统的学历、背景、努力、能力等薪酬榜准，已逐渐被职能专才及智慧资产所替代，谁能改变市场生态，赢得胜利，他就是价值的代表。
人力资源主管常常在召募新人时，会碰到一个实际又矛盾的问题－－要以什么价值标准来用人呢？
在候选名单中，往往有些人能力就是强，潜力就是好，可惜，薪水太贵，年资又太浅，找进来准会「压死」现职的同仁。在许多的考虑与妥协下，用人又回归过去传统的价值标准：高一点的学历，久一点的专业背景，只为了维持眼睛看得见的公平，只为了在部门内，让现职员工能心服口服。
在这样重重的考虑与妥协下，往往我们放弃了最好的人选，因为，价码太贵，内部无法建立所谓「公平原则」；因为，资历太浅，担心新人压过老人，打击士气。

【你真正的价值在哪里？】
圆山大饭店前总经理严长寿被工会公投罢免下台，其中一个原因是：工会不满他削减员工福利，却高薪聘请两位副总或执行副总进驻公司。从员工的眼光看来，这些领高薪的，或许只会打打高尔夫球，只会交际、应酬，而真正替顾客提供服务的是他们这群实际的执行者，而不是那些坐领高薪的人，在薪资的分配上，是不公平的。
这话说来，似有几分道理，但从薪酬的角度来看，却是错误的，因为薪酬的标准应该建立在真正的价值上。
一个侍者为饭店服务役劳，假设他尽忠职守，作好每个侍者应有的职务动作与提供相对满意的服务，为饭店带来的实际价值是每月六万元，为了犒赏他，饭店每月给予侍者五万五千元薪酬。而被认为坐领高薪的副总成执行副总，或许打高尔夫球，或许交际应酬，但他带来的市场与价值，可能是每月一千万、两千万，那你觉得公司要怎么犒赏他们呢？也是五万五千元吗？从什么价值观点上，才是真正的公平呢？

【职能专才决定你的薪酬】
吃大锅饭？或每人分一瓢羹的薪酬观念？
这些在现今的环境里，已渐渐离我们远去。
举一个有趣的例子来看。假设名节目主持人A与B，就主持能力来讲，或许相当，就长相来讲，也算相当；但两个人的主持价码，却相差悬殊，可能A一集主持费一百万，而B却只有六万。其实他们的差异，就影视版的说法是知名度及卡司价码不同；就薪酬观念是职能专才基（Competence-Based）不同。
经济学的观点说：「有一只看不见的手在操纵着市场。」若你的薪酬价码是五万元，只要有公司也愿意用五万元聘请你，你们就银货两讫－－成交；若你觉得你有五万元的价码，但没有公司愿意以此价码延聘你，你就会在一次、两次、三次的面谈中，把自己的价值妥协至别人可以接受的价位，直到成交为止。
若员工的价值已超过公司能给予的价码，自然地，他会找到符合他薪资期望的公司，然后跳槽。

【智慧资产取代学历背景】
有一个薪资的观念叫薪酬公平论（Equity Theory），每个人在市场的价值，好似一个铜板的两面，一面是你的学历、背景、努力、能力等；另一面则是你的薪资价值。
若铜板的一面重于另一面，市场就会借着自然淘汰或自然流失，来改变这两造差异。薪酬公平论在环境的变迁与市场竞争下，传统一面的学历、背景、努力、能力等等，可能要被职能专才（Competence ）及智慧资产（ Intellectual Capital）所代替。
谁能改变市场生态，赢得胜利，他就是价值的代表。许多人觉得他在公司的价值是「从年轻到现在，这么多年来，我把青春都奉献在此，所以公司应该犒赏我」。
就情感上来说，是的；但若员工二十年前的工作价值和二十年后的工作价值是一样的，为什么公司要付两倍的成本去养一个只要一倍薪水的员工？只因为这个员工没有成长？
个人的薪资标准应该建立在自由市场的价值上。若你在某公司得十万元薪水，但你辞职后，只能找到四万元的工作，这差额代表你用你的年资与忠诚度换来的。
公司经营状况好的时候，你或许能生存；公司一旦遇到危机，你将是优先被考虑资遣的对象。那时，你怨天尤人，觉得时不我予，可能都为时已晚。你对公司的价值，是否是可携带的价值（Portable Value）？这是每个现代员工应仔细去思量的；再被雇用的能力(Employability），考验着职场的芸芸众生。

【懂得运用知识才是真正赢家】
圣经里有一个绝妙比喻：主人要往外国去，就叫仆人来，把家业「按个人才干」给他们银子，一个人五千，一个人两千，一个人一千。领五千的仆人随即拿钱去作买卖，另外赚了五千；领两千的仆人，也照样赚了两千；领一千的仆人则把银子埋藏在地里。过了些时日，主人回来和他们算帐。领五千、两千的仆人，因为为主人增加了财富，受到主人的款待又加派任务。那领一千的仆人则遭主人责骂：「你这又恶又懒的仆人！就是把银子放给兑换银两的人，亦可连本带利收回。」主子便把一千两银子夺回，给了那原先五千两银子的仆人。每个人的价值，有如此例中的五千、两千、一千，你是哪一种呢？

【你的附加价值（Value Added）在哪里呢？】
工业时代，创造机器大量生产，拥有资金、设备，是有形的财富；在资讯网际网路化、组织扁平化的今天，资讯和知识成为竞争利器。谁能改变现有的工作流程，不断地创新，发明更具爆发力的产品，才能为组织带来竞争力，带来利润。或许你从某大学或研究所毕业就非常地自满，但今天所有的学历、背景仅是谋职的敲门砖，犹如五千、两千、一千的才干，真正的职场赢家，是那些学习能力绝佳，知道如何取得知识、储存知识、善用知识并创造奇迹的人。

乞丐生意经

2008-12-21T01:23:00.003+08:00

年薪10万的乞丐给我上了震撼的一课我拎着刚买的levi’s从茂业出来，站在门口等一个朋友。一个职业乞丐发现了我，非常专业的、径直的停在我面前。这一停，于是就有了后面这个让我深感震撼的故事，就象上了一堂生动的市场调查案例课。为了忠实于这个乞丐的原意，我凭记忆尽量重复他原来的话。

“先生……行行好，给点吧。” 我一时无聊便在口袋里找出一个硬币扔给他并同他攀谈起来。

乞丐很健谈。“……我只在华强北一带乞讨，你知道吗？我一扫眼就见到你。在茂业买levi’s，一定舍得花钱……”

“哦？你懂的蛮多嘛！”我很惊讶。
“做乞丐，也要用科学的方法。”他说。
我一愣，饶有兴趣地问“什么科学的方法？”
“你看看我和其他乞丐有什么不同的地方先？”我仔细打量他，头发很乱、衣服很破、手很瘦，但都不脏。

他打断我的思考，说：“人们对乞丐都很反感，但我相信你并没有反感我，这点我看的出来。这就是我与其他乞丐的不同之处。”我点头默认，确实不反感，要不我怎么同一个乞丐攀谈起来。
“我懂得swot分析，优势、劣势、机会和威胁。对于我的竞争对手，我的优势是我不令人反感。机会和威胁都是外在因素，无非是深圳人口多和深圳将要市容整改等。 ”

“我做过精确的计算。这里每天人流上万，穷人多，有钱人更多。理论上讲，我若是每天向每人讨1块钱，那我每月就能挣30万。但是，并不是每个人都会给，而且每天也讨不了这么多人。所以，我得分析，哪些是目标客户，哪些是潜在客户。”他润润嗓子继续说，“在华强北区域，我的目标客户是总人流量的3成，成功几率70%。潜在客户占2成，成功几率50%；剩下5成，我选择放弃，因为我没有足够的时间在他们身上碰运气。”

“那你是怎样定义你的客户呢？”我追问。
“首先，目标客户。就像你这样的年轻先生，有经济基础，出手大方。另外还有那些情侣也属于我的目标客户，他们为了在异性面前不丢面子也会大方施舍。其次，我把独自一人的漂亮女孩看作潜在客户，因为她们害怕纠缠，所以多数会花钱免灾。这两类群体，年龄都控制在20~30岁。年龄太小，没什么经济基础；年龄太大，可能已结婚 ,财政大权掌握在老婆手中。这类人，根本没戏，恨不得反过来找我要钱。”
“那你每天能讨多少钱。”我继续问。
“周一到周五，生意差点，两百块左右吧。周末，甚至可以讨到四、五百。”

“这么多？”

见我有些怀疑，他给我算了一笔帐。“和你们一样，我也是每天工作8小时，上午11 点到晚上7点，周末正常上班。我每乞讨1次的时间大概为5秒钟，扣除来回走动和搜索目标的时间，大概1分钟乞讨1次得1块钱，8个小时就是480块，再乘以成功几率60%[（70%+50%）÷2]，得到将近300块。”
“千万不能黏着客户满街跑。如果乞讨不成，我决不死缠滥打。因为他若肯给钱的话早就给了，所以就算腆着脸纠缠，成功的机会还是很小。不能将有限的时间浪费在无施舍欲望的客户身上，不如转而寻找下一个目标。” 强！这个乞丐听上去真不可貌相，倒像是一位资深的市场营销总监。
“你接着说。”我更感兴趣了，看来今天能学到新的东西了。
“有人说做乞丐是靠运气吃饭，我不以然。给你举个例子，女人世界门口，一个帅气的男生，一个漂亮的女孩，你选哪一个乞讨？” 我想了想，说不知道。

“你应该去男的那儿。身边就是美女，他不好意思不给。但你要去了女的那边,她大可假装害怕你远远地躲开。”
“再给你举个例子。那天cocopark门口，一个年轻女孩，拿着一个购物袋，刚买完东西；还有一对青年男女，吃着冰淇淋；第三个是衣着考究的年轻男子，拿着笔记本包。我看一个人只要3秒钟，我毫不犹豫地走到女孩面前乞讨。女孩在袋子里掏出两个硬币扔给我，并奇怪我为什么只找她乞讨。我回答说，那对情侣，在吃东西，不方便掏钱;那个男的是高级白领，身上可能没有零钱；你刚从超市买东西出来，身上肯定有零钱。” 有道理！我越听越有意思。

“所以我说，知识决定一切！”我听十几个总裁讲过这句话，第一次听乞丐也这么说。
“要用科学的方法来乞讨。天天躺在天桥上，怎么能讨到钱？走天桥的都是行色匆匆的路人，谁没事走天桥玩，爬上爬下的多累。要用知识武装自己，学习知识可以把一个人变得很聪明，聪明的人不断学习知识就可以变成人才。21世纪最需要的是什么?就是人才。”
“有一次，一人给我50块钱，让我替他在楼下喊‘安红，我想你’，喊100声。我一合计，喊一声得花5秒钟，跟我乞讨一次花费的时间相当，所得的酬劳才5毛钱，于是我拒绝了他。”

“在深圳，一般一个乞丐每月能讨个千儿八百。运气好时的大概两千多点。全深圳十万个乞丐，大概只有十个乞丐，每月能讨到一万以上。我就是这万里挑一中的一个 ,而且很稳定，基本不会有很大的波动。”太强了！我越发佩服这个乞丐了。

“我常说我是一个快乐的乞丐。其他乞丐说是因为我讨的钱多，所以快乐。我对他们说，你们正好错了。正是因为我有快乐、积极的心态，所以讨的钱多。” 说的多好啊！
“乞讨就是我的工作，要懂得体味工作带来的乐趣。雨天人流稀少的时候，其他乞丐都在抱怨或者睡觉。千万不要这样，用心感受一下这坐城市的美。晚上下班后带着老婆孩子逛街玩耍看夜景，一家三口其乐融融，也不枉此生了。若是碰到同行，有时也会扔个硬币，看着他们高兴的道谢走开，就仿佛看见自己的身影。”

“你还有老婆孩子？”我不禁大声赞叹，引来路人侧目。

“我老婆在家做全职太太，孩子念小学。我在福田区按揭了一套房，十年分期,还差六年就还清了。我要努力挣钱，供我儿子读大学念市场营销专业，然后子承父业当一个比我更出色的乞丐。”
“我5年前在微硬中华大区做市场策划，2年前升为营销经理，月薪5千。那时按揭了一台1万多的三星笔记本，每个月还款2千，要死要活的。后来我想这样永远也出不了头，就辞职不干了，下海来做乞丐，我愿意做一个高素质的乞丐。”

听完，我激动地说：“你有没有兴趣收我做徒弟……

五年，上班族的一道坎

2008-12-21T01:22:00.005+08:00

上班5年最容易厌倦

　　有调查报告称，职场白领中25%的人心理有问题，其中以工作的第五年最为突出。有人将其称为职场白领的“五年之痒”。无独有偶，台湾一家研究机构近日的一项调查报告也显示，工作的第6—15年是心理压力最大、心情最容易感到忧郁的时期，有人将这10年称之为“灰色10年”。为什么对白领来说，5年是一道坎呢？记者就此采访了北京师范大学心理学院压力管理研究专家张西超。

　　张西超说，职场人士的压力会根据其所从事的行业不同而有所变化。一般而言，IT、广告、媒体等竞争性行业的员工，压力会比较大。他们很容易产生职业倦怠或是职业枯竭的心理。至于从业多长时间会产生职业倦怠，一般来说，压力大的行业可能是两三年，压力小的行业可能是五六年。平均年限应该在5年左右。这种压力下导致的职业倦怠，说它是“五年之痒”，也无可厚非。

　　为什么是第五年

　　张西超说，工作5年左右，人生开始迎来一系列重大的生活主题，比如结婚、生孩子、升职、健康问题等等。许多人在参加工作三五年之内，基本上就解决了生存问题，并开始向更高的需要迈进，如受尊重、被社会接纳、自我实现。这些需要在不同的人心中有不同的地位。如果在目前的工作中得不到满足，比如工作陷入了简单重复，发现自己的未来就是现在大自己几十岁的老人的样子，收入与职务原地打转，或者无论怎样努力，总是不能得到精神上的放松与喘息之机，也没有成就感等等，都会促使一个人滋生“五年之痒”的心态。

　　有了这种心态的人会不自觉地表现出心情沮丧、做事拖拉、喜欢回避问题、不愿承担责任。有的人甚至会出现失眠、头疼、心烦意乱。于是许多人开始琢磨着跳槽，辞职的也多了。留下来的人可能会发现自己比以前爱走神了，对单位的一些事情也忽然显得不十分在乎了……出现这种心理问题，与人的心理能量的耗竭，以及缺少生活动力有关。

　　如何解决“五年之痒”

　　结婚、升迁、生孩子等重大生活事件，往往需要人们重新适应生活。如果没有处理好，平衡压力的能力差，问题就会越来越严重，直至出现抑郁症，患上心身疾病。那么，如果不处理，“五年之痒”会发生怎样的变化呢？一是持续焦虑、抑郁、失眠，严重影响社会功能；二是进一步适应当前的境况，将内心的需要压抑到更深处，表面上看已经适应了目前的生活与工作，但内心的需要或者降格，或者成为情结，成为以后行为的诱发因素。所以，不可对此心态放任自流，要主动干预。张西超认为，需要注意如下几个方面：

　　1.是好好管理自己的压力，平衡工作和生活，分清哪些是重要的，哪些是次要的。

　　2.是年轻人要调整急功近利的心态。对很多年轻人来说，奋斗是生活的主旋律，有为才有位，拼命工作是为了有更好的职位、更多的收入、更高的地位。为此，他们往往把生命中最基本的一些需要，如朋友聚会、业余爱好、跟家人的沟通都忽略了。

　　3.是要避免个人主义。现在很多人团队意识薄弱，认为只要干好自己的本职工作就行。与同事沟通不好，往往影响工作流程；跟上司沟通不好，会影响工作进展；跟配偶沟通不好，则会导致生活上的压力。

　　4.是要有健康的生活方式。要多锻炼身体，保证自己兴趣爱好的发挥。一般来说，工作的头两年，要特别注重充电学习，这样可以有效缓解压力。

　　5.是要保持一种积极的心态。一般来说，有好的心态，在面对困难时，就更容易积极地去解决，并且坚持的时间也长。

　　当目前的工作确实不能再引起自己的兴趣时，慎重考虑后，可以选择自己喜欢的事业去做又或选择可以让你有你想要的生活方式的事业，毕竟工作不是全部，生活才是。

Why do I recommand Network Marketing?

2008-12-18T22:25:00.005+08:00

When I first heard about network marketing, I was against it. But after opening my mind, I began to see advantages that few other business opportunities offer.

E - Employee
S - Self-employed/small business owner
B - Business owner
I - Investor

These four quadrants represents how people make their money.

Most schools train people for the E or S quadrants, and that is great if those are the quadrants in which you want to spend your life. Most MBA programs are training students for high-paying jobs in the corporate world as an E, not a B.

What if you're in the E or S quadrant and you want to change? What if you want to be in the B quadrant? Where do you find the education that trains you for that quadrant? I recommend a network-marketing business. I recommend the industry for people who want to change and get the necessary skills and attitude training to be successful in the B quadrant.

Being an entrepreneur and building a B quadrant business is one of the toughest challenges a person can take on. The reason there are more people in the E and S quadrants is simply because those quadrants are less demanding than the B quadrant. As they say, "If it was easy, everyone would do it."

I meet many people in the S quadrant, the specialist or small business owners, who would like to expand, but they simply lack leadership skills. No one wants to follow them. The employees do not trust their leader or the leader does not inspire the employees to better themselves.

As mentioned earlier, Forbes defined a big-business owner, a B quadrant business owner, as a person who controls a business with more than 500 employees. This definition is why leadership skills are vital for the B quadrant.

Where could you find a business that will invest the time in your education, your personal development and building your own business? The answer is: most network-marketing business.

Building a B quadrant business is not an easy task. So you need to ask yourself, "Do I have what it takes? Am I willing to go beyond my comfort zones? Am I willing to be led and willing to learn to lead? Is there a very rich person inside of me, ready to come out?" If the answer is "Yes," start looking for a network-marketing business that has a great training program. I would focus less on the products or the compensation plans and more on the education and personal development program the company offers.

A network-marketing business is a B quadrant business because it meets several criteria I look for in a business or investment. Those criteria are:

Leverage: Can I train other people to work for me?
Control: Do I have a protected system that belongs to me?
Creativity: Will the business allow me to be creative and develop my own personal style and talents?
Expandability: Can my business grow indefinitely?
Predictability: Is my income predictable if I do what is expected of me? If I am successful, and keep expanding my business, will my income increase with my success and hard work?

Isn't Network Marketing A Pyramid Scheme?
I am often asked if network marketing is a pyramid scheme. My reply is that corporations are really pyramid schemes. A corporation has only one person at the top, generally the CEO, and everyone else below. The following is an example of a typical corporate pyramid:

Compare that to a network-marketing business system:
A true network-marketing business is the exact opposite of a traditional business model. A network-marketing business is designed to bring you up to the top, not keep you down at the bottom. A true network-marketing business does not succeed unless it brings people up to the top.

Additional Points Worth Mentioning
The following are some other points worth mentioning:

Tax breaks increase. By starting a network-marketing business in your spare time and keeping your regular job, you begin to gain the tax advantages of the rich. A person with a part-time business can take more tax deductions than employees can. For example, you may be able to deduct car expenses, gasoline, some meals and entertainment. Obviously, you need to check with a CPA for exact rulings on your situation. And the cost of your CPA is tax-deductible. In most cases, an employee cannot deduct CPA expenses. In other words, the government will give you a tax break for advise on how to pay less in taxes.
Meet like-minded people. One of the advantages I had is that my friends also wanted to be in the B quadrant. When I first started out, most of my E quadrant friends thought I was nuts. They could not understand why I did not want a steady job or a steady paycheck. So an important part of becoming a B is to surround yourself with other people who are Bs and want you to become a B.
Give yourself time. It takes time to be successful in any of the quadrants. Just as it takes time to climb to the top of the corporate ladder as an E, or become a successful doctor or lawyer In the S quadrant, it takes time and dedication to become successful in the B quadrant. It took me years before I built a successful B quadrant business.
Network-marketing companies are patient. One of the beauties of a network-marketing business is that it will invest in you, even if you are not successful.

In the corporate world, if you are not successful in six months to a year, you are often fired. In the network-marketing world, as long as you are willing to put in the time, most companies will work with you in your development. After all, they want you to get to the top.

Leverage the systems that are already in place. These systems are already tried and proven, which allows you to hit the ground running instead of trying to build the internal system of a new company.

In conclusion
After opening my closed mind, I could finally see some of the unique benefits the network-marketing industry offers people who want more out of their lives.
Generally, it costs much less to get started in a network-marketing company than to build a business on your own.

by Robert Kiyosaki

OPPortunity

2008-12-10T21:32:00.007+08:00

Global trends and technology trends plus the change of Industrial Age to Information Age will be wiping out anybody who is still thinking industrial age ideas:

1. Safe secure job.

2. Work hard and company will take care and gives medical caring.

3. Government take care of financial and medical problem.

The following video was contributed by:

Dr. Charles King, Professor of Marketing at the University of Illinois at Chicago which received his doctorate in business administration from Harvard University and both Bachelor's & master's degrees from the University of Texas and owner of Charles W.King & Associates, Management Consultants.

Mr. Tim Sales, a street-smart entrepreneur who has built a company that does over $25 million dollars annually out of 24 countries. with no accounts receivable / payable, no overhead, no inventory and without any employees.

I hope this video can give u a rough idea and I hope you can watch this video patiently if you seriously care about your ~~career~~ lifestyle.

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如果没有梦想

2008-12-03T17:03:00.003+08:00

“做人如果没有梦想，跟咸鱼有什么分别” 不是我说的，星爷说的哈。电影里头不单单只是搞笑，而且也反映了现今人类的各种思维。我也发觉了星爷以前的无厘头搞笑电影逐渐变成居有含义一些了。最近他的电影都描述了一个很普通的人，如何透过拥有自己的梦想，然后去行动付出，当然过程也绝非非常顺利。我也发觉很多的朋友，梦想是有，不过就是不原意行动付出。不外乎就是两种他们自己都不大想承认的理由：懒惰，惧怕。

不習慣的時候就是成長的時候

2008-11-28T11:57:00.001+08:00

一只鯛魚和一只蠑螺在海中，蠑螺有著堅硬無比的外殼，鯛魚在一旁讚嘆著說：

『蠑螺啊！你真是了不起呀！一身堅強的外殼一定沒人傷得了你。』

蠑螺也覺的鯛魚所言甚是，正洋洋得意的時候，突然發現敵人來了，

鯛魚說：『你有堅硬的外殼，我沒有，我只能用眼睛看個清楚，確知危險從哪個方向來，然後，決定要怎麼逃走。』

說著說著，鯛魚便”咻”的一聲游走了。

此刻呢，蠑螺心裡在想，我有這麼一身堅固的防衛系統，沒人傷得了我啦！

我還怕什么呢！便關上大門，等待危險的過去。

蠑螺等呀等的，等了好長一段時間，也睡了好一陣子了，

心裡想呢：『危險應該已經過去了吧！』也就樂著，想探出頭透透氣時，

冒出頭來一看，扯破了喉嚨大叫：『救命呀！救命呀！』

此時，牠正在水族箱裡，對面的是大街，而水族箱上貼著的是：『蠑螺××元一斤。』

此時，不知你的感想如何，這篇禪學寓言告訴我們：

過分封閉自己或膨脹自我的人，都將喪失自我成長的機會，自陷危險之境而不自知！

同樣的道理，你也聽過煮青蛙的故事吧，當把一個青蛙放進一鍋燒得滾燙的開水中時，牠一下子就會從裡面跳出來，

但是把青蛙放在溫水里，然後在鍋底下慢慢加溫，青蛙在溫水裡自由地游泳，當水溫慢慢升高的時候這個青蛙絲毫沒有感覺，

當牠感覺到不舒服想跳出來的時候，雙腿已經沒有力量--它被煮熟了！

面對改變，我們時常會覺得有些不習慣，或者感覺有些壓力，甚至是恐懼，可是我要告訴你：『這正是你成長的時刻！』

如果你不想接受這些不習慣或者壓力，那麼就去做你原來一直都在做的、一直都習慣做的事情，當然你也將一直是過去的你。

若想要真正成長，那就要突破舒適的範圍，也就是要暫時的失去安全感......

所以，當你感覺自己有些不習慣，有些緊張或者壓力甚至是恐懼的時候，起碼要知道，你正在成長.......

你坐对位置了吗?

2008-11-26T10:30:00.001+08:00

人生本来就有几种活法，端看你如何选择。当然你也可以多重选择，最后达到你理想的『定位』。但若没有『想法』或者不能认清『事实』的人，将注定任人宰割，前途暗淡。

而所谓的定位大致可分为以下两种：

被用：

世界上百分之九十五以上的人都属于此种定位，而且还非常习惯于此种定位，结果当然不太可能很富裕，而且通常较无保障。百分之九十五的人格特质：在此仅指相对的，而非绝对的（非CEO或公司及单位主管）。

一、比较喜欢稳定的工作环境。
二、未雨绸缪的警觉性低，容易失去敏锐度。
三、由于每天工作的性质大同小异，热情度也较容易降低。（但多劳多得，论件计酬的业务员除外。）
四、除科技层面较高的工程师、设计师，或广告创意人外，大多都缺乏创造力。
五、常抱怨工作量大、繁忙、压力大而收入不高的倾向。
六、平时因工作太忙、太累，相对的使自己成长的空间降低；而淘汰的机率却增高（即加速淘汰率）。
七、平时因极少变化，使得依赖性与安逸性提高，而应变能力却降低。
八、斗志较低。
九、知足常乐，常保『不贪心』的态度。
十、最惧怕『改变』（『升迁』除外）与挑战。

兼具被用及用人：

世界上只有百分之五以下的人属于此种定位，结果当然是相对比较富裕且有保障。（包括：老板、企业家、企业CEO、企业主管及单位主管等）凡是可支配，或管理人、用人者均属此类。百分之五的人格特质：是属于能掌握自己命运并开创自己未来的人，他们懂得结合众人的智慧，开创众人未来。

当然凡事没有绝对，只是相对的机率比较大一点。因此若你选择的定位是被用的百分之九十五，请尽量接受其可能的结果，不要抱怨。若你不想落到此区域，就必须有所改变，哪怕先是『被用』，但有一天一定要能『用人』──当然是越早『决定』越好。

学

2008-09-30T17:55:00.003+08:00

当我毕业了，我才了解到什么是学。

之前在学校所学的，根本都不是为了自己在学，而是为了别人在学习。

学习如何帮人打工。。所以才有了专业人士的称号。

现在，真的很高兴因为我所做的一切，都跟我有关系。

我不需要老板帮我定上我本身的价值，我要由我自己来决定我到底值多少。

我要做一只野猪，一只能够到处在森林里乱闯自由寻找食物及一边结识更多同伴的野猪，

也不要做一只家猪，一只只能在围栏里依靠畜猪者分发的食物为生且不知什么时候等着被斩的家猪.

Life Changing

2008-08-20T22:26:00.002+08:00

After a long long vocation away from blogger, now i'm back. Yeah, my previous post was a long time ago - around 1 and half year + lolz.

Okay, now i had finished my studies in MMU on June. So many of friends, relatives will be asking me: "Buddy, found your job d?" Before 1 month ago, i answered in this way: "Ops, not yet. Still plan to have more honeymoon before stepping in the reality of working environment." During my honeymoon, there was a primary schoolmates gathering and before the gathering i managed to contact of my good friend and asked to join us. But he can't join us because of running his business during weekend. At the same time he introduced his parent to talk with me about the business. After that, i joined them as a business partner. Yeap, it is partnership and not employment. Attended few seminars, meetings and talks. I am able to think and willing to plan on my future. hehe but a lot of sounds that saying i was being brainwashed. It's ok, I don't mind because they still haven't open their mind and I know what i am doing. Some of them thaught i am crazy, taking risk, wasting time - wasting my current time and wasted my 5 years studies in University. Yes, I am an engineer which holding a degree certificate.

After 1 month, when people asking me about job seeking, i will answer them: "I am not gonna find a job but look for a chance." most of them will be giving me an question mark on their heads and walk away, and few of them will be asking: "What chances are u talking about?" I am glad that some of my friends wil be asking me about the chance because they are willing to find out what is the chance. Therefore, i told them: "It is a chance to build your own business." After telling them what is that actually, few of them walk away because their mind were closed and they did not want to hear anymore.

During the first month, i am not trained to sell products or earn money as the first objective. The people who are successful in the business are teaching something that other traditional business companies do not teach. Some of the more important real life busines subjects they teach are:
1. Attitude of success
2. Leadership skills
3. Communication skills
4. People skills
5. Overcoming personal fears, doubts and lack of confidence
6. Money management skills
7. Time management skills
8. Goal setting
9. Systemization

The training is of great value for the rest of my life. Suddenly, i felt that my life is changing slowly..

Christmas

2006-12-29T04:38:00.000+08:00

Went to Sungai Wang to count down for Christmas but surprisingly not much fun there. No official count down, no stages, no singers, no fire crackers but only have those crazy peoples who spraying the snow-like things like don't really need money to buy it. Anyway it is not important how to celebrate it but is whom u celebrated with Hehe. Here are some photos took in Timesquare after having our Chicken buffet. and the last one was took in Wangsa Maju's BRJ after count down, with Eric's friends.

i wish i could have...

2006-12-19T16:31:00.000+08:00

Christmas is around the corner d. It is on Monday.. not a very good time for going back hometown coz most probably Monday i will be in the bus on the way back to Cyber. So there's my Christmas in the bus >.<". what i gonna wish for in this year's Christmas leh.. Uncle Santa, i wish i could have Christmas everyday so that i can make wishes everyday too >:)))) so this is my first wish then the later i will just think of it other days xD.

o since last 2 years i been seeing a lot of people write or type Christmas as X'mas or Xmas. It is Christmas ok. what the hell u short form it as X'mas.. it really losing the true meaning of the day itself. What is the meaning of Christmas? Dude, please google around. Lazy? ok let me help u this time: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Christmas

ok Another set of 10 pics during the Melaka trip:)

The famous Chicken Rice Balls :D Looks like fish balls right? haha

The White Snake Tale?

Flowers in front of The Red House

Those tourist kacau kacau there. Don't u all see a photographer taking pic?! xD

The 5 words = Gu Cheng Ji Fan Li (Melaka Chicken Rice Ball)

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The building and the SKY

Yeah yeah this is the real SKY. LOL

Untitled too.

More pics is coming up!~ don't miss it :))

continued..

2006-12-17T01:32:00.000+08:00

ok another set of pics coming up!

The champagnes in Eric's House. He bought 21 for his party!!~
Let's have some shots for them before it goes to my stomach ^^

i want the red one!!

BBQ in action!!

First time drink susu lembu in mamak! cun~

Cendol with gula Melaka = cun also lah~ haha

Not really special drink la~

yum yum~ chicken!!! omg.. hungry again =.=

More pictures coming up ~

Melacca Trip

2006-12-15T00:19:00.000+08:00

woah~ long time never drop some rubbish here d. ok.. just wanna share with u all my recent life. Last weekend, went to Melacca for celebrating Eric's Birthday and went for few famous places passingly during noon - evening time. Yes, definitely enjoy the views and of course the foods there.. omg.. suddenly hearing some drum sounds from my greedy stomach >.<"

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To be continue ... ^^

凉爽

2006-11-12T16:26:00.000+08:00

最近天气真的超爽哈哈。。烟雾没了，且天天下雨，晚上睡觉也跟着一起爽。不过扫兴的是那些蚊子，吸人血好像吸空气酱，不用本，乱吸一通。哦，对了，前几天买了台电脑。这个月可以减肥了哈哈。。穷 -_-||| 说实在的这个学期也满闲的因为只拿最多两科（还有一科还没注册）。好啦，来看图吧~

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Flowers before the imminent haze attack

2006-10-10T13:13:00.000+08:00

Some flowers shooting before the haze, nice sunlight source and some image tweaking. Commetns are welcomed :D

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Another Trimester Ended

2006-10-07T22:45:00.000+08:00

ya.. been awhile that never come and sit sit and chitchot around already. Assignments, Midterm Tests and Finals that reallly bothered me to come and write something. I'll only blog while i am relax from any disturbance (Mostly come from school works) Buthen i still felt that i'm quite relax while having assignments and midterm tests but not for finals. Finals really killed me feckly because i was having 4 papers in the first 3 days of exam week. Gardame staffs that arranged those hellish exam schedule for me. =.=||| Fortunately i'd passed the hard time and now relaxing and blogging here :))

This few days the haze is quite serious in Cyberjaya. About 100 API that reaches unhealthy level. Those harum-scarum xxx burned the forest to gain benefit for themselves and never think of the issues of air pollution. I'm not really understand what are their brain fill with.. Sigh, maybe they just wanna earn to cram themselves with food. Sorriness but unpardonable for their doing.

Let's take a look how serious the haze in Cyberjaya this few days (taken by me):

Haze 1

Haze 2

Today the sky got better and handsome look than yesterday :D
Normal 1

Normal 2

Normal Sunset

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It has been 43 days since the first day we started. Hope we can manage our relationship nicely. Cheers~ :D

National Day

2006-09-01T17:05:00.000+08:00

生日快乐了，老马。

有新的照片了大家来看一看吧~ 那是我在一部名为《新山之夏》当klayfeh时拍摄的。满辛苦的。从凌晨拍到第二天的下午。。垮了。由于技术问题，这个星期天要多来一轮。输了。。 -.-

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Photography session

2006-08-28T16:02:00.000+08:00

好啦。我已经上传了人像及瀑布照。欢迎任何意见和批评。Comments and Critics are welcomed ;)

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